I have always had such a strong passion when it comes to wanting to be accepted, or feeling as if I am being accepted in others’ lives. I feel at first, it started with not getting my parents’ acceptance. Being a twin and having an older sister is never simple. I tended to feel like […]

Acceptance — The life of a dreamer.

Many people, especially targets of bullying, will have an overwhelming urge to people-please. Why? There are several reasons:

1. Fear of being harmed

2. Self-preservation

3. The desire for approval and to be liked.

Therefore, targets of bullying want to be likeable because they think it will protect them. Sadly, they think that the only way to likeability is to be agreeable.

However, you can never be agreeable one hundred percent of the time. It’s just not humanly possible. Also, being too agreeable can have the opposite results of what you’re aiming for. Being too agreeable can cause you to lose respect and for others to see you as a pushover! Yikes!

Moreover, there are times when it just isn’t smart to be “likeable.” Sometimes you must, in a sense, kick a little bit of booty.

So, how do you retrain your brain against the urge to people-please?

You start by asking yourself these questions:

1. Do you do it to get approval and be liked?

2. Is your people-pleasing a way to get others to validate you?

3. Do you people-please because you feel you need to prove your worth to people?

4. Do you do it because you want to be accepted or included?

5. Are you attracting users and abusers by this behavior?

6. Are you doing it out of fear?

There’s nothing wrong with being good to people and helping them out. However, you can do it for the wrong reasons. As a result, you can find yourself getting the opposite of what you want out of it.

For instance, you may attract those who only use and abuse you. Understand that bullies and other such unsavory people will sniff you out. And they’ll use you for their own ends.

Therefore, this is why people-pleasing is never good.

No. It won’t be easy to rewire your brain and break this bad habit. Learned behavior is not only difficult to change, but it takes time, sometimes years. However, it can be done.

With knowledge comes power!

The universe fights you
It wants to smite you
The harder you try
The more things go awry
But you’re stubborn
You won’t stop sudden
You refuse to give up
Determined to fill your cup
No matter what Uni throws
Your determination only grows
You keep working, working
While Uni keeps hurting hurting
Until you wear Uni out
One, two, three, Uni finally taps out
Then your success comes about

UPDATE! I’m back online using the data on my phone from another carrier, however, it’s slow as a snail!🐌🐌🐌 And the signal dies at times because we live in a rural area and the nearest tower isn’t close enough to get a good signal! Therefore, I may not be on as often. But I’m back on and that’s what matters! So, if it takes me longer than usual to respond to you, please bare with me.

Blessings!

Hey, guys! I’m sad to inform you that my internet has gone out today. The only way I’m able to write  this message is because I’m using someone else’s devise that has a different service.

I have talked to my internet provider and the soonest appointment they had for me to have a tech to come to my home is August the 20th. 💔 Therefore, I won’t be able to respond to any comments or read any posts until then or after, depending on what they find and how long it takes for them to fix it.

Know that I apologize for the inconvenience. I’ll miss you all.

Sending lots of love. 💞

Cherie

UPDATE! I’m back online using the data on my phone from another carrier, however, it’s slow as a snail!🐌🐌🐌 And the signal dies at times because we live in a rural area and the nearest tower isn’t close enough to get a good signal! But I’m back on and that’s what matters! So, if it takes me longer than usual to respond to you, please bare with me.

Blessings!

Ladies and Gents, this is the first Q & A post for this blog. Here’s how this works: If you have a question that pertains to bullying or abuse, please type your question below. I will answer as promptly as possible.

Millions of people struggle with bullying every day, all the time. Therefore, it is natural that they long to know why such things are happening to them. However, it’s not the only question that nags at them.

It goes much deeper.

Moreover, they want to know what drives people to bully and where the behavior comes from. Unfortunately, this requires doing a deep dive into the depths of human nature and behavior, dark psychology, and learning about different mindsets and attitudes. Furthermore, it also involves getting the background information on a few individual bullies in your life to get a broader picture.

Sadly, this is time consuming and often takes many, many years of study and research but you’re in luck! I’ve done that for you!

Please don’t be afraid to ask any question pertaining to bullying. Remember, the only stupid question is the question you don’t ask. And with knowledge comes empowerment!

While the storm clouds gatherFar across the seaLet us swear allegianceTo a land that’s freeLet us all be gratefulFor a land so fairLet us raise our voicesIn a solemn prayer God bless America,Land that I love.Stand beside her, and guide her,Through the night with the light from above. From the mountains, to the prairies,To the […]

God Bless America — Clever Journeys

Wishing you all a great holiday as we shoot off our fireworks and eat our barbecue. While we celebrate, let’s not forget the men and women who gave their lives to ensure our continued independence.  Therefore, remember that freedom isn’t free. Our fallen heroes bought and paid for it with their blood.

