When I stopped caring what others thought of me, I stopped apologizing for being me. Instead of hiding my flaws, I started embracing them. Instead of judging myself, I began loving and accepting myself- all aspects, the good and the not-so-good. I started living up to my own standards and experiencing life on my terms.
When I stopped worrying needlessly about what people thought, I set myself free from the chains of fear and anxiety and was no longer a slave to others’ opinions and approval. I no longer felt the need to walk on eggshells and hide my natural humanness. I stopped feeling like I wasn’t good enough and comparing myself to others. I no longer allowed anyone else to dictate what I should say, do, think, or feel.
I began permitting myself to make mistakes because we all make them whether or not some of us admit it. Even better, I started learning from those mistakes and seeing them as life lessons, rather than defects or screw-ups. I finally accepted that I’m not and never will be perfect. Who is?
Silhouettes of hands are breaking the chain—freedom concept.
I learned that like, and dislike is subjective, never personal. I accepted that not everybody was going to like me and was not only okay with it but embraced it! Because if you don’t have people who don’t like you, you’re not doing something right- in one area or another, you’re not your true, authentic self.
I permitted myself to follow my heart, sing, dance, speak my piece, and yes! Even be a little weird. In all this, I took back control of my life and found freedom I’d never known.
The day I stopped caring what people think was the day I got my life back, and slowly but surely, my bullies began to disappear. I began to feel beautiful, smart, and, best of all, equal.
Positive things started coming my way magically and seemingly without effort. I began attracting the right people into my life- genuine people who were loving, caring, uplifting, and inspiring. Existing relationships drastically improved. An abundance of opportunities and blessings flowed into my life. I began seeing wins and successes that were very rewarding and fulfilling, which only encouraged me to stretch my imagination, take more risks, and try new things.
Today, I look back and ask myself why. Why did I even give a crap what my bullies and others- people who meant absolutely jack to me and could do nothing for me, thought of me?
They weren’t my family or friends.
They didn’t pay my bills.
They didn’t sign my paycheck every week.
They didn’t hold my life in their hands.
And they most certainly weren’t people I cared anything about.
I wasted a lot of time and energy, which I can never get back, worrying needlessly about what people thought of me. The truth of it is that most of those people nor their opinions were never even worth my consideration.
The only opinions that matter are those of my God, my family, my husband, and my closest and most trusted friends. And the only things that matter are my faith in God, my dreams, my morals, taking care of the people I love, my ability to be the best me I can be, and my desire to extend kindness and reach out and help those who need me. Anyone or anything outside of that is irrelevant.
Wow nice! I wish I was as far in this process as you are, as it sounds great. I want to be there, I’m trying to let go of the things and people that hurt me in the past. But some parts of my past left huge scars and they keep bringing my attention back to them, making this process go very slowly. I’m feeling I’m still going forward but sometimes when I’ve taken three steps, I feel like I need to take two back again… Is a long process for sure. Thanks for sharing! ♥
You’re most welcome, Cynni. And I completely understand. It takes many, many years to recover from abuse. And if the scars are deep- it can take decades. But know that you will get there. I believe in you, sweetie. Sending you lots of love! ❤️
Thanks dear! 🤗 At least I’m at the point where I’ve recognized what went wrong and now I’m learning to make amends for all I’ve done. Trying to heal while finding my own true best self. And those scars make it hard a lot of the times. But they also remind me sometimes of how far I have come. ♥ Wishing you all the best ♥
You’re so welcome! And that’s an awesome way to look at your scars, Cynni! They’re a testament to how far you’ve come! Sending you lots of love! ❤️
I really enjoyed this little look into the journey of rediscovering Self. Sometimes we have to go through hell to break into paradise. Now that I write that, I don’t know if there is another way to break through. Thank you for sharing.
You’re most welcome, Dr. Maples! And I love this here: “Sometimes we have to go through hell to break into paradise.” No truer words! 💯🎯
So so true. We are who we are. Each and everyone of us is a unique being. We should live by our own standards, as we deem fit.
Thanks for sharing 🙏
You’re most welcome! And thank you for your thoughts- they’re very valuable! 💎❤
This one is a great read!!!
Thank you so much, Prachi. 💖
Love your post dear ! This IS the absolute key to happiness , for sure ! I’ve been blessed to have known this for the better part of my life , though sadly , not my teen years . Those could have been better , had I . I tried to teach you this earlier in your life but no one understands this concept till they are mentally open to it . All we can do is be the best person we can be , work every day to grow and improve ourselves , and then except and forgive ourselves , and others , for failures . Being human is a continuous work in progress ! 🤜🏼🤛🏼❤️😘🙏
Thank you so much, Mom! I love you so much! I love you more than I could ever say or express. 💖😘😘😘 I wish I had been receptive to it earlier in life but I didn’t understand what you were trying to teach me until later on! Thank you for never giving up on me- even after I’d given up on myself. I’ll forever be grateful to you! 💖💐🌹🕊🦋