Bullies see any recognition the target gets for a good deed, high marks, an accomplishment, or success as the target’s having diminished them somehow. If you’re a target, these types of bullies will only see any success you enjoy as a reflection on them.
You force them to think about and take stock of their own successes and failures. Understand that it’s the bullies’ self-focus that sets the stage for their anger and hostility toward you. They will personalize your success as if you’re an opponent who’s competing with them for the same prize.
The bullies are forced to compare themselves with you because they’re afraid that other people will consider them less worthy or important than you. They feel invisible and left out because they’re not getting the praise that you’re getting. So, they get a sense of disregard from others.
But rather than have normal feelings of disappointment and regret, they have anger and hatred toward you.
Although you never harmed them, the bullies feel a sense of injustice because they feel that you don’t deserve the recognition, but they do. They feel wronged and very much entitled to their anger and hostility.
Bullies will then accuse you of thinking you’re better than they are- as if they know what you’re thinking. And they really do think they can read your mind correctly, which then only further arouses their anger and hate.
Again, according to the bullies’ logic, you’ve wronged them somehow so, you are the enemy. And this perceived wrong that you’ve done compels the bullies to act hostile toward you because the bullies’ egos have been bruised by your successes and accomplishments.
Just as money is the root of evil, the ego is the root of jealousy. And bullies have enormous egos!
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Very well said. A perfect post with a wonderful message.
This means a lot! Thank you. 🙂 💖
he asks are you asleep three times
what if i was comfortable son?
why does that make you mad?
sounds like a bully to me
sad to say
looking for trouble
at every opportunity
in my case, it got to the point that whenever I had a good grade or played well in a game, it was denounced as luck or that I cheated.
Absolutely, 💯 Michael! Bullies can’t stand to see you do well! 👿
It is a disturbed individual that feels anger every time someone else succeeds. There have been a few times in my life where to be honest I have felt anger and jealousy when I had a crush or liked someone through the years and they looked past me (especially when they end getting treated like crap). Then one day I realized my anger and jealousy was a poor reflection on me. Frankly it is their loss, I knew I had much to offer. And the truth is a few times I expected them to be mindreaders and never told them how I felt about them. That is on me.
Absolutely right! And I’ve had those times too, I think we all have. As you say, sometimes we have to look at it from a different attitude- it’s their loss, not yours. 🙂
I think you summed this up brilliantly Cherie, “Just as money is the root of evil, the ego is the root of jealousy. And bullies have enormous egos!” Jealousy and green with envy, oh what a dangerous and destructive combination! 🤢 Great post sweetie pie! 👏🏼 Enjoy your weekend my dear! 😘💖🥰
Thank you so much, Kym! Sending lots of love, dahhh-ling! <3 😀
My arms are open and I am pouring love right back in your pretty direction kiddo! Enjoy the rest of your FANtabulous weekend my dear! Rest, relax, and release! 💘💃🏼🥳💃🏽💖 Smooches! 😘💋😍
Smooches back, lovely! 😘😘😘 You have a fantabulous, and relaxing weekend too! 💖💐🌹💫😀
Gurllll, you know I will, and I know you will too!!! 🥰💋💐😘😍
brilliantly said and very true…
Thank you so much! 😊
your welcome ma’am…
You took us right into the mind of a bully and came out with the message, “Its not you, its them. The problem is all on them.”
Thanks for sharing
You’re most welcome. 😊
Hi Cherie I really like your statement about jealousy being one of the roots of bullying. Do you think that this is ultimately linked to low self esteem and /or confidence? Our insecurities are deep and complex like our personalities. Great Post 😊🥰
Thank you so much, Paul! 😊 And yes, they’re linked to low self-esteem, and also to ego.
Thanks for your response. Keep battling the bullies! 😊🥰
You’re most welcome! And I sure will! 😊😍
Very well said. Insecurities all over again.
Absolutely! 💯🎯 Thank you so much. 😊🤗
Thank you for spelling it out 💕
My pleasure, Ruby! 🤗🙂
please read also https://uwagood.com/2022/04/02/relationship-jealousy/
Thank you so much!