I thank The Lord above for His Hand of Blessing over this nation. I also thank our fallen heroes for the sacrifices they made to keep this country free and independent!

God bless America! Let freedom ring!!!

When you’re able to pick up on the vibes of the people around you, you have a gift. And it can be a godsend to targets of bullying.

Imagine that you’re able to feel other’s energy and sense their moods and auras! It’s great because it warns you ahead of time that negative people are nearby. Therefore, it gives you the cue you need to steer clear of them. In that, it gives you the chance to avoid harm before it happens.

However, the sensations themselves don’t feel good.

In life, there will be many people you meet from whom you’ll pick up some yucky vibes. In other words, you’ll notice that something just doesn’t sit well when you encounter such people. These feelings and sensations are always physical- you usually feel them in your body, most often, your stomach.

In cases like this, your body is like a radio tower that picks up frequencies, and it doesn’t lie.

When you pick up negative vibes, you’ll get that sick feeling in your stomach. Sometimes, you even get that cold, creepy shiver up your spine. You’ll feel as if the hairs are standing up on the back of your neck.

What’s best for you doesn’t always feel or taste good.

Paying attention to these not-so-good feelings is like taking a spoonful of medicine when you’re sick. No, it doesn’t taste good. In fact, many kinds of medicine taste downright nasty. However, if you’ll just hold your nose, put the spoon in your mouth, and swallow the concoction, you’ll feel so much better later.

In other words, if you’ll pay attention to those bad vibes instead of ignoring them, you’ll be able to excuse yourself from the encounter and avoid a potential attack. You’ll also be able to better avoid the suspicious person in the future.

Then, once you’re away from them, you’ll feel so much better, not to mention, safer. Also, you’ll feel so proud of yourself knowing that you likely dodged a bullet.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

Not only have the tyrants at Automattic blocked me from liking or following the blogs I like, but they have now prevented the bloggers whose blogs I read and comment on from seeing me in their notifications. I’ve also discovered yet another blogger who is in the same predicament. I hate to say it, guys, but if they’ll do it to me, they’ll do the same to you too. Just give them time. Beware and be aware.

I can’t tell you how sorry I am that I can’t follow or like anything right now. And I don’t know how long they intend to keep my hands tied nor if they ever will release me from this prison of theirs. Sadly, freedom of speech is a thing of the past. I’m beginning to despise technology and wouldn’t care if Big Tech was taken down.

I can tell you this. I will not stop blogging and they’ll have to do better than this to get me to quit.

Sorry for the rant, guys. I’m just tired of the censorship and other childish nonsense these “techies” are doing to the rest of us. No, I’m not being cencored per se. Nevertheless, my ability to show my appreciation for other bloggers is severely limited. Therefore, it presents a restriction of freedoms. The only thing I can say is that the people behind this nonsense are evil. They are the bullies I’ve been warning about for the past six years.

God bless you and I love you! ❤️

Mike says he appreciates all the prayers and well-wishes. He’s doing better now and it’s not as bad as the doctors originally thought. They are releasing him to go home! Praise God!

Thank goodness the tests came back and he doesn’t have CHF! And his kidneys are functioning much, much better- no kidney failure! He does have a small blood clot in his leg and in the lungs. The doctor has doubled up on his blood thinner dosage to dissolve the clots and they’re not bad enough to warrant surgery.

Just thought I’d give everyone an update. We can’t thank you enough for the prayers! They are working!

For those of you texting, commenting, and asking for updates, I’m so sorry it took me so long to get back to you. Things have been hectic lately. Know that although I may not respond straight away, I will get back to you. I love you all! And we can’t thank you enough for all your prayers, love, and well-wishes!

We love you all! 💖

Good morning, my blogger friends and readers. I hope this post finds you all well. Last night, my husband Mike was admitted to the hospital for cellulitis and possible Congestive Heart Failure. He also told us that it looks like Mike also has DVT (Deep Vain Thrombosis) and possible kidney failure.

The good news is that there hasn’t been a confirmed dx yet so we choose to think positive and leave it in the hands of God.

His legs are swollen so badly that the excess fluid is seeping through his skin. Last night his socks and pants legs were soaked through. Please pray for a complete recovery. We know that God is the Greatest Healer.

Thank you so much. I’ll see you all soon.