Never Allow Yourself to Hate

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Sadly, hate is too easy for bullying targets to get sucked into. When people have treated you so horrifically for long enough, you lose faith in humanity. A person who is the object of bullying begins believing that all people are self-serving lowlifes who enjoy seeing other human beings suffer. They soon become the very people they’re suspicious of. I’ve been there.

Targets of bullying often feel that there is justification for their hate. However, does this intense loathing serve any purpose or have benefits? No!

No matter how some creep may have wronged you, never give in to hate. Regardless of how severely that person may have transgressed against you, do not, under any circumstances, allow yourself to hate them because hate is poisonous! Not to the other person but to YOU!

Here’s why:

1. Hate burns you up inside. It eats down into your very soul and prolongs feelings of hurt, depression, and downright misery.

2. Hate doesn’t hurt the person being hated. It hurts you because nine times out of ten, the person you hate either doesn’t know about it, or they don’t care.

3. Anytime you hold hate in your heart against anyone, you unwittingly give up any blessings. Also, you forego any opportunities, which would otherwise come your way. You instead invite negativity and evil into your world. Hatred causes you to forego your own happiness, and life is too short to be anything but happy.

4. While you are sitting around stewing over some idiot who has wronged you in the past, the same idiot is going about their merry way and not giving you so much as a thought.

Hate Serves You No Purpose

That’s right. While you are holding grudges and plotting ways to get back at them, that person is just getting on with life. The person who hurt you is not worried about you. They are not thinking about you. So why do you think about them? They are a complete waste of brain activity!

Hate, insecurity, grudges, anger- they are all garbage in your life that needs to be disposed of. It’s time to take out the trash and take back the peace and happiness that you not only deserve but have a divine right to.

You deserve to be happy. And the only way you will find happiness is to let go of any grudges and hate and replace them with love and acceptance. It is what I had to do before I could be happy.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

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  1. Tamara Kulish from says:

    The biggest antidote one can employ with bullies is to realize their hatred and anger stems from within them and the vitriol they hurl is from their own heart, not based in truths about you. Then the very radical process of teaching ourselves to like and to love ourselves removes us from their radar, for they sense this person just isn’t a target anymore and they move on. When we teach ourselves to like and then to love ourselves, we develop the strength to set boundaries and to say no. Those two things are life changing tools!

    • cheriewhite says:

      Absolutely right! 💯 When you begin to love yourself, it is life changing. And bullies who have only bullied you a little while will leave you alone.

      However, once you’ve been bullied for a period of years, and the bullies have long grown comfortable with mistreating you, they won’t let go so easily and they will push against the new you. It only depends on whether they’ve grown accustomed to the bullying.

      Thank you so much for your thoughts! They are more valuable than you know! ❤️🌺

      • Tamara Kulish from says:

        Bullying and verbal abuse are sister issues. I believe when we grow the love for ourselves we need, we can set boundaries with them bullies. If they choose to overstep, we have 2 choices, to continue to accept it, or to stand up and say, “if you treat me that way I can’t be around you.” then leave or hang up the phone. Difficult I know. I had to do that with my mother, but I was able to stop her daily 1-2 hours of berating me. When I spoke those words to her I was trembling like a leaf, but I stuck to my words, and her bullying and mistreatment stopped. We don’t owe anyone such a debt as to become their doormat or punching bag. The peace I now know is precious and hard-won. We each owe this to ourselves! We all deserve to live in peace!

        • cheriewhite says:

          I’m so proud of you, Tamara! You lived yourself enough to stand up to her and that’s the strongest and bravest thing. I wish you nothing but more peace. I wish you love and I wish you success going forward. Blessings to you! 💖💐🌺

  2. DutchIl says:

    Thank you for sharing!!.. “Holding on to bitterness is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die” (Author Unknown)… 🙂

    Until we meet again..
    May love and laughter light your days,
    and warm your heart and home.
    May good and faithful friends be yours,
    wherever you may roam.
    May peace and plenty bless your world
    with joy that long endures.
    May all life’s passing seasons
    bring the best to you and yours!
    (Irish Saying)

  3. Anonymous says:

    To hold onto hate is to let the other person wreak havoc on your emotional health. (It’s also exhausting.) Why would you want to give him that much power?

  4. Aali Abbasi says:

    Hate. That’s how it starts. The fever. The rage. The feeling of hopefulness that turns good men … cruel. – Alfred Pennyworth (Batman V Superman).

    Hate is always foolish. Love is always wise. – 12th Doctor (Doctor Who).

    I remind myself of the two quotes everyday as I do not want to slip onto a pathway or become someone I do not want to be.

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