11 Most Common Excuses People Make for Bullies

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As we know, bullies are very practiced and convincing liars and have a flair for using charm to deceive bystanders and authority.

Understand that this “charm” bullies often display is fake. It is all a part of the smokescreen they put up to hoodwink people, cover up bad behavior, and avoid accountability. In short, bullies are only actors and actresses.

Here is a list of excuses that bystanders and authorities often make for the bully anytime a victim reports them for their appalling behavior.

“That’s just his personality.”

“He was only joking.”

“She’s only expressing herself.”


“He just has a very strong personality.”

“She’s going through a hard time right now.”

“But he’s really a good person, he’s just having issues right now.”

“She’s just having problems at home.”

“He’s just being himself.”

“But he’s so well-liked and well mannered. Why would he bully someone like you?”

“But she’s so sweet and everyone loves her. She wouldn’t hurt a fly.”

“But they’re just good kids who made a bad mistake.”


These are a few examples of how others justify and condone the bully’s behavior.

Don’t fall for it! Call them what they are- BULLIES! Never accept any excuse. It’s true that retaliation may follow.

However, stay strong and know that you don’t have to tolerate atrocious behavior from anyone! You have rights. And you have a right to be safe and to live in a healthy environment. Those are non-negotiables!

Lastly, always remember that it’s not your fault and the harassment isn’t about you. It’s about the bullies’ issues!

With knowledge comes empowerment!

0 thoughts on “11 Most Common Excuses People Make for Bullies

  1. Shashi says:

    I do use those excuses. But then it’s difficult to classify or categorise a person in real life.
    Sometimes you love someone deeply and the person changes. But can’t really assume if it is transient or permanent. And one has no idea about, what is the timeline for transient and permanent.

    Then there are other attachments and issues to think of.

    Also hope plays a big role. One keeps on hoping that one’s sacrifices will be recognised.

    But it all becomes muddled up in the end.

    • cheriewhite says:

      I totally agree that it’s hard to distinguish, but there are signs we don’t think of. For instance, bullies never ever apologize for anything because they want to always be right. A true target of bullying, on the other hand, will apologize and sometimes overdo it with the apologies. This is a very important clue.

  2. Kym Gordon Moore says:

    Girlfriend, now this is the truth: “Call them what they are- BULLIES! Never accept any excuse.”
    You are so right. You really don’t have to tolerate atrocious behavior from anyone, zilch…nil. Those giving the excuses know what the deal is, but it’s just easier for them to excuse the inexcusable. UGH!!! 😝🤔😱

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