It seems to be the question on everyone’s mind these days, especially in the notoriously politically correct climate in which we live. The media and politicians vehemently discourage fighting violence with violence. You’ll hear statements from others, such as:
“Two wrongs don’t make a right.”
“Turn the other cheek.”
“Don’t stoop to the bully’s level.”
And the all-time favorite,
“Be the bigger person and walk away.”
I’ve heard them all.
Yes, you should try more peaceful ways first, like walking away from the bully or reporting it to someone in power. However, what if the more peaceful solutions don’t work?
If you don’t stand up for yourself, the bully will only continue to come after you and hurt you. Also, everyone who knows you will see you as a punching bag at school and everywhere else. Because when word gets around that one person can hit you and get away with it, everyone else will think they can too. They’ll peg you as the school or the community whipping boy. That’s no way to live.
In the middle of a physical attack, the last resort is the only option you take.
So, here it is:
When a bully physically attacks you, you have a God-given, primal, animal right to defend yourself from being harmed. I state this with full conviction!
Therefore, if a bully hits you first, haul off and knock his block off! And when you do, don’t just give him a love pat. Deck the creep with the strength of your entire body- hit so hard that the bully has difficulty getting back up. Then unleash a hail of hard licks so that he doesn’t get up. Because once the bully gets up, he will charge you!
Yeah. I know it isn’t the “politically correct” thing to do. But when someone is harming you, all that jazz about political correctness and being the bigger person goes out the window, and the gloves are off.
Make them Not want to put their hands on you ever again!
The only thing you should think of at this point is how to disable the bully. Additionally, you want to give him such a bad memory that he’ll never even think about coming for you again. You aren’t a troublemaker or a brute for this, folks! It’s called self-defense!
However, this doesn’t mean that you bring a gun or other deadly weapon. Lethal weapons will only kill someone, and put you behind bars for the rest of your life. Never EVER carry a gun to school! It’s much better to put up your dukes and throw down when you must.
Again, punch the bully’s lights out! School stuff may suspend you from school, and managers may fire you from work. You may even go to jail for a night or two. However, people are much more vicious with physical attacks nowadays. Furthermore, if you just let someone smack you around, they’ll only intensify the beatings until they hurt you bad enough to send you to the hospital or worse! And I’d much rather them suspend me, fire me, or take me to jail than to spend a month in the hospital or end up six feet under.
You may not condone fighting but sometimes there’s no other option.
Nevertheless, you may not condone fighting. Although you may need to fight many times in school, you may hate it each time you have to. However, when you’re a 5’4″, 120-pound girl being jumped and most of the time by multiple assailants, it may be your only option. If you are a small-built male and the attacker is much bigger than you, it’s not the time to play patty-cake. There will be times when you’re boxed in and cannot go anywhere.
When there’s no other choice, it’s either fight or risk your bullies possibly maiming or killing you. Sometimes the last resort is the only way to protect yourself. You must let the bully know that you’re not the one to mess with and that you aren’t afraid to fight back if necessary.
There will be others who may disagree with this post, and that’s okay. I am very thick-skinned now and rarely do I get offended. I can agree to disagree. But I will do what I have to do to protect my well-being and my life if ever I’m in physical danger.
So, if all else fails, go ahead and whoop that ***!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject. Feel free to comment below.
Great post Cherie and I agree, sometimes you have to fight fire with fire for the Bullies to get the message that you will protect yourself. When we fight back, we give the message that we won’t be doormats to their abuse and in time, the hope is that they will leave you alone. Most of the time, it works.
Thank you so much, Stella. I’ve always believed in the right to self-defense.
Several points here. First, I think for those that disagree with your post, they miss the point. No one is condoning violence. Fighting should never be the first answer BUT there are times when you have to take a stand. Second, never over or underestimate someone because of size or gender. Sometimes a small person may be tougher than you think and just because someone is big and strong looking doesn’t necessarily make it so.
The thing with true bullies is they are cowards looking for perceived easy targets. Many times if you put up your dukes they will back away and claim “you aren’t worth it
” In actuality, you called their bluff. And because bullies want “power” the last thing they want is to lose in front of their peers because if someone perceived as tough loses to the captain of the chess team in a fight, their reputation is gone. More people will challenge the bully and even their followers will turn. And if the bullied person loses, if they even stand up for themselves they earn respect from others who wish they had the Guts to do the same or if they lose but hold their own for a while it is still a win. And just the willingness to fight them back increases the odds the bully will leave them alone more and more.
And I think a good rule of parenting is to teach kids never to initiate a fight but if you get attacked you have a right to defend yourself. Every person, man, woman and child have a right within reason to defend themselves.
You absolutely nailed it with this comment, S. There will indeed be times when you must take a stand. And yes, and small people can be tough in that they have tremendous speed behind them. I’ve personally seen this. Thirdly, bullies are indeed the biggest cowards who need easy targets. And when you finally stomp the crap of of a bully, he doesn’t want anymore of what he got and he leaves you alone. Bullying is all about power and if they can’t get it from you, they will go look for another target. And you made a great point that when the bully gets her tail whipped, her power is gone and people see that she isn’t so tough. That’s when the people she mistreated in the past can come back and rub it in her face. And the target reclaims their power. But the bully loses theirs – more socially than anything else. People see the bully as a punk. Lastly, parents absolutely should teach their children not to start it, but to finish it if someone else starts with them. You made so many great points here and I love your comment.
I agree fully here, back in my day, the victim was usually blamed for being bullied and you highlighted was this was the case. However, when I did retaliate, the original actions by the bully was ignored and it was twisted around that I started it.
I can relate, Michael. However, at least you stood up for yourself. If I’m going to be blamed anyway, I might as well go ahead and fight and get as much out of it as humanly possible.
I’m fortunate that I was never physically attacked. My father never advocated violence but he did teach me some self defense… And I was small but wiry and was capable of holding my own against siblings who were younger but larger.!
You are very fortunate, Valerie. And I’m happy that you didn’t have to go through physical attacks at school or anywhere else. Sibling rivalries are a real thing and sometimes you may have to fight although you love them. So, you got training at home, at least. 😂🤣😂🤣
Sibling rivalries are interesting things. A lot of it is normal and there is a fine line between bullying and just normal sibling stuff. It is also kind of a “king or queen of the mountain” moment when the younger or considerably smaller sibling can physically take the older siblings. It totally changes the dynamic of the house.
Absolutely right! Sibling stuff is mostly a competition.
That’s an interesting subject in itself, the sibling (brother/sister) factor. I think it is normal competitive for one of the siblings to try and be dominant and in most cases the stronger sibling usually seems to be able to be that. I guess the question is how one uses that strength advantage. Some are protectors.
I think what it comes down to is we have a ride to defend our lives and well-being. If there is not a better option I see no other option than to defend ourselves physically. I’m with you on this one. Even turn the other cheek is taken out of context sometimes!
I totally agree, Petrina. Bullies can sometimes use the “turn the other cheek” thing to guilt their targets into not fighting back and letting them abuse them. Targets shouldn’t fall for it. Thank you for bringing this up!