Let’s face it, most people aren’t happy. Rare is the person who is happy. Believe it or not, most people live crappy lives and it’s the reason why rates of depression and suicide are so high. It’s also the reason we have so many people who have anger issues and who only know how to use violence to get their needs met- it’s the reason we have so many bullies and abusers running around terrorizing people.
With bullies, using fear and force to coerce others is the only way they can feel in control. Without their targets to push around, bullies would have to take stock of their own lives and admit that they’ve lost control over their circumstances.
Many targets also live crappy lives because they try to put on a fake persona to keep from being bullied and only achieve the exact opposite. Or they stop believing in themselves because others have discouraged and beaten them down for so long. They may also hang onto lowlife people they should let go of just to keep from being alone.
So, what kind of life would you like to live, a happy life or a crappy life?
Naturally, you would choose the former. Naturally, we all want to live a happy life. However, the sad thing is, not everyone knows how and because they don’t know how to go about achieving happiness, most people stay stuck on autopilot. So, let’s break it down.
What does it mean to live a happy life? And what does it mean to live a crappy life?
1. To live a happy life means to walk away from people who are not healthy for you. It means turning your back on people who subtly abuse you and who only use you to get something from you. It means saying goodbye to those who only come around when they want or need something. In short it means ditching the people who don’t value you and finding better people who will.
To live a crappy life means putting up with people who aren’t healthy for you. It means letting abusers and users stay in your life and continue to use and abuse you. It means not having the guts to tell these people to take a hike because you’re afraid of being alone and friendless. It means tolerating people who only come around when they want something and when they do, giving them what they want freely, while wishing and hoping to the heavens that they will see your value.
But here’s a newsflash! They won’t as long as you don’t value yourself enough to confront them and tell them to step off. And even then, they may never value you but wouldn’t you much rather do bad by yourself rather then put up with those who haven’t earned the time of day from you, much less your love and respect?
2. To live a happy life depends on how you spend your free time. It means spending your leisure time doing the things that you enjoy- making time for play. It also means using it to grow yourself- by exercising and getting healthy, by reading books and learning something to grow your brain and expand your mind. It means focusing on your hobbies and interests. It also means working on your goals.
A happy life won’t just fall into your lap. You must create your own happiness.
To live a crappy life means to sit on your butt and watch TV all afternoon. Some TV isn’t bad and can be enjoyable. But when watching TV is all you do, you get sedentary, you get lazy, and you get stagnant. Living a crappy life also means refusing to learn anything. I know people who hate to read and therefore, stay stuck because they don’t learn anything new. I also know people who don’t have goals, hobbies, nor interests. And it all makes for a boring life. Also, because they don’t have those things, these people tend to get into trouble with the law- they may go out and get drunk or high because they’re so bored. It only sets them on a path to misery and destruction.
3. To live a happy life means being yourself and owning your quirks and flaws. It means speaking your truth even if others resent you for it. It also means owning your emotions, the good and the bad ones, instead of burying them. It also means making fun of yourself when you fall on your keister from time to time.
To live a crappy life means to be someone you aren’t. It means being a fake, a fraud, an imposter. And what’s so bad about being a fake person is that you’re constantly on high alert and constantly working hard to make sure that mask doesn’t fall off. And that’s a stressful way to live. It also means to not own your emotions. For instance, someone does something to really tick you off and when others ask you how you are, you lie and tell them you’re just fine. You also try to disguise your body language and facial expressions to match your words. Rarely does that fool anyone as micro-expressions will give you away to the trained eye. Again, it’s too much work and it’s work for nothing!
It never pays to be too serious because it cannot only cause unneeded stress, it can cause serious health consequences down the road. This will only pile more crap on top of the heap you’re already dealing with.
4. To live a happy life depends on the way you do things. It means working smart and not hard. It means taking your time and doing whatever it is that you’re doing right.
To live a crappy life also depends on how you do things. It means working hard and not smart. It means rushing through whatever you’re doing and taking a chance on fouling it up and having to start again.
5. To live a happy life, you must count your blessings. This can be doggone hard to do sometimes, I understand. Things go wrong, plans don’t work out, and it can be difficult to see the silver lining when it seems your world is upside down. And I’ll let you in on a little secret- even I struggle with this sometimes. Like you, I can get into a real funk too. But we must count blessings when we think about it so that life won’t seem as dismal.
To live a crappy life, you only see the glass as half-empty and life as one big hell-pit. I had this kind of attitude years ago and it only made things worse for me. Oh, man, did I have a funky attitude. You wouldn’t have wanted to know me back then.
Before closing this post, I want to warn you that being happy doesn’t mean that everything is all peaches and cream. Even happy people have days when they don’t feel so good and days when things go wrong. Being happy doesn’t mean having a perfect life. It doesn’t mean living in zippity do-da land.
Again, what being happy really means is being authentic, growing in mind, body, and spirit, and it means having a purpose and goals to work toward. It also means allowing yourself time for play and relaxation. In a nutshell, being happy means being true to yourself and everything about you.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
0 thoughts on “5 Differences Between a Happy Life and a Crappy Life”
Well, I’m very happy as is my OH, plus I know lotsof other people who are happy, even despite the restrictions placed on us by the pandemic. However, I do appreciate that many are not as fortunate as us.
Please note, I totally agree with that last paragraph!
Thank you, Sheree. 💖
I’m so glad for you, Sheree. That’s such a blessing and you give others hope. That’s a great thing. 💖🌹💐🕊
Wow. Awