As we all know, bullies are very practiced and convincing liars and have a flair for using charm to deceive bystanders and authority. Understand that this “charm” bullies often display is fake; it is all a part of the smokescreen they put up to cover up bad behavior and avoid accountability. In short, bullies are only actors and actresses.
Here’s a list of excuses that bystanders and authority often make for the bully anytime a victim reports them for their appalling behavior.
“That’s just his personality.”
“Boys will be boys,” or “Kids will be kids.”
“She’s only expressing herself.”
“Maybe you need to toughen up.”
“He just has a very strong personality.”
“Maybe you’re doing something to bring it on yourself, and you don’t realize it yet.”
“She’s going through a hard time right now.”
“You’re just too sensitive and need to grow a thicker skin.”
“But he’s really a good person. He’s just having issues right now.”
“She’s just having problems at home.”
“Maybe you’re too dramatic.”
“He’s just being himself.”
“Maybe she was just joking with you, and you took it the wrong way.”
“But he’s so well-liked and well mannered. Why would he bully someone like you?”
“But she’s so sweet, and everyone loves her. She wouldn’t hurt a fly.”
And last but not least, my personal favorite-
“You’re just having a personality conflict.”
If you’ve ever been a target, I’m positive you’ve heard that last line. It seems to be the most popular excuse on the planet!
These are several examples of how others justify and condone the bully’s behavior. Don’t fall for it! Call them what they are- BULLIES! Never accept any excuse.
Retaliation may indeed follow. However, stay strong and know that you don’t have to tolerate atrocious behavior from anyone! If no one will listen, be sure to document document document every bullying incident in detail!!!!!!!
With knowledge comes empowerment!