Unfortunately, the label of mental instability is the easiest and most effective label to stick to a person. Sadly, a label like this tends to have loads of staying power because it’s the hardest to disprove- especially when the object of it is being bullied and mobbed.
Also, there’s a good chance that any target of bullying will be an emotional wreck because of the chronic abuse they suffer. So, there’s another reason the crazy label would be a clever label to pin to them.
When bullies label you as crazy, it doesn’t mean they actually think you are. Allow me to explain further:
Remember that bullies are big cowards and if they really and truly thought you were crazy, they wouldn’t mess with you at all. In, fact, they wouldn’t come near you. Instead, they would do everything they could to stay out of your way and avoid poking the bear.
They’d go out of their way to be on their best behavior around you because they know that if a person is, in fact, crazy, that person could rip their heads off and poop down their necks. That person could go postal and wipe them all out, then go home and eat a sandwich.
If a person with any common sense knows someone who is factually and utterly batshit crazy, their first instinct is to walk lightly around them and do their due diligence to keep from setting that person off!
So, if your bullies don’t really think you’re crazy, why then do they label you as such?
1. To discredit you. Your bullies aren’t stupid. They know that eventually, you’re likely to get fed up with their crap and either report them or stand up to them. And if everyone thinks you’re crazy, who’s going to take you seriously when you report the bullying?
2. To make you afraid to speak out or stand up to them. Again, just in case you begin standing your ground or speaking out about the abuse, bullies employ this tactic to keep you quiet and, in that, clean their reputations spotless. If you know that people think you’re crazy, chances are good that you’re going to be too afraid to open your mouth about it because you know that people probably won’t believe you. They will only say that, because of your “mental instability,” you’re probably just being paranoid.
You’ll also be too afraid to fight back because if you do, you know that the bullies will only convincingly reverse roles and play victim. Then, others will only assume that you went postal and either hurt those poor, innocent bullies, or you just threw a temper tantrum and began shouting and cursing people out for no reason. All because you’re just “crazy.”
Sure. Mental instability is one of the hardest to prove. It’s true that your bullies can never prove you’re crazy, but there’s also no way that you can prove for certain that you aren’t. And it’s why this label is just too easy to pen on someone and make stick. In fact, it shouldn’t be this easy and be so successful. But it is.
Do you see how this works?
So, no. Your bullies don’t think you’re crazy, they think you’re weak. They only push the crazy label because weakness or helplessness in a person does have a certain allure and appeal and others may feel compelled to come to that person’s aid. Helplessness sparks a natural tendency in people to want to take care of the person who is helpless, but people are less likely to help the person who is deemed crazy. Bullies instinctively know this. So, they label the target crazy to strip him/her of that allure and appeal.
In labeling you crazy and making it stick, bullies are better able to avoid being held accountable and if they can successfully dodge responsibility for their abuse of another human being, then they get to continue hurting and abusing that person freely and with impunity.
Understand that there’s a method behind the label of mental instability, crazy, unhinged, or whatever name you prefer. If you’re aware of the motives behind that label, the better you’ll be able to catch it and counter your bullies with it.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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So Is teasing a person Bullies 🤔 😳 I been Bullied all my life wow this is realistic A 👌 😳
Also seeing bullies do this and Succeed makes new people think thats is okay but it is not just keeps the cycle going…🤔
Absolutely it does, Ben. 💯 And it’s a sad thing.
I’m so sorry you’ve dealt with bullies, Ben. I always say that they have the issues and you don’t. Thank you so much for your thoughts on this topic.
whenever I got really angry and tried to fight back, I wasn’t strong or brave, I was crazy… overreacting…I could never win
You were being gaslighted, Jim. Bullies feel entitled to abuse you and they, in all of their arrogance, want you to “take it.” And when you don’t take their crap, they retaliate by gaslighting you.
true…oh well…Gaslight was a good movie..Ingrid Bergman and ??
Can’t remember the other actors! But I plan to rewatch that movie! 😁
It was based on an old novel…I think that’s where the term comes from 😁😁
I didn’t know that. 😃
Hahaha! Definitely heard that term before. 😂🤣😜
It is what we do best 😇
I agree! 😜😜😜
As I read your posts on bullying and ways to thwart their attempts at tarnishing the images of the target, I feel better equipped, in case I stumble upon them. Thank you so much for sharing your views and experiences. I would also love to read your book.
