When you walk into a room, you shouldn’t wonder if the people there will like you; you should wonder whether you’ll like them. Whenever you get nervous upon meeting new people, the root of the nervousness is that you’re afraid they won’t like you. Don’t do that! Understand that when you worry about how others will perceive you, you’re taking value away from yourself and giving them too much of it! Not good!
Stop giving people you don’t know the worth they haven’t earned!
That’s right! When you meet new people, they (and you) are starting with a clean slate, and as far as you’re concerned, it’s up to them whether they fill that slate with negatives or positives. They must prove to you whether they’re people that you want in your life, not the other way around.
When you worry needlessly whether other people will like you, you give them all your power and leave none for yourself. And you’ll likely go out of your way to prove to them that you’re worthy of their time. Bullies will sniff that out, and they’ll take advantage of it.
Stop! It’s too much work, and it’s beneath you!
When I was a young teenager, I did the same because I didn’t know any better. And it cost me! Today, I’m the opposite. When I meet a new person, I wonder if I’m going to like them. If a person wants my friendship, trust, and my time, they have to earn them.
Be picky about who you allow in your life because you don’t want to let just anyone in! And you don’t want to let them in right away. Observe them first. Note their demeanor and how they carry themselves because it will tell you a lot.
Realize that when you make friends and associates, it’s because you chose them out of a vast number of people you’ve met.
Selectiveness adds value to a person. So, always value yourself.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Yes true that half the worries only arises about what other people might think 🙏🙏
Thank you so much, Michelle! 💖💯
Very good post Cherie! As always. I’m going to sent it to my young co-worker. I think she needs your words 🙂
Have a beautiful day! 🌞🌻
Thank you so much, Angela! 💖Please feel free to do so! 😊
Great Post! It’s amazing how such a small shift in thinking can make such a huge impact! Best Wishes! Leigh
Thank you so much, Leigh! And you’re so right about the shift in thinking! 💖🌺🌹
Your posts are really informative, especially from the emotive or psychological perspective.
WHOA, now talk about some serious role reversal Cherie! Be selective and value yourself. Great advice my friend and an excellent post! 😍👍🏼🤗🌟🥰💖😘💋
Thank you so much, my fellow DJ! I always look forward to your uplifting comments! 💖🌺🌹
i dont like me or them either.
I was of the same mind for a long time after my three years in Hell. Now, I decide if I am going to like someone or not.
Exactly, Michael! I’m amazed at how you’ve overcome! Keep being your authentic self and feeling good about it! ❤️🌺🌷🦋
Thanks Cherie and you do the same.
Your posts are empowering. Thank you, Cherie. 🙏🏻
You’re most welcome, Michele. 💖🤗
I gave up and I quit the popularity contest a long time ago.
I am very selective of who I allow into my personal circle. I am friendly to all my neighbors, but none of them are truly in my personal circle.
I completely understand, Dwain! I’m the same way as you when it comes to letting people into my life! My circle is very small and it’s how I like it! 👍
I do worry about what people think of me, though I’m less bothered than I used to be. I think getting older helps.
I wish your blog was around 30 or so years ago because it would have helped me as a teenager.
I hope lots of people who have or are being bullied have the opportunity to read your blog.
Keep up the good work. 😀
Thank you so much, Rachel. And I’m like you- I wish I’d had a way to find this stuff out when I was a teen because it surely would’ve saved me a lot of heartache. However, I had to learn the hard way and that takes a lot of time. Again, thank you so much for your comment! I can so relate to how you feel!
Excellent advice. Thanks for sharing.
You’re most welcome, Sherlene! 💖 And thank you so much for your feedback!