Month: November 2021
Strength of Character
Bikers Against Bullies Stand Up for Bullied Girl in Texas
WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU, “YOU AIN’T WORTH S**T”, YOU TELL THEM THIS… — BE BLESSTIFIED!
Minister Aldtric Johnson of the “Be Blesstified” blog is a talented blogger and this is a must read for anyone who is a target of bullying. Not only is his post packed with truths that we don’t often think about, but it’s also pack with good humor! I can tell you that not only did I learn a few things, but I was in stitches as I read it! So please take the time to read the post below, you’ll be so glad you did!
Don’t worry, I’m not going rated ‘R’ on you but, I really think this is going to bless someone. This is a much too common insult in our culture, and yes, the bad grammar is always intentional… “You ain’t worth s**t! Of course, implying that someone doesn’t have the value of feces, crap, refuse, doo-doo, […]
WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU, “YOU AIN’T WORTH S**T”, YOU TELL THEM THIS… — BE BLESSTIFIED!
Being Selective
Doing What Ya Gotta Do is Sometimes Doing What You Wouldn’t Normally Do
Anytime you’re bullied, you become desperate and will go to any means to take the bad spotlight off yourself. Many times, I would pit a few of my classmates against each other. If I knew of a few who disliked or hated each other, I’d very quietly and slyly pit them against each other.
An offhand comment here, another there, and I’d have them fighting among themselves. Yeah, I know, it was a shady thing to do. However, if I could keep them fighting among themselves, then I could distract their attention and hostility away from me and thus, keep the spotlight away!
Again, when you’re chronically bullied like I was, you’ll do anything and I mean anything to get a nice, albeit short, a reprieve from all the drama. And sometimes, “ya gotta do what ya gotta do” to keep yourself safe- even though it isn’t necessarily the right thing to do.
I understand. You never set out to cause anyone harm. You don’t want to cause discord. However, sometimes you’ll do what you normally wouldn’t do to protect yourself. So, if you have to, keep them too busy fighting each other to even think about you, I completely understand your position. Your only goal is to keep yourself safe!
Sometime later, I’ll give you more detailed pointers on how I did it.
Until next post! Stay safe and stay well!
Bikers Support Bullied Young Man
Freedom of Choice Must Include This Or It Doesn’t Exist
What is freedom of choice if there isn’t freedom to refuse? Without freedom to refuse, the idea of freedom of choice is not only an illusion, it’s a blatant falsehood.
Freedom of choice cannot exist without the freedom to refuse. The two must either coexist or neither one exists.
Social Intelligence Trumps All
28 Affirmations That Help Boost Confidence and Self-Esteem
I love being me – positive affirmation – handwriting on napkin with a cup of coffee
Affirmations That Help Boost Confidence and Self-Esteem
NOTE: Parts of this blog post references the following:
(“Stopping Wife Abuse,” Jennifer Baker Flaming, 1979, p.64)
(“The Verbally Abusive Relationship,” Patricia Evans, 2010, p.149)
1.I am not to blame for being bullied.
2. I am not the cause of someone else’s abhorrent behavior.
3. I deserve to be free from bullying and abuse.
4. It is okay for me to say “no” to what I don’t like nor want.
5. I do not have to take it.
6. I am important.
7. I am worthwhile.
8. I deserve to be treated with respect.
9. I have the power to create a good life for myself.
10. It’s okay for me to take care of myself.
11. Only I can decide what’s best for me.
12. I’m not alone. I have people who love me.
13. I am worth fighting for.
14. I deserve to be safe.
15. I deserve to be happy.
16. I am beautiful.
17. I am smart.
18. I am a good person.
19. I can live my life the way I want and on my terms.
20. I am loved.
21. It’s okay to love myself.
22. It’s okay to celebrate myself.
23. It’s okay for me to make mistakes.
24. It’s okay to put myself first.
25. It’s okay to protect and defend myself.
26. It’s okay to ask for help.
27. My life matters.
28. I matter.
How Bikers Helped Bullied Young Man Stop Bullying
Life’s Most Embarrassing Typos
I’m sure we’ve all accidentally posted typos that were downright embarrassing and once we read it after it was too late, we slapped our foreheads if if we’d “had a V8.”
Here’s my story:
While blogging recently, I replied to a thank you post from one of my readers, typing, or should I say, meaning to type,
“My pleasure, honey.” and sent the reply.
