Your Mind Is Yours and Yours Alone. Keep It That Way.

Spread the love

Bullies don’t only want to hurt you or destroy your good name. More than anything, they want to get into your head and alter your mind.

The worst thing about bullying isn’t the physical assaults. Cuts and bruises heal easily. It isn’t even the name-calling, the smears, the rumors, or the marginalization. It’s what it can do to the mind if we aren’t careful.

The worst thing that can happen to a target of bullying is when he begins to believe what he’s being told. The worst thing that happens is when she begins to see herself through the eyes of the very people who hate her and who want nothing more from her than her complete destruction and ruination.

Anytime a target begins to believe he is nothing, he does himself a huge disservice because he discards his own definition of him and replaces it with that of his bullies. He values the bullies’ opinions over his own.

I cannot stress enough the importance of loving yourself even when it looks as if others don’t love you back. You must continue to believe in yourself even when it seems that no one else does. You must also continue to stand your ground even when people want to bury you in it.’

That’s how you keep your confidence and self-esteem from tanking. It’s how you keep even a little bit of your dignity and it’s how you protect your spirit from being broken.

Yes, your confidence may take many blows, but it doesn’t have to die. Your self-esteem may be pummeled, but you can keep it for hitting rock bottom. Bullies may break off pieces of your dignity, but you don’t have to give them the piece of it you still hold for yourself. Your spirit may take a hard beating, but only you decide whether to let them break it.

In short, you don’t have to surrender everything that matters to your bullies.’

You have more power than you know. Your thoughts are the freest commodity you have. No matter what they take from you, they can never take your mind if you don’t let them.

“Power is not what you have but what the enemy thinks you have.” ~ Saul D. Alinsky (Rules for Radicals)

Think about that quote for a moment and realize that it’s what all bullies live by.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

0 thoughts on “Your Mind Is Yours and Yours Alone. Keep It That Way.”

  1. Arun Singha says:
    Reply

    Thank you so much Cherie for sharing this post. I understood many points you raised. Those are to be remembered. Bully can get into mind and alter the mind.
    My bully did that but I am not broken 💔
    I will remember your following lines ☺️:-
    ***That’s how you keep your confidence and self-esteem from tanking. It’s how you keep even a little bit of your dignity and it’s how you protect your spirit from being broken.
    Wonderful 😌🙏

    • cheriewhite says:
      Reply

      I’m so proud of you for refusing to let them break you, Arun. You show a strength that Sadly, I didn’t have when I was young. Your spirit shines through in your words. 💫💫💫

  4. tamweary says:
    Reply

    You have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers You. [You are ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into You; You are self-sufficient in Christ“s sufficiency (Philippians 4:13) No Bully’s Words against you can overpower the Truth of God’s Words for You!! 💕💕

  7. Stella Reddy says:
    Reply

    What a wonderful post to see when I am waking up this morning, thank you Cherie! So empowering, as it reminded me of the little piece of myself that refused to give in to the Bully, then and even now. Thank you for the motivation, always.

  10. Kym Gordon Moore says:
    Reply

    Cherie, I agree with this summation completely:
    “Your thoughts are the freest commodity you have. No matter what they take from you, they can never take your mind if you don’t let them.”

    Girlfriend, allowing them to take your mind is like selling your soul to the devil. Nope…we ain’t havin’ that! 🤨😜🤔

  13. SunnyDazeAhead says:
    Reply

    “Yes, your confidence may take many blows, but it doesn’t have to die. Your self-esteem may be pummeled, but you can keep it for hitting rock bottom”. Wow.. well said.

    I needed to hear this today. 💜

  17. Sandi Martinez says:
    Reply

    Thanks for sharing. Bullies are conduits for evil to poison the world. Some people being bullied, don’t have a way to take back their power in that moment. Karma, really, is the most frightening, yet powerful moments when bullies become targets themselves. She’s a mystery – Karma – but she waits patiently. 🙏🏼

  20. Sankha Subhra Debnath says:
    Reply

    I have seen a few of my classmates get bullied in high school a lot. I couldn’t do nothing whilst when the bullying happens because there were generally a lot of people like a mob. As sad it is. I always used to talk with them and tried to comfort them afterwards when the crowd was not near. I am very grateful to say after almost 6 years. They are still my good friends and they have overcome the hardship they had to face. The strongest fellas I know.

    • cheriewhite says:
      Reply

      I completely understand. I’m so proud of you for continuing to be there for them and remaining friends with them. That shows your strength of character and I’m happy to meet you, Sankha. I’m so happy that your friends overcame the bullying and are doing well. 😊 This is so wonderful to hear!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *