Month: June 2020
Your Voice Matters! — ABRA
Send your awesome stories to abra4change@gmail.com “I have seen a lot of bullying in Cheyenne, Wyoming and I think it needs to STOP. And that’s where ABRA comes in, you can help a lot of kids with their Suicidal Thoughts because of bullying. You can stop all of the type of bullying that happens to […]
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Will I Attend My 30th High School Reunion?
If you’ve read my blog for long enough, I’m sure you can already guess the answer to that question. “Why not?” you may ask?
There are several reasons:
- I’d be a fool if I ever trusted them again. And I’d be a damn fool to put myself into a situation where I’d either get sucked into any petty drama or worse- hurt! And if they expect any trust from me, it’s too late. They should’ve have earned it by acting better.
- Most of my classmates haven’t changed a bit since high school. Many are still the same drama-filled buffoons they were in high school. Only they’ve gotten older and less attractive over the years. They’ve gone from being obnoxious and self-absorbed punks to being angry and bitter mid-lifers who are resentful and crotchety because their lives didn’t turn out like they had thought. And they wouldn’t think twice about causing harm if it meant they could relive the glory days of high school.
- Also, at high school reunions, people tend to regress into kids again. This little gathering would only be an opportunity for most of the classmates to compare themselves and their lives with one another.
- Most of them will probably be drinking excessively, which, at our age, equals unattractive, obnoxious, and stupid. And it also means a higher intolerance of liquor than the good old days and being hungover and puking the next day. No, thank you! ‘Not my scene!
- The reunion would, more than likely, be nothing more than a circus of posturing, showboating, and one upmanship, where all the women would only talk about who’s gotten fat, who’s got the most wrinkles, and who’s had facelifts, tummy tucks, and boob-jobs. The men would probably only brag about who’s made the most money, who has the most sex, and who can still achieve an erection. And I have no time to listen to a bunch of drunken, and middle-aged adults compare bank accounts, waist measurements, or penis sizes.
- I forgive my classmates, yes. But it doesn’t mean I desire to play footsie with any of them. Again, many of them will probably be getting sloppy drunk and puking their guts out around a huge bonfire, and they will probably talk about the same boring crap over and over again. And I’ve got better things to do.
So, with that said, anytime you don’t feel safe going to a particular function, trust your instincts and don’t go!
If anyone tries to talk you into going to a gathering of any kind and you know specific people are going to be there- particularly people who’ve brought you drama and those you wouldn’t trust to shovel manure, there’s nothing wrong with rejecting the invite.
Self-care is of the utmost importance. And if going to any function means that you must be around people who’ve given you no reason to trust them, then you have not only a right, but an obligation to yourself not to go!
And if they get offended or angry with you for declining, all the more reason you shouldn’t go! Remember that your safety and peace of mind comes first!
Anti-Bullying Song of the Day – “Rumors” by Timex Social Club
Cyberbully the movie — healthy international students blog
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In our everyday lives at work and at school we are bullied a lot. People are bullied for all kinds of reasons whether it is a disability or looks or some other reason. We watched Cyberbully on Youtube as this movie is a VHS movie. It stars Emily Osment as a 17 year old girl […]
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When the Bullied React
After people have targeted a person, they react sooner or later. Some targets react negatively by turning the rage inward and lashing out at others. I did that once upon a time, and I hate to have to admit that.
There are, however, exceptions! Several react positively- they may become advocates against bullying and for people who are targets of such mistreatment, which is a great thing. Others focus more on their life goals. Because they had positive influences in their lives, or they chose to be their own positive influence, which buffered their self-esteem from the blows in so many ways from the psycho/emotional effects of bullying.
Still, so many others often retreat within themselves, and it happens when others force them to feel as if their feelings don’t matter. These people often realize that no one will believe them if they talk about it. These are ones who suffer in silence while trying to process what’s happening to them and why.
They stuff it down because they don’t want to feel the pain and negative emotions that come with being a target of bullying.
They feel that if they cry about it, they’re losing control.
They also feel that if they’re quiet about it, the bullying will magically go away.
But these three things couldn’t be further from the truth! When we feel the pain and cry, we’re releasing all those pinned up, toxic emotions, and we feel so much better afterward. And being quiet about anything won’t make it go away, but is only why toxic emotions build up in the first place.
