Victims often pick “friends” who only tolerate them or those who wish them ill will because they’re often lonely and desperate. For so long, they have been wrongly alienated from others due to rumors and lies that bullies have spread about them to keep them from making friends. Because the target is so hungry for a connection…any connection, he/she will befriend anyone…and I mean anyone! They are not selective with who they call “friend” and end up latching on to people who are not even worth knowing…predators, who only take advantage.

Also, young victims often assume that to be “cool”, they have to have a big circle of friends. This is not true.

With that being said, I want you to know that if you are a victim of bullying, you do not need a whole slew of people in your life to be happy nor to feel like or be a whole person. You only need your family and a few true friends. It’s safer this way. Wouldn’t you much rather have just a handful of true friends then to have an abundance of frenemies? I know I would.

In fact, you should prefer to have enemies over ‘frenemies’ because with an enemy, you know exactly where they stand without having to do any guesswork. However, with frenemies, you will always be the last to know after being played for a sucker.

If at any time you wonder about a person…if your intuition is telling you that something is “off”, put some distance between yourself and that individual and do it fast! Instinct is trying to warn you.

If your so-called friends are only tolerating you, stabbing you in the back, or sabotaging you in any way, it’s time to eighty-six these leaches to your self-esteem. And the sooner you do, the better!

Throughout my life, I’ve heard and read stories of kids enduring relentless bullying in school. I’ve even experienced it myself. These kids try to be the bigger person…they ignore the taunts and threats and walk away. However, when this happens, bullies are persistent and will only further pursue their victims.

Why? Because bullies perceive the victim’s avoidance of trouble as either fear or defiance, becoming either emboldened or angered by the passive response and more determined to “get” the victim! Bullies will only continue and escalate the harassment until a physical brawl ensues. As a result, the victim is either severely harmed or snaps and seriously harms the bully.

Only then, school officials, whom are supposed to be the adults- fair and just, find it much easier just to blame the victim. Therefore, it is the victim who gets the suspension from school while the bullies get off scot free, taking the impunity as a green light to continue the harassment.

A child in school being attacked by bullies is no different than an adult being attacked in the street by a mugger. However, an adult can successfully and legally defend him/herself against any assailant on the street and escape charges. In most cases, if an adult is the victim of a violent street crime, the perpetrator is usually identified, arrested, tried and convicted given evidence presented by witnesses and prosecutors.

On the other hand, if a child is attacked by bullies in the halls or locker room at school, most schools are only too happy to sweep the incident under the rug and deny that there is an issue of bullying at “their facility”. This would be akin to the police covering up crimes against adults on the street in “their city” to make the area look safer than what it really is.

So, here are my questions:

1. If an adult is attacked on the street by criminals and those criminals are brought to justice, why then don’t bullied children and teens get the same justice?

2. Why is it okay for an adult victim on the street to fight an attacker in self-defense, but not okay for a child/teen to defend themselves against bullies?

I’ll leave you to ponder these legitimate questions and comment below. Have a great weekend!

Yes! You read this correctly! Success is, by far, the best revenge you can ever take against your bullies. Why? There are several reasons!

1. It’s a revenge in which you don’t have to resort to being petty nor violent. In achieving success, there’s no need to say a word nor lift a finger against the bullies. In this, you can silently and innocently extract revenge without reducing yourself to the bullies’ level and looking petty in the eyes of others!

2. Envy and jealously are a natural human tendency and it’s a fact that most people hate to see others succeeding and reaching their goals and dreams. And secretly, bullies take pleasure in watching others, especially their targets, suffer. When the opposite happens and you become happy and successful, it takes the wind out of the bullies’ sales, greatly disappointing, frustrating or even angering them while you continue to smile, shine and move on to even bigger things!

3. If you’re lucky, you get to watch your bullies seethe as you collect your accolades and praises from others! And hey! Let’s be real here! There’s nothing more satisfying than watching your bullies squirm with jealousy and rage as you get your well-deserved recognition for your accomplishments! And if you want, you can covertly eat your bullies alive by looking at them with a taunting smile!

So, find something you enjoy doing and are good at! Practice and perfect any talents and gifts you’ve been blessed with, then display those talents before the world! Your self-esteem is sure to skyrocket and you never know where it may take you!

Have a wonderful day!