Many times, I would pit a few of my classmates against each other. If I knew of a few who disliked or hated each other, I’d very quietly and secretly pit them against each other. An offhand comment here, another there, and I’d have them fighting among themselves. Yeah, I know, it was a shady thing to do. However, if I could keep them fighting among themselves, then I could distract their attention and hostility away from me and, thus, keep the spotlight away!
And when people chronically bully you as they did me, you’ll do anything, and I mean anything to get a nice, albeit short, a reprieve from all the drama. And sometimes, “ya gotta do what ya gotta do” to keep yourself safe.
If you can find a few bullies who hate each other as much as they hate you, then perfect! Or, you can find classmates or coworkers who are mad at each other, stoke the fires a little, and take advantage of it! Stir the pot between them because if you can keep them busy fighting each other, they’ll leave you alone. And let me tell you! It worked wonders!
Understand that your goal is not to cause trouble. Your goal is to take the “hadar” (hate radar) off you and to protect yourself.
The only thing I’d advise is that you should use this sparingly. Save this little technique until you’ve exhausted all other options.
So, if you must, keep them too busy to even think about you. It’s not that you’re trying to hurt anyone; your only goal is to keep yourself safe!
With knowledge comes power!
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When Jesus Christ addressed his disciples by saying, “Be ye wise as serpents, and meek as doves,” I believe that it is precisely to this absolute personal vigilance that exhorts his disciples
“The serpent was more cunning than all the beasts of the field which the Lord God had made.”
Amen! And we have serpents everywhere!
And the seed of the snakes (still) is prolific. Blessed be the “seed of the woman” in Christ!
“I will put enmity between you and the woman, between your seed and her seed. It shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.”
Girl, as serious as your stance was, somehow I am tickled that you were flying under the “hadar!” 😜 (Like a stealth bomber perhaps?) You did what you had to do at that moment. You went into survival mode and look at you…you survived! Yes girlfriend, survived and thriving. I’m dropping the mic 🎤🎤🎤 and exiting Stage Left! Smooches! 😘💋😘💋😘💋
Awww! Thank you so much, girlie! I looove the stealth bomber part of your comment! I had to chuckle a little because it’s cute! 😁😁😁💖💐🌹🦋 And you’re right, I survived like Gloria Gaynor, honey! You know it! 🎶💪🎶💪🎶💪
Oooh, yeah! 🎶💃🎼🎵🎶💃🎼🎵
After reading this post, I admire you even more for your quick thinking. As I said I am a huge fan of yours. Keep smiling and shining always. 😊😊😊
You don’t know how much that means to me, Aparna! Thank you so much! 💖
I was chuckling at your words. They’re wise and well said! I think as human beings our first responsibility is to ourselves and no remorse should be had when we’re instigating a bit in order to get some reprieve!
Thanks for sharing, Cherie 😊
You’re very welcome, Simone! And I totally agree with you there! Sometimes you gotta look out for yourself and do what you can to survive! 💯💯💯
Thank you, Henry. 💖💐🌹