Many of the greatest, most tender-hearted, and level-headed people I know have a pack of haters behind them. And many of them don’t understand why. Down through the years, I’ve heard them ask, “What did I ever do to them?” or “I know I’m not a bad person and I treat everyone how I would want to be treated. So, what is it that they (the haters) think is wrong with me?” I’ve got to admit it. I asked the same questions many times when I was young and it happened to me. But here’s a little assurance.
First, if you are one of those good people who certain others hate on, and you yourself are asking yourself the same questions, let me tell you: You didn’t do anything to them. In fact, you did nothing wrong. Secondly, what they think is wrong with you doesn’t matter. What they think period doesn’t matter. And there’s nothing wrong with you. I want you to know that you’re okay. You’re enough. And you’re awesome just the way you are.
I know what you’re likely to say next and you’re probably thinking it now: “But there’s got to be some reason they hate me so much.”
And you’re right. There are many reasons your haters hate you. But those reasons have nothing to do with you, and here they are:
1. They don’t have a life. …or one that’s meaningful. Most haters aren’t what they appear to be. Many are life losers who have no redeeming qualities whatsoever. So, they have nothing better to do than to hate on others. Many of these types of haters are broke, jobless, partner-less, and live in their mommy’s basement.
To feel better about themselves, they’ll troll your social media pages, make incendiary comments, and post vile things about you. If they happen to be local to your area and you know them, they’ll talk trash about you behind your back and try to kill your reputation, your opportunities and prospects. These types of haters are bored with life and the only entertainment and rush of endorphins they can get is to cause drama in other people’s lives.
These are the types of people you should feel sorry for because they live truly miserable and pathetic lives. And the only way they can feel powerful is to ruin other people’s lives. Sadly, we have so many people like that today, and many of them get involved in the cancel culture that’s so prevalent. Again, understand that this is a last-ditch effort for them to achieve power. And sadly, it seems to work for them.
2. They’re not happy in their lives. This can go hand in hand with number 1. However, some people can have everything, a good job, a nice home, good family, and still not be happy. What they lack is contentment. Or, it could be that they aren’t happy with some things in their life. Whatever it may be, their attitude is this. If they can’t be happy, then by George, they’re going to make sure you’re not happy either.
They want to take away your peace of mind and bring you down to their level of misery. And you aren’t the only one. There are probably other people they do this to as well. Again, this person is a miserable individual and you shouldn’t hate them back, you should only pity them.
3. You have something they don’t have. No one ever said life was fair. Some people can, and some can’t. Some have, and some don’t. It’s a hard part of reality that makes some people angry because they can’t seem to figure out how to obtain the things they want. So, they hate on anyone who has the things they (the haters) have been longing for and who has life a little easier than they do.
4. Jealousy. This goes back to you having something your haters don’t have and those poor souls not being happy in their lives. Whether it’s an admirable trait you may have, such as the ability to make friends easily, or how you look, what you have, or even the ability to be happy, haters want to take it all from you because they don’t have it and don’t think they can ever get it.
5. Your good qualities are a threat to them- In other words, you make them look bad. You cause them to compare themselves with you and see you as competition. And if they ever feel like you’re winning over them, look out!
Therefore, realize that you aren’t at fault here. It was nothing you said or did to ruffle their feathers and there’s nothing wrong with you. You are enough. In fact, you are awesome! Your haters only say otherwise to mess with your mind and throw you off balance. Don’t let them do that to you!
Haters can stress you out, yes. But they can also motivate you. So, be your best self and keep your haters blabbing. Think about it. Your haters are the ones who keep you relevant.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
I hope you don’t mind that I have reposted your blog on mine too??
I don’t mind at all. 😊 Thank you so much!
I think, more and more, this society raises people to be bullies…and bullies win. It is a rare person who is genuinely tender hearted like you. Take it easy 🤗🤗
Thank you so much! 💖 And you’re so right about that. I’ve seen people brag about their child being a bully and be proud that their child took an innocent and sweet younger and weaker child down. They’re the type who swear that the good guy finishes last, and sometimes yes, but many times no.
Yes, you’re right! Take care angel 😇😇
Thank you so much. You too, dear! 🙂
haters hate themselves mostly
Yes they do!
i should know cos i hate me too. i hate the part of me that has to lash out. but when i hear the noise and smell the dust from the corruption of rich developers cramming and jamming large edifices in small places. i rage.