Thank you so much! 💖 My book is available on Amazon and other online bookstores. 😀
The book is worth the read!!
I understand this tactic better now, thank you. To be honest though, I don’t have a problem with anyone knowing I did go a little crazy there for awhile after all the bullying I went thru from Adult Tenants. I am not ashamed of my mental health issues with c-ptsd, depression, anxiety, and psychosis episodes, never did feel ashamed of any of that and had no problem letting people know this situation did that to me. I felt ashamed of the bullying situation and what it did to others, not myself. I was made to feel this shame, by the extreme reactions of the people around me to this situation and the manipulations they did of my guilt over that. It was really messed up there for awhile, until I got up the courage to move over 3000 kms away! Best decision I ever made!
I agree- it was the best decision! Sometimes you’re bullied to the point that the while environment of people grows toxic and that can be terrible for your health. I’m so glad you got out of there!
This sounds so familiar.
It does to.a lotnof people, Molly. How my heart breaks for them. 💔
Bonjour juste une petite image pour venir te dire bonjour et te souhaiter une agréable semaine avec toute mon Amitié
Merci beaucoup, Bernard! 🥰
As they say, look who’s calling the kettle black! How ironic…bullies labeling others as mentally imbalanced and crazy? Talk about an oxymoron! LOL Another informative message Cherie!!! 🤗👍🏽😉
Thank you so much, dahhh-ling! 💖And yasss! I’ve responded with that very same thing, “Look who’s calling the kettle black.” 😁😃 Happy first day of Spring! 💐🌹🌺🐣🐥
Thanks sweet thang and Happy Spring to you too!!! 😍🌹🌺💐🌷🌻🥰
I frown upon folks that worship their Bibles but not know the One in it. That is bonkers. Or to be liberated from Imperialism 245 years ago but still weigh in pounds or walk in miles. A bit bonkers? I was going to blog about the girl that didn’t know the language she speaks came from Britain. To me, that’s a tad bonkers.
Unfortunately, we’re definitely living in a time when so many people have gone bonkers. I think there’s a factory somewhere that churns them out. 😁😆
Hahaha, call their union to arrange for a strike, or send the A Team to do their electricity. 🤔
I have been here and it’s terrible. I will never go back. Especially knowing that the only crazy, sick one is the abuser themselves! It’s awful.
I’ve been there too, sweetie. So, I feel your pain. And you’re absolutely right! People who call you crazy are only projecting their own mental health issues onto you. It’s also a form of gaslighting. I’m so sorry thise bullies did that to you. It’s terrible what they.put you through. Know that you’re among friends here! 💖💐🌹🌺
It’s always good to read these words of encouragement that you put out there.
Thank you so much, Balladeer! 😊🤗
Great post, I completely agree. A good portion of my family has chosen to see me as crazy instead of taking the time to listen to my views and beliefs. After years of research, close attention, and lived experience I no longer follow the mainstream narrative, which is what they choose to believe without looking to anything or anyone else to challenge their cognitive dissonance. It’s the perfect setup to keep them living happily deluded in their carefully constructed worlds that truth would surely cause to come crashing down. I vacillate between feeling sorry for them and sorry for myself, haha. Happy First day of Spring, Cherie! 🐇🐤🐥🐣
I’m sorry they’re treating you so badly, Peach. Know that you’re always welcome here and that we love you! I pray for you, your family, and your country. 🙏💖 Wishing you too a happy Spring! 😊
It means a lot to me to have somewhere to belong. Many thanks and prayers to you and yours too. 💜
You’re most welcome! 💖💐🌹
I knew all about this too well.
You and me both! 😂🤣😂🤣
There’s no excuse for this but Trying to rationalize and Seeing things in your own way But to see out of somebody else’s eyes no you can’t do that Sometimes it’s dominant and being over somebody that can be a poit can be a form of bullying… If the person is not seeing it your way and you try to persuade them that is a form of bullying as well…
True. But if someone is calling you “crazy” and you know that you’re not, sometimes it’s best just to show the person the door and not let them back into your life.