Make no apologies for who you are or what you stand for. And make no apologies for any successes or victories you’ve had. Most importantly, make no apologies for loving yourself and going after what you want and what you deserve.
Bullies will get jealous of your successes and victories and try to undermine them. They give you backhanded compliments, accuse you of having “freak luck” or call you an imposter.
Also, if you’re a confident and happy person, bullies will be jealous of that too. They will accuse you of being “full of yourself”, “arrogant”, “conceited” and other such nonsense.
Turn a deaf ear to these haters!
Lots of times, targets of bullying, after having been bullied for so long, end up apologizing for or explaining away beautiful parts of their personality because they have been forced by others to believe that something really is wrong with them.
If this applies to you, I want you to stop doing that! You owe no one any apologies, nor explanations for being YOU.
I want you to think about this: Perceptions are often wrong and just because others “perceive” you to be less than does not mean that you are. Stop apologizing, stop explaining and begin loving yourself.
this is soo true! I used to be like this in high school and university, trying to be like other
Thank you so much. I did too during junior high or now called middle school and it left me feeling exhausted.
I think, as in my case, being made to step away from the authentic me, to the fit the world me, to the point that I almost fear the authentic. Being put in the social distancing position has allowed me to rediscover the hidden parts, but I wonder if even I am afraid of all the different aspects of the authentic me even as I happily allow her more freedoms bit by personal bit.
That’s understandable, being authentic comes about slowly. It never happens overnight. But you’ll discover as you let more and more things about yourself come to light, the better and freer you’ll feel.
I do agree as I’m sensing that already.