Many teachers and school staff often stick targets of mobbing and bullying with labels. They brand them with labels, such as, “trouble,” “difficult,” or “problem child.” This sets the targeted child up to be discriminated against by their school. Therefore, it creates a very hostile and dangerous environment when adults are prejudiced against the poor, kid.
In these types of situations, the target is only bullied worse. Why? Because he/she isn’t afforded the same due process that their classmates get. As a result, the school staff ends up empowering the bullies. Even worse, they end up supporting the bullies, even encouraging them to bully that child.
We must realized that targets may act out due to prolonged bullying and resulting stress.
Let’s face it, no one can withstand the intense pressure of bullying and mobbing for long. A person can only be pushed so far. If you kick a dog long enough, you’ll get bit eventually.
When a target is bullied and mobbed by their classmates, they are forced to submit to horrendous and downright grotesque abuse. And this kind of bullying is unfathomable to most adults. The message targets receive from others is just to “shut up and take it.”
In fact, when you’re a target of school bullying and mobbing, your world becomes quite Kafkaesque. Even you have a hard time believing what you’re experiencing. So, is it any wonder that no one else can believe it either? The questions, “What the hell?” and “Is this really happening?” come to mind. You feel as if you’ve stepped into the twilight zone.
This is because being mobbed is the feeling of being crushed by nonsensical, bizarre, and blind abuse.
Even worse, you’re powerless to understand or control what is happening.
The target suffers mistreatment, isolation, exclusion, and yes- even brutal physical beatings. Therefore, he’ll be too afraid to plead for help because he knows that the school staff will ignore his cries. And what’s more frightening is that his bullies will take retribution on him for daring to open his mouth.
Eventually the target snaps and acts inappropriately due to long-lasting and extreme stress. The bullying and abuse she suffers will be ignored but the target’s reactions to it won’t be ignored. Therefore, the target becomes re-victimized by the very adults, school, and system which is supposed to protect her.
Here’s an example:
A girl is bullied by everyone in her class. The teacher either doesn’t see it or thinks the girl deserves it. And maybe, the teacher thinks that bullying is only a right of passage that builds character. During one occasion, the bully sitting behind the targeted girl pulls her hair. The target then gets fed up with being mistreated. Unable to tolerate any more abuse, she turns around and punches the bully who pulled her hair.
Now the teacher, very conveniently, doesn’t see the other girl pull the target’s hair. However, she does see the target turn around and punch her in the nose. Therefore, the teacher punishes the target without even considering what the other girl did to prompt her to punch her.
The message the teacher sends is crystal clear: The target has no recourse, and the bully now has carte blanche to continue bullying her in the future. So, this same scenario repeats itself a few times. And, the next thing you know, the target gets a bad name with the school staff. That’s when everyone becomes very suspicious of her.
The principal catches the target in the hall between classes. He tells her, aloud, in front of the other students, that he is watching her. The other kids, especially the bullies, overhear the principal. As a result, they take it as a green light to continue their abuse because they know they won’t be held accountable.
After all, if the target reports the bullying, who’s going to believe the “problem child?”
So, the school staff continue to harangue the target, making her situation much worse than what it needs to be. And their justification for their treatment of the target is to protect the other students who fit into what is “normal” and who obey the rules. Therefore, they use that to defend their emotional abuse of the target. It’s all an excuse for their singling her out for humiliation in front of God and everyone.
Understand that, when this occurs, the school is willingly participating in destroying another human being.
Therefore, it’s imperative that targeted students and teens hold on to their sense of self, pride, and confidence. They must hold on to those treasures with everything they have.
It’s also crucial that parents and grandparents teach them how- they must teach these children to believe in themselves even when it seems that no one else believes in them. They must teach them to know their worth even when others don’t.
They must teach them to love and respect themselves even as others hate and disrespect them. Why? Because it is during the most difficult times that they’re need these virtues the most.
With knowledge comes power!
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Thank you so much! 💖 You don’t know how much this means!
I know exactly what you’re talking about here because I remember it, even though it was fifty years ago now. It’s a manifestation of cowardice and laziness by the adults in authority. It’s just too much work to figure out which kid is actually creating the problem, so they resort to lazy formulations like “it takes two to start a fight” and behave as if the victim were equally responsible. And, frankly, a few teachers are bullies in spirit themselves.
I totally agree. It’s mostly due to laziness although other factors may be involved too. I’m sorry you went through such horrible abuse yourself. Know that none of it was your fault.
Don’t get me wrong. This is a completely awesome article and thank you for writring it.. But I don’t want people reading it to think the whole problem will be solved by telling a victim of years of extreme tramua to believe in themselves …though hopefully that can be the case sometimes. THowever his might only work if the target has objetive reasons for high self esteem such as good grades and a bright future.
After making myself a ward of the court to escape school abuse in the mid 1980s (I was able to move to a group home and attend schooling there) I did have the director tell me “Believe in yourself” But was unable to do so. This might have had something to do with severe diagnosed learninng disablities, whichi is why I was targeted in the first place. I ended up being diagnosed as paranoid schizoprhenic because I WAS defiately paranoid and I was never believed (fully) over what had happened to me. This has been extremely expensive to the tax payers. Today people like me might be more accurately diagnosed as having complex PTSD, and I HOPE that is the case. A more accurate dianosis in cases like that might lead to eventuall awareness of the mental health costs of bullying and forcing policy makers to make more protective laws including less laws protecting minors for their harrassment of others.