Feeling satisfied with what I’d typed (or what I’d thought I typed), I rose from my computer chair and went to the wash room long enough to load the washer with last weeks dirty clothes.
Once I started the wash, I came back to my computer. I looked on the screen and when I saw it, my mouth dropped and chin fell to the floor as I jumped with shock!
I had accidentally typed,
“My pleasure, horny.”
I could feel my cheeks sting and my face turn 10 shades of red. My mind screamed, “Oh, Lord! I did not!
My mind went into a panic as I wondered how many people had seen it in the time it took for me to get up, go load the wash, turn it on, and come back. This is language I don’t normally use. So, you can imagine how I was scrambling on my keyboard and typing feverishly to edit that reply!
Once the reply was corrected and saved, I could only breathe a sigh of relief. Now that it’s over, I can only laugh. I think it’s healthy to poke fun of yourself sometimes.
How many of you have accidentally made embarrassing typos like this? Feel free to comment below. Let’s make it fun!
The Narcissistic Flip
Dealing with Bullies Who Have Anger Issues
Many bullies have anger issues. If you’re a target of these types of bullies, I want to warn you that things can get dangerous very quickly. These overly aggressive bullies will make you pay dearly when you don’t bow down and let them have their way with you. And they usually come back at you with explosive outbursts of rage, vicious cursing, and name-calling.
This kind of person is like a petulant child throwing a temper tantrum. Bullies of this caliber will:
1.turn red-faced, curse and scream at you to the top of their lungs,
2. call you the vilest names
3. hurl objects at you from across the room.
4. destroy your personal property
Retro Emoji rage anger boiling woman face pop art retro style
Many of my classmates were these types- people who had only reached a two-year-old’s maturity level and stopped there. It seemed that when I wouldn’t be their puppet, they’d get physical and try to beat me into submission.
Understand that these kinds of bullies can’t ask for what they want respectfully because, if they do, they’ll only be giving you the freedom to say no. They would give you a chance to cut those puppet strings. Then where would that leave them?
It would leave them without a target.
Some of them will threaten you with:
1. “If you don’t do this, I’ll kick your a**.”
2. “If you say that, I’ll beat the sh** out of you.”
And some may not. But! You know the threat is there because these bullies will give you that threatening look or they loom just a little too close to intimidate you. Their body language speaks for them. Their nostrils will flair like a bull getting ready to charge, or they face you with a threatening stance while clenching their fists. They are the classic bullies.
Realize that overly aggressive bullies are so afraid of losing control of you. They react with rage if you don’t comply or take the abuse.
As I type this, I think about one bully, in particular, I’ll call her Kitty.
If there’s one thing I remember about her, it’s her volatile temper. During the eighth grade, I remember standing in the lunch line, and Kitty shoving me from behind and screaming at me to move. She pushed me so hard that she almost knocked me to the floor.
I don’t know what came over me that day, but people had bullied me for a few years, and I finally got fed up. I shouted back, telling her to keep away from me and not to ever put her hands on me again. Suddenly, her eyes flashed, and she grabbed a steak knife from the utensil section. Back then, schools used real silverware, not plastic cutlery. And she lunged at me with it.
To this day, I can still remember the white-knuckled grip she had on the potential weapon. Luckily, the principal and several male teachers grabbed and restrained her before she could attack. And mind you, Kitty was a huge 200+ pound, and close to six feet tall gargantuan. I was only, maybe, 110-120 lbs and five foot three or four. So, she could’ve done considerable damage without the knife. Lord knows what she would’ve done with it.
Then, there was the incident in the principal’s office after she’d tried to attack me in the classroom when she went berserk and grabbed the principal’s nameplate off his desk and charged me with it. Luckily, the principal and another teacher restrained her.
So, I want to warn you that, yes, such people exist and they’re dangerous. It’s best to avoid these types of bullies if possible. However, understand that overly-aggressive bullies are the type who will also hunt you down if you’re not available.
Kitty was that type. You couldn’t avoid her for long.
If a bully tracks you down, I can only tell you this. If the school won’t punish these crazies, the best thing to do is document the bullying and keep a journal of it, using the 5W rule. You should also contact the police and get a restraining order against these kinds of bullies. In doing these things, you establish records of past abuse, and these records can serve as evidence in court in the event the person maims you, or worse. You may also need to transfer schools to ensure your safety.
Do everything you can to take care of yourself and stay safe.