When bullies are attacking you at every turn, it’s easy to lose that positive attitude you once had along with your self-esteem. If you aren’t careful, you’ll begin to doubt yourself and give up on your goals. Here are 3 Life Secrets that everyone (especially targets) should learn. And once you learn them, hold them close no matter how others may treat you. Also, use them to keep your self-esteem from tanking.
1. Positivity
Positive thoughts equal a positive mind. A positive mind brings positive opportunities. Positive opportunities lead to positive results. Altogether, they bolster confidence, which gives you a positive and extraordinary life! It’s a shame most people go through life without learning this little nugget of wisdom. They go to the grave never learning this and so many other life secrets.
Use the weaknesses others perceive you to have to your advantage. For instance, if you’re a female and you’re being bullied, use that to your advantage. Doing this is likely to garner you help from others, especially big, strong men. What real man doesn’t want to protect a woman. It’s in his DNA.
Moreover, if you are a petite and small lady, you can use your size to get protection as well. Remember that every weakness has it’s advantages. You only have to figure out what those advantages are and play them to the hilt.
2. Tenacity
Tenacity equals positive change and eventual success. To many people give up before they reach their goals. I’ve been guilty of this and it’s hard to admit to myself. But the trick is to go from where you are and never again give up. Keep working toward that goal until you reach it! You will be so glad you did!
Negative people will never see success, only hollow victories from time to time. Stay away from these type of folks. Because they will drag you down. They will deliberately derail you from your goals. And if you reach your goals, they will hate you for it. These people are not worth your time. Instead of focusing on them and the things they think or say. Focus on your goals and work toward them. It’s the only way you’ll keep these people from tearing you down.
Remember that attitude and self-belief are everything!
3. Beware of Jealous People
The reason most people find ways to discourage you and tell you that you CAN’T is because they’re very much afraid that you WILL. Moreover, if you continue to keep company with these people, they will bring you down to their level. Remember that misery loves company. Jealous people never win and they don’t want you to win either. So, stay far away from them.
Resting on your laurels for too long equals stagnation and and repels growth. It’s okay to take a short break every now and again. We all need breaks. However, the longer you put off working on your goals, the more chance you have of never doing it. Therefore, take a rest period. But get back to pursuing those goals as soon as you’re able.
With each major goal accomplished, raise the bar. You must continue to challenge yourself and flex those mind-muscles even more. You will set higher goals and you will reach them.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
As always! <3
Thank you so much. 🙂
Good advice Cherie!
Thank you so much, Valerie. 🙂
Always looking for the light at the end of the tunnel was what kept me from sinking. Thanks for sharing this advice.
You’re very welcome, Michael.
Fantastic blog post!
Thank you so much, Joseph.
Good article as a whole but respectfully a little naive in the modern world regarding men. I have found that men are just as likely to bully a small female as females are to one another.
It is chivalrous and there are some men particularly in the older generation but men today don’t have it ingrained inside them like they used to and many women will bully men as well. Society and the way the world works now has changed a lot so that’s not as common as you think.
True that. However, the point is to find a way to use your “perceived” weakness to your advantage. Those were only examples.
Got to be frank here. I have never liked the “damsel in distress” mindset. Men and women both can be bullies to one another and the modern dudes don’t seem to have that instilled in that and the modern woman doesn’t have that “big strong man” mindset concerning most men anymore either. It is a great thought but a bit outdated no offense. Men and women need to both treat each other with respect. I am about equality and can change my own tire.
True. However, it does work sometimes. I know there are a few chivalrous, masculine men around, then so be it. Besides, there are still a few left in my area. My husband, brother, brother-in-law, sons, and son-in-law are living proof. And there’s bound to be a few outliers in other areas as well. And equality goes out the window when a 6ft 5′ 250 lb criminal is about to attack you. That’s why I keep an “equalizer” on me when I go anywhere.