Most bullies may peak in high school but only become irrelevant in the real world.
High school is child’s play – the kiddie pool of life, if you will. And most often, graduation means the end of the line for most “popular” bullies and cliques.
I say this because most of my former school bullies had their fame in school but have done very little with their lives since. Most achieve very little as adults, while those bullied by these types evolve into remarkable and highly successful adults.
There are bullies who become successful in life also but it usually doesn’t last. They end up losing it all in the end.
I know this for a fact because one of my older school bullies got a Nursing degree, then worked as the Director of Nursing in a nursing home. She seemed to be moving up in the world and got handed the most favorable positions- all because she was well-known in the town. (Most of my bullies from school either became nurses, law enforcement, teachers, or went to work in corrections.)
While working her prestigious DON position, she got hooked on prescription pills, and someone caught her stealing out of the medicine cart. The owners of the nursing facility fired her from her job. Next, the state of Tennessee revoked her nursing license. Then her husband divorced her, and she ended up penniless and working in a local cafe for minimum wage. I can only imagine how humbled and humiliated she felt.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t secretly wish for anything bad to happen to anyone, and I don’t boast of the misfortunes of others- not even those who tormented me in school. I’m merely making the point that Karma does repay eventually, and most of these coddled and babied daddy’s girls and puffed up mama’s boys get a colossal letdown once they’re out on their own.
I came to find out that this has happened to many of my former bullies. They bully innocent others like myself during school, then get the comeuppance they never expected as adults.
Here are a few reasons why most of my ex-bullies aren’t very successful:
To be truly successful, a person must leave their comfort zones and face their worst fear- the possibility of failure. Most bullies will never leave the familiar. They’d rather stay in an environment where they continue to get opportunities, promotions, and rewards handed to them by their “town connections,” which are small to mediocre victories.
Most of my bullies never left that one-horse town. Why? Because they knew they wouldn’t get the special treatment and free passes in any other jurisdiction that were generously afforded them in *Oakley. Therefore, they stay where their friends are and know that they can get by on nepotism and the “Good Ole Boy System,” which rules not only *Oakley but most tiny Southern towns.
However, here’s the thing about small towns and rural areas. It doesn’t take long, nor does it take much effort to maximize potential in these areas, even for well-connected bullies and cliques. A person can only go so far in a rural area, so let them have their small town safety net because they’re only playing in the kiddie pool! They would drown in the big pond.
High school is the highlight of most people’s lives, so bullies today should enjoy it while they can. Because the real world doesn’t care who you were in high school.
Adult life has no concern with how popular you were, whether you were Homecoming Queen, the varsity football team’s star, or on the cheerleading squad. The workplace doesn’t care if you were in a fraternity or sorority or the if you were class president!
All the real world wants to know is whether or not you can contribute something to it, and most bullies are as incompetent as they come and add nothing to life but negativity.
I’m very thankful that many of my differences, ridiculed by my classmates, are the same characteristics and skills that people today (other than my former classmates) value and admire about me. WHAM! Take that, bullies!
With knowledge comes power!
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A very interesting analysis of bullies! I note that those I encountered in school did become police, administrators, bosses of one sort or another, and most continued to be a-holes towards subordinates or the people they “policed”.
Thank you, Doug. 😊 That’s not surprising. Bullies usually go for jobs that give them a little bit of power, prestige, or both. Many of my bullies also became police, managers, and correctional officers. Others became nurses and teachers. And they let that power go to their heads, that’s for sure.
Do you really think the DON was humbled and humiliated? Or is it more likely she blamed everything on everyone else? My experience is that those kinds of people never accept responsibility for anything that happens to them. Not to say that it’s impossible, just unlikely.
I totally agree, Jeff! It’s never their fault when someone bad happens because of their behavior. Naturally, her excuse was that people at the NH lied about her because they were jealous of her “good life.” Yeah, I know…It’s laughable at best.
Excellent post! I completely agree that real world cares not one bit about your high school glory days! Best Wishes! Leigh
Thank you so much, Leigh! 💖 Best wishes to you too, sweetie!
Yep, the classic case of people who peak in high school.
Absolutely, Balladeer! 💯
I went to my 10 yr HS reunion and it was more of the same. Here they are, 27/28 yr olds and their cliche. They didn’t say anything but they acted all giddy, and wanted me and others know that they were still popular. Oh Barf! Never went again.
That’s usually how reunions go. Reunions are just a time when adults regress into kids again. I don’t blame you for not wanting to go again!
Good ol’ boy networks exist outside of the South too…
Absolutely they do, Greg! They’re everywhere. 💯💯💯