I’m so sorry you endured such abuse at your school. Know that none of it was your fault and that the people who abused you had the issues, not you! Know that you are enough, no matter what anyone told you.
But I don’t want people reading it to think the whole problem will be solved by telling a victim of years of extreme tramua to believe in themselves
This is true. It can be immensely difficult to overcome or even understand the damage done to the mind. This is why, in a comment on an earlier post here, I mentioned professional counseling. I’ve been seeing a counselor for a long time, mostly about an issue unrelated to bullying, but she has also helped me understand the problems created by an abusive environment in childhood, insights I don’t believe I would ever have gained any other way. Counselors are educated in how this kind of trauma works and trained in helping people overcome it. Even with their help, it can be a slow process, but I have found the help to be tremendously valuable.
Thank you so much, Infidel. 🤗 Counselling and therapy can be wonderful ways to get back your self-esteem and confidence.
Frankly most school anti-bullying policies are a joke. And there are some teachers who do indeed bully students (and of course some students who try to bully teachers). The public school system as a whole is deeply flawed and in trouble.
Thank you! I couldn’t agree more! 💯💯💯The anti-bullying policies that schools have are only as good as the paper they’re written on. Because schools don’t enforce them. They only pay lip service.
Again, something else I know all too well from experience. The teacher I based Miss Erichetti on was exactly like that.
I know, Michael. She was one of the characters I disliked the most. I’m so sorry your teacher treated you so badly. But if she could see you now, she’d be stunned at the life and family you’ve created. Sending lots of love to you and yours.
As a teacher myself, I can say that a lot of what she did would be considered bad practice today. Remembering what she was like, she would still try to to take credit for how I turned out. I turned out well in spite of her .
I agree with everything you mentioned here, Michael! You rose above her in a lot of ways!
Oh my gosh…how much have I missed? 😲 No matter, I’m proud that you still are marching on…glory, glory, hallelujah! 😜 Girlfriend, ain’t this the truth – “A person can only be pushed so far. If you kick a dog long enough, you’ll get bit eventually.” AMEN to that. How many times have we heard that one. Hence, I didn’t kick dogs or people because the bite could be fatal. 😝😝😝
Enjoy the rest of your day sweetie pie! Keep on truckin’ baby!!! 😘🚛😎
Thank you so much, Kym! Girl, your comments and love mean so much to me! I want to let you know that I’m going on a hiatus because I’m exhausted and having a few health issues, as is my husband. I’ve been lagging behind in reading other bloggers posts and it’s because I’m so tired and I’ve been sick a lot lately. I posted the announcement on the blog. But know that this isn’t goodbye. I’ll channel my inner Schwarzenegger and say, “I’ll be back!”
It will probably toward the end of the summer, maybe sooner. It depends on when I recover. Love you, girlie! I’ll see you when I return!
Thank you for giving such a perspective on this! Truly eye opening!
Thank you so much, Hippo! 💖 This means a lot!
Hey Cherie- I hope that those educators are no longer as prevalent as they were when I went to school- but when you get back, I really wanna pluck this topic apart with you- cause sad to say, that the old greyhorse is still out there causing a dust storm! More when you get back! Miss ya!
Thank you so much, Kim! I look forward to talking with you about it! I miss you too, sweetie!
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Thank you so much! My apologies that it took so long for me to respond. I’m just coming out of a blogging hiatus. I will definitely check out your blog.
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Hey Growthspurt and Cherie,
I love teaching and consider myself highly professional. It breaks my heart to see that bullying is still a huge issue in 2022. I work hard to keep my kids on an even keel in my class and am super eagle eyed at finding the source when a conflict arises, but many think what I do is daunting. I get that my colleagues are overworked and stretched… me too, but ya know, what you ignore, you condone and that is not a message I like to put out there in my room or on the playground or throughout the school.
That is not the way it is with many higher ups- in my experiences, many constantly seem to ignore bad behaviour of some students because they are afraid of the repercussions from that parent or even the entire community. But when they turn on the target- it seems to me that they hope that the target will slip away into the night, It is sickening! It is easier to pick on the target who perhaps does not have as influential parents, status, income or a voice in the community. It seems it is best to side with the cash, the influencer, the big mouth. Shameful!
On the upside, the ratio of bully teachers/ administrators out there picking on students seems to be dwindling- but not in a good way! The system seems to tuck those people away to higher posts of authority instead of ridding the system of them completely. It’s a reward for horrific behaviour!
More schools and boards need to be cleaned out and restructured so that caring, safe and welcoming environments do indeed exist at all levels for all students and staff.
My 2 cents- I am hopping off the soap box. Who’s next?
Very well-said, Kim! By all means, hop back on it because you’re telling the cold, hard truth! Preach, girl! 📢🎙📣 Because it’s a truth more need to hear and accept. Sending you lots of love and hugs, sweetie! ❤️🤗😘❤️🤗😘