Just know that you’re much stronger and have more value than you know.
perhaps. but it doesn t feel that way.
You’re right, it doesn’t when people are abusing you. But dig deep. It’s there.
been on both sides. just like joan baez and sammy hagar both composed songs called both sides. how odd.
not too deep. just seep along. creep ebb tide.
my youngest son is a victim of being raised by damaged parents.
i took the round about way back to you. sometimes i get dizzy and confused.!
Ms. Cherie, I believe being happy is a state of mind that each of us can choose, thus I assume that for your #2, they don’t realize they are choosing to make themselves miserable…
Purrseidon, who plans to repost this.
You nailed it, Jeanne! Girl, you hit the bullseye- bullies unknowing choose to.be miserable. I’m like you in that I choose to be happy! 😊🤗 Feel free to post, Purrsuidon! 🌹I’m honored! 💖💐
Perfect as usual
Thank you so much @ 💓
Most welcome
Truth be told there is no point to think about the haters and spend our good hours wondering about their meaningless hate. They rather should be pitied.
BINGO! 💯🎯
Thank you so much for sharing so important post
You’re most welcome.😊
Thank you so much 💞❤️😘😘
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A brilliant motivational post.
Thank you so much! This means a lot! 😊🤗
This is soo soo true , there are so many times when i asked myself the same thing , WHY??? WHAT DID I DO and then i always thought the very reasons which are mentioned here . Thank you!!
You’re most welcome Raoul. 😊 During the initial shock, we all wonder the same.
Haters are exactly like bullies because their sole mission is to depress someone for their own benefits which are selfish…
Exactly! 💯
Especially in middle and high school but sometimes even in College or work or beyond, I find that some people have a rank and order mindset. They want to bully and belittle a certain group of people they think they can get away with it because of the things you said. The reason they won’t bully the most popular kid is out of fear of being dropped down further on the “food train”. But here is the thing 99 percent of all people aren’t at the top or the bottom.
1) Agreed. It is because they don’t have a life. They would rather pick on others because they are miserable and enjoy making others miserable. It somehow “builds themselves up” in their own mind.
2)True bullies are not at all happy in their own lives, agreed! If you are truly happy you are focusing on the positive aspects of your own life so much you want others to be happy or are not even thinking about them because things are going so well for you. Happy people are positive people.
3) I think having something they don’t have and jealousy go hand in hand. They somehow feel inadequate fair or not so bullying is the way they try to hold someone back. Bullies in their mind can’t fathom why someone is more successful than they are. Instead of working on themselves they want you to feel bad about yourself because if you ever saw your own potential, it would drive them insane.
4) Bullies are a miserable group of people and they see qualities in you that it drives them crazy they don’t have. This may come to a shock if any bullies are reading this. People have to WORK on their good qualities. You can have all those things too, if you would have stop trying to take short cuts and work at continuous self improvement.
BINGO on every point you made here! 💯💯💯 Bullies are too lazy to work on themselves so they rather tear someone else down.
Wonderful creation of yours deserves every applause really appreciating 🙏
Thank you so much! 😊
This post should be read at school, and any form tutor should mentor their tutees by following your inspiring blog
Thank you so much! 😊🤗 This means a lot, Giovanni! And I would be honored for this to be read to students in school!
I found your post packed with wisdom.
