Businessman with wind up key on his back sitting on chair and using laptop computer on city background. Manipulation concept
It’s the oldest and most used tactic in the book! My classmates were no different. Bullies will always come back at you with the “crazy” or “mentally imbalanced” label to discredit you and control how others see you when they can no longer control you and can’t find anything else to pin on you.
It only goes to show that they see you as a threat and they’re both desperate and afraid. When you refuse to be manipulated, it sends several messages to your bullies- messages that threaten their sense of superiority, positions, and their power.
- It tells them that you see through their smokescreens.
- It tells them that you’re not afraid to tell them to go kick rocks.
- It tells them the opposite of what they think of you- that you’re strong and intelligent, not weak and dumb.
- It puts them in their place.
- It tells them that they can’t make you do anything you don’t want to do.
- It tells them that you don’t give a crap about what they say or think about you.
- It tells them you could care less about impressing them.
- It tells them they don’t matter to you and that you don’t value their insults or do you accept their definitions of you.
Understand that bullies have an over-inflated sense of their own importance and thus, feel entitled. They despise being told no and they loathe anyone who will not be controlled. And if they can’t manipulate you, they’ll manipulate your relationships, and the way others perceive you.
Always remember that.
This is so accurate
Thank you so much! 🙂 💖
Brilliant post. I am running short of adjectives. You are so good.
Aww! Thank you so much! 😍🥰
Another healthy dose of wisdom! 🤗🤗
Thank you so much, Jim! 🙂
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Thank you so much! 💖
You absolutely right… bullies like to think they own people and if you refuse they get frustrated…
Absolutely 💯 Thank you so much for your thoughts here! 😊
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You hit the nail on the head with 100% accuracy.
Thank you so much, Molly! 💖
Oh yeah. This one may be the most important area that needs to be talked about mental health. For if they can convince others that you are mentally unbalanced or crazy then that is how they can justify their behavior by trying to make someone an outcast. I always think about the movie Carrie (Especially the original one with Sissy Spacek, if anyone has never seen that they should) and how her mom and others convinced her she wasn’t worthy of love. Plus let me also throw in especially in small towns if you are knew to the town and maybe grow up in another part of the country etc and don’t have the small town mentality you already have a target on your back in some places. Also if you are a creative person and perhaps dances to the beat of your own drummer or maybe you have your own style of dress or perhaps likes different types of music (for some odd reason that mattered back in the day) than the masses or different sports teams or don’t like sports at all then ridicule can come for being able to think for yourself.
You hit the nail on the head with everything you mentioned here! And I have seen Carrie and my heart broke for her. I remember cheering for her when she unleashed her powers and burned the school down. And when two of her classmates try to run her over in their car, she rolled them! Although it was horrible how it ended, I still cheered for her because she was driven to it.
I’m so sorry that you’ve been through so much. You’re an amazing person!!
Thank you so much, LaShelle! 💖💐🌺 You don’t know how much I appreciate this!
I’m so glad!
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Cheri you are reading my mind!!! I was just having this conversation yesterday with my niece. You nailed girl. Manipulators will try so hard to make it seem like there is something wrong with you mentally.
Wow! 😂🤣 There definitely seems to be some ESP going on here! That’s exactly what they do- and they do it to take the heat off their own butts. It’s a CYA technique I think. 😊
Girl yes!!!!! It’s so crazy to me. When you get older and see it coming, they have to move on because that will not work!
Amen! 💯🎯👍
Very true. And not just in high school but also in workplaces.
Amen on that, Diana. I went through a stint of that at work when I was in my late thirties. But, because I’d already been bullied at school and knew the playbook, I was able to stay one step ahead of them then walk away from the job on my own terms. That was a win in and of itself! 😊💖💐
great title Cherie which is completely below the belt! 💖🌈🌻
This means a lot, Cindy! Thank you! 💖💐🌺
You’re so welcome Cherie.. always 💖
Great post!
Thank you so much! 💖
Absolutely girlfriend. Love this: “They despise being told no and they loathe anyone who will not be controlled.” Just let them run their own selves crazy! 🤣😝😂
😂🤣😂🤣 You got that right, girl! I live that last bit of advice! 😜😜😜
Great Post with empowering strategies 🙂🥰
This means a lot, Paul! Thank you so much! 😊🤗
Loved the post…..too good
Thank you so much! 😃💖This means a lot!
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Thank you so much, Marine. 💖
Absolutely compelling And absolutely absurd and hilarious and the various and the same instance as being accomplished as accomplished as a adequate acknowledgment of reality indeed Compelling…
Thank you so much, Ben! 😊
Really 🙈🙉🙊 Not accepting of somebody’s criticism its always something 🙄 I’m the outcast guy 🙄
I can relate, Ben. There’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism as it’s supposed to help you. It’s the destructive criticism of bullies you should reject. Thank you so much, Ben! I so appreciate your thoughts here. 😊😊😊
An insightful post indeed! Thank you for sharing this 🙂
I appreciate the kind of difference you are trying to make through such posts, I consider myself of the same nature as well. I have a blog here as well (https://thoughtsofahuman.home.blog/) where I write articles on our own philosophies, mental well-being, emotions and life in general. I also delve occasionally in thought-provoking short stories which make us think. Do have a look if you can!
Stay safe and keep writing!
Thank you so much, Haroon! I have read one of your articles and followed your blog! Your blog is very insightful and intriguing! 🙂
Humming yes but if you are labeled as a outcast never going to be Nothing but a outcast labeled slow or dumb down you to believe that and make you feels as your the problem labeled with uncontrollable Hyperactive with a high case of Dyslexia disorder Aspergers syndrome You run their test they put every test down the book and they dumb you down with their education and marathons making you docile they are wrong…
The entire education system is set up that way I do believe. They tried to brainwash me like that and they failed miserably!
Yes, this is so true. Brilliant post.
Thank you so much, Rancy! 😊