Even the best and kindest of people can help bullies to destroy a target. Oh yes! It’s true!
Many times, good people are either scared or duped into joining bullies in destroying targets. Understand that your bullies have either intimidated or lied to these people until they finally succeeded in turning them all against you.
What’s worse? These people really and truly do not believe they’re bullying you. They don’t see it as meanness and an attempt to cause another human being to suffer intense pain. People who willingly join with bullies and take part in torturing and tormenting another person do not think that what they’re doing is evil and sadistic. No.
What these people believe is that what they’re doing is good and morally right. Remember that you’ve been labeled immoral. Bullies have painted you as an evil adversary who needs to be punished.
Although the reality is that you’re totally innocent and wrongly persecuted, perceptions (opinions and attitudes) are everything, and bullies can easily distort others’ perceptions to fall in line with their narratives. And sadly, everything in life is based on appearances, and no one cares about what’s behind them.
Understand that, one by one, the “good” people will be sucked into the bullies’ smoke screens. And, one by one, they’ll join forces with the bullies in defeating “the evil enemy.”
These good people will gradually distance themselves from you. Then, little by little, they’ll join in the gossip and defamation of your character.
Again, these bystanders and witnesses don’t see what they’re doing as bullying. They genuinely believe that what they’re doing is a good thing- they’re only doing it for the greater good- the good of the school, alumni, and staff. They’re doing it for the sake of the company and people in it. They’re only showing loyalty and trustworthiness to the group. They’re heroes.
I want you to realize that this is how good people do bad things to innocent people. When this happens, the fact that you’re innocent and undeserving of the abuse and brutality just doesn’t come into it.
Also, understand that there are benefits that come with siding with a group against “the enemy” and few people will forgo those benefits.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Complicity brings just as much guilt as doing the doggone dirty deed itself. 😲 When you think about it Cherie, you’re still giving the bully power by remaining silent. Very good post this morning my dear! 👏🏼✨💐
Thank you so much, sweetie! 💖💐🌹And you’re so right. When people join in or stay silent, they’re just as guilty and lowdown as the bullies themselves. 💯🎯 It’s not what you say and do. Many times, it’s what you don’t.
AMEN girlfriend! AMEN!!! 💯😣😵
This post hits home!!!! I was just talking about this with a close friend of mine. When someone is upset with you they will then say and do whatever they can destroy someone’s character. so childish! Great post
Thank you so much, Bella. And you said it, girl. Only when someone, who claims to be your friend, gets POed at you, does the truth come falling out! 💯🎯
Wow, really awesome. Thank you!
You’re most welcome. 😊🤗