Thank you so much! 💖 You don’t know how much this means. 😊
Oh girlfriend, I can so relate to your message here. 👏🏼 When I found myself asking that very question, “What did I do to make people sting me with their hatred” I examined my behavior and what could I have possibly done to the recipient to warrant such nastiness. Finally I realized that I didn’t warrant their crass behavior towards me, and I then surmised that I must be doing something right. And girlfriend, I am okay with that. I just wished I learned that lesson much earlier in life. Thanks for the validation Cherie!!! 😁🦋🤩💐🥰
You’re most welcome, Kym! 💖💐🌹Youre so right, sweetie! 💯 Self awareness is key. However, many targets are hyper-aware because they’ve been tormented for so long and hyper-awareness isn’t good. I think it’s awesome that you realized that none of itbis your fault and that you didn’t allow yourself to become hyper-aware. And girrrl! I wish I’d realized it earlier in life myself! Sometimes it takes a while not only to learn it, but for it to sink in. Such was the case with me. Thank you so much for your lovely comment as always! 💖💐🌹🦋🕊
Oh Cherie it is my pleasure and I truly applaud your strength and perseverance girlfriend. 👏🏼🥰👏🏼 I so agree with you as you noted, that sometimes it takes a while for it to sink in. I think that too was a part of my process. But honey chile….when you wake up, you can’t go back into a coma! 😱🙌🏼☺
Oooo, girl! You can say that again! Once you’re fully awake, there’s no going back…ever! I love the way you word this! Remarkable! You’re a very intelligent lady and I so admire that! <3
Well Cherie dawwwlink, you’re a very intelligent lady too my dear, and I definitely ADMIRE that!!! Booyah!!! 😍🙌🏼🤗💖👏🏼 Enjoy your evening my sweetness! 🥰😘🤩
Thank you so much, dahhh-ling! You enjoy yours too! 🤗😘🤗😘🤗💖💐🌹
You got it!!! 🎉💐🥂💖🥰
I agree with these. Let haters continue hating and lovers continue loving. 🌼🌼
Bingo! That’s it! 😀
Yes. It’s a life of choices. 😀
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Excellent and truthful reason for why some people are haters! Thank you for sharing. ♥️
You’re most welcome, Monika! Bless you bunches! 🙂
Wow that gives a whole new perspective! Thanks for the follow!
You’re very welcome! And thank you for your kind words. 🙂
Wow. I love your blog. It’s shedding light. Thank you.
You’re most welcome. 🙂 And thank you for your kindness and encouragement!
Dear Cherie,
Point 1. in your contribution does not correspond so completely to my view.
Unemployment, poverty and the resulting lack of recognition of these fates on our part, leads to the fact that some of the poor people begin to hate more and more over time.
They, and we, you too Cherie, realize in our lives every day that we are quite powerless people, and face a powerful consortium, one of whose strongest tools is the production of poverty.
Those responsible for the increasing hatred in our societies, sit at the very top, they do not sit in the basement, but in the ivory tower. They spread discord among people, they tell us poor people are no good, and now currently, they tell us that healthy people are sick just because they do not want to be injected with the Arab vaccine broth.
You know what I mean Cherie and I also know that you will not be angry with me, but my additions will land with you in the right place.
Sincere and dear greetings🌹 from a dying country – Germany.
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Liebe Cherie,
Punkt 1. in Deinem Beitrag entspricht nicht so ganz meiner Ansicht.
Arbeitslosigkeit, Armut und die daraus resultierende mangelnde Anerkennung dieser Schicksale unsererseits, führt dazu, dass einige von den arm gemachten Menschen im Laufe der Zeit anfangen mehr und mehr zu hassen.
Sie, und wir, Du auch Cherie, stellen in unseren Leben doch täglich fest, dass wir ziemliche ohnmächtige Menschen sind, und einem mächtigen Konsortium gegenüberstehen, zu deren stärksten Werkzeugen die Produktion von Armut ist.
Die Verantwortlichen für den zunehmenden Hass in unseren Gesellschaften, sitzen ganz oben, sie sitzen nicht im Keller, sondern im Elfenbeinturm. Sie verbreiten Zwietracht unter den Menschen, sie erklären uns arme Menschen taugen nichts, und jetzt aktuell, erklären sie uns, dass gesunde Menschen krank, nur weil sie sich die arabische Impfbrühe nicht injizieren lassen wollen.
Du weißt was ich meine Cherie und ich weiß auch, dass Du mir nicht böse sein wirst, sondern meine Ergänzungen bei Dir an der richtigen Stelle landen werden.
Aufrichtige und liebe Grüße aus einem sterbenden Land – Deutschland -.
I totally agree! 💯 And I know exactly where you’re coming from. Those at the top are creating hate and division, especially in the last few years. And they do it to brainwash the people and pit us against each other not only to better control us and run our lives, but to keep us distracted from their evil atrocities. Theyre definitely trying to shame the unpoisoned and those who keep Sovereignty over their own bodies. Luckily, we’re waking up, slowly but surely! Thank you so much for your thoughts. Wishing you many blessings! ❤️
ich wusste Du verstehst mich. Great. Thank you.
You’re very welcome.