This is for everyone, but especially if you’re a target of bullying. Many people trumpet their goals and dreams. They announce their plans without realizing what ramifications it can bring. And, if you’re a target of bullying, all the more reason why you should keep your plans, goals, and dreams to yourself. Because you have more of a reason to work quietly.
Understand that any time you let your objectives and agendas be known, you place yourself at risk of being sabotaged and of having your plans derailed by a bully who is just waiting, with bated breath, to destroy you.
You must realize that not everyone wants you to succeed. Why? Because your success would force them to reflect on their own person failures and shortcomings. And, if you’re a target of bullying, your bullies will be damned before they allow someone they see as inferior- you- to reach success and overshadow them.
Bullies consider any success you enjoy as a personal affront. Any time you achieve a goal, you score a win, and when you score a win, you force your bullies into a place of lesser power.
Why, because it’s you who gets the recognition, praise, and glory- not your bullies and they know it! You force them into the shadows while you get to shine and be recognized for your accomplishments. This infuriates your bullies because they aren’t the ones in the spotlight!
Understand that the one thing bullies crave most is attention and adoration and when they find that you’re getting more of those things than they are, it’s Katie bar the door!
Naturally, they will launch all sorts of attacks against you, make all sorts of accusations, even bring up the mistakes of your past to drive you back in the shade. But see through it and stay above it. They only do it because their power has been threatened and when a bully is threatened with losing their power and being driven into obscurity, they reveal their true colors.
Therefore, you force them to expose themselves and their evil personalities. So, how do you handle this?
You handle it by simply staying above it- by not reacting to the bullies’ foolishness. You deal with their abuse by continuing to enjoy your wins and successes and letting them stew in their own juices. Put simpler, just let them talk. Let them launch all the personal attacks they desire as they seethe themselves into a ball of madness!
Because when they act out and spew nonsense against you, they only dig their own graves.
But, again, in the meantime, work quietly and stealthily until you reach your goals and successes. The more quietly you work, the less interference you’ll have from bullies and a few other toxic life-suckers and the less roadblocks you will run into along the way. And once you reach your goals, then you can bask in it, and with it, give your bullies the surprise of their lives.
“Your journey is silent, but your destination will be loud.”
With knowledge comes empowerment!
Beautifully written! Such a pertinent topic with a valuable piece of advice… a read worth it 🙂
Thank you so much Kashvee! 😊
Indeed better to keep plans deep inside the mind.
Very happy to see this guidance.
Of late i realised.
Thank you so much.
Regards 🙏😊
You’re most welcome, Arun! 😊 And thank you for your kind words! 🤗
Any time you achieve a goal, you score a win, and when you score a win, you force your bullies into a place of lesser power……….
And then bully gets mad. Starts damaging the achievement.
Really!!
They sure do! 💯💯💯 Thank you bunches, Arun!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here 😊🙏
My pleasure! ❤️
I’ve always thought this in general, best not to jinx or attract negativity to your goals and plans, just wait until they materialise and then they speak for themselves without you forcing it down anyone’s throat💫
Amen on that one, Cherryl! 💯💯💯Perfectly said!
Excellent advice. Thank you for sharing.
You’re very welcome, Sherlene! 💖And thank you for your kind words!
Best advice . Once I’ve done this mistake but not again
Thank you so much! 💖💕 And you aren’t the only one, I used to make that mistake time and time again years ago. But no more! 😊
From my point of view, the characters mentioned by you are all worthy of compassion and if they accept even helped to find and see the true value that every man born of a woman carries in his Soul, even if they are not aware of this gift, obtained by grace from God, through His Word.
You’re right, they are. Everyone is worthy of compassion, even the most evil and prideful.
Well written as usual! Your words are always enlightening, inspiring and oh so very true!
Staying silent while climbing the ladder of success is key when dealing with bullying and you portrayed this so beautifully.
Thank you for yet another great read 🙏
You’re most welcome, Simone! And thank you for your kindness and encouragement!