Choose Your Friends Wisely

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And no, I don’t mean the type of friends who only tell you what you want to hear. You can get that anywhere. And many people will tickle your ears just to manipulate you or soften you up.

It goes much deeper.

It’s not about how much money or prestige they have- the hot car they drive or the latest fashions they wear. Neither is it about how good they look or how popular they are.

It’s all in how they make us feel about ourselves, and the space they give us to grow. Even better, it’s how they help us to grow and vice versa.

Therefore, if the person makes you feel bad about yourself and makes you doubt yourself- if she makes you feel left out and discarded, that’s your first clue that this person is not right for you! They’re not worthy of your time and are a waste of energy.

Don’t walk. RUN!

Always keep company with those who make you feel the best about yourself- that means the people who want to see you do good for yourself, the people who point you in the right direction, and the people who remain loyal even when the chips are down.


Associate only with the people who love, encourage and want your very best. Reserve your friendship only for those who have your back! Choose the friend who is willing to walk through the fire with you.

In closing, never chase anyone who doesn’t care or makes you feel terrible about yourself. Because if they’re a true friend, they won’t tear you down and make you feel worthless.

They won’t block your path to success. You won’t have to fight for their time or their love. They will make time for you and give love freely. Therefore, be selective of who you let in your life.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

13 thoughts on “Choose Your Friends Wisely

  1. linda levante says:

    Finding the right friends is difficult. You can’t search for them either. How could you do that? I have parted with so many supposed friends in recent years because they weren’t there when I needed them. The end of the story: I am now alone. But I prefer that to getting involved with the wrong people. Example:

    For 22 years I thought I had a boyfriend. His name was Dieter. I asked him to testify in court. He should not add anything to it and also not leave anything out. He should just say what he saw. He did not do it. Supposedly he could not remember anything.

    For me, this meant a loss of several thousand euros, which I now lack to shoulder the rising energy and food prices.

    • cheriewhite says:

      Oh, Linda! I’m so sorry he did that to you, honey! And I’m so sorry those so-called friends weren’t there for you! Know that you’re a very brave woman in choosing to be alone rather than keep company with friends who aren’t true. Because I know first hand how difficult that is to do. But know this, in choosing to be alone, you’re sending the message that you’re ready to make room for friends who are genuine and life will reward you for it. It may take a while, but the people who are worthy of you will find you and it will all be worth it in the end. Your time and your turn is coming. Believe it! Sending you lots of love and hugs! 💖🤗💖🤗

      • linda levante says:

        Dear Cherie. When I see your picture, the red one, next to the comment column, I see a woman who looks a bit melancholic and also sad, who has experienced a lot, but who has her heart in the right place and is fighting to bring more justice into this unjust world. Then the feeling rises up in me, I would have to hold you and sometimes, like now, even a tear rolls down my cheek.

        I can manage well on my own, but it hurts not to have a family more.

        Thank you for your understanding.

        • cheriewhite says:

          You’re very welcome, Linda! 💖 And thank you for your kind words. That picture is a few years old. And there’s a funny story behind that picture. I had a severe head-cold when it was taken. My husband had to make a few attempts before we were finally successful because every time he’d snap the picture, I’d go into a sneezing fit. 😂🤣😂🤣 We were taking it because I needed an after picture for after I lost weight from surgery that year.

  2. writerravenclaw says:

    Finding a true friend is difficult, but I found mine on the first day of secondary school. She was bossy, where I was shy, but then we worked well together. We still do. She is my bestie, and even moving to America when she was fifteen didn’t change that. It took all I had to take a chance on her, but I am so glad I did.

    • cheriewhite says:

      I’m so happy for you, dear! You took a chance on her and it paid off huge! Keep her close to your heart because she’s worth more than gold! True friends are earth angels sent from above! 💖💖💖

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