And you can’t continue to carry all that baggage forever. Sooner or later, you’ll need to unpack all that crap and put it away!
For me, it took a lot of therapy, journaling, and working on myself to survive it, but I’m so glad I put in the work. It takes much grit and determination to withstand any form of abuse.
Still, anytime I see a kid who’s shy and withdrawn, the first question that pops into my mind is, “Is this person a target of bullying?” And I say a little prayer for them!
Anti-Bullying Song of the Day – “I Heard a Rumour” by Bananarama
The Wretched Assassin – Cyberbully — Mathew Yap IBM3205
Hey guys… it’s me again, your cheerful, handsome, and knowledgeable buddy, welcome to my second blog!!! I’m glad that you guys still stick around with me along the time, your support really cheer me up. For those who don’t know me or reading my blog for the first time, my name is Mathew Yap and […]
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Outstanding Blogger Award
I was nominated by Belladonna @ Belladonna’s Flashlight for the Outstanding Blogger Award and I’m both honored and humbled! I couldn’t be more grateful and I love my blogger family so much! Please check out Belladonna’s incredible blog at https://belladonnasflashlight.com/ for awesome healthy recipes and fitness tips!
Rules:
- Provide the link to the creator’s original award post. (very important: see why in step 5)
- Answer the questions provided.
- Create 7 unique questions.
- Nominate 10 bloggers. Ensure that they are aware of their nomination. Neither the award’s creator nor the blogger that nominated you can be nominated.
- At the end of 2020, every blog that ping-backs the creator’s original post will be entered to win the 2020 Outstanding Blogger Award!
This award was created by Colton Beckwith
Belladonna’s Questions
- Do you prefer public transportation or to drive yourself? Drive myself!
- Have you ever traveled outside your home country? Haven’t had any vacations abroad.
- One country you would like to visit. Cook Islands, off the Northern coast of Australia!
- Why would you like to visit that country? Because the Cook Islands are tropical- white, sandy beaches, clear blue waters, and tiny islets you can swim to!!!
- Are you more of a corporate person or entrepreneur? Entrepreneur, definitely! I hate working for someone else!
- How many days of the week do you workout? 2-3
- Favorite form of cardio. HIT- High-Intensity Training with weights!
My Questions
- What kind of vacation do you prefer? Alaskan or Hawaiian?
- Have you ever flown on a plane?
- Seafood or Cruisine?
- Self-prepare or takeout?
- Would you prefer a cat or dog?
- How many times per week do you read?
- Favorite 80’s tv series.
My Nominees
rts – Facing the Challenges of Mental Health
divinelybipolardivinelybipolar
Michelle Rose. Reflection of My Journey
Thank you for being a part of my blogger family!
Cherie
Anti-Bullying Song of the Day – “Unpretty” by TLC
Living with Avoidant Personality Disorder — eefa’s thoughts
Last year I was officially diagnosed with a cluster of personality disorders, one of which is avoidant personality disorder. This is my story.
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10-Year-Old Kenedee East Creates A Beauty Company After Being Bullied By Classmates — HelloBeautiful
They bullied her. She started a business.
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Anti-Bullying Song of the Day – “Right Through You” by Alanis Morrissette
He’s Just a Little Kid — Peaceful Rampage
Bullying is tough enough, but what if the bully is a kid smaller than you? How do you defend yourself without being seem as the bully strictly because you’re older than the bully. This happens more than people admit.
When most people think of bullying, they usually get images like the one above, a bigger stronger person picking on a smaller weaker one. However, it is just as likely that the reverse can be the case in regards to bullying. The smaller person will be the bully because if the bigger one retaliates, they […]
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Bullies “Need” Their Targets
They want you to think that you need them! You don’t. In fact, it’s just the opposite. They need you! Let me explain further:
Bullies need targets as guinea pigs to demonstrate their perceived power and might on.
They need victims to feel better about themselves.
Bullies need targets to blame their stupidity and bad behavior on.
Bullies need victims to scapegoat and to be a dumping ground for all their problems and shortcomings.
If you’re a target, Your bullies need you as a shield to cover their own cowardice.
They need you to entertain and get laughs from their audiences.
And they need you to look cool and in control in front of everyone else.
Understand that bullies need you more than you will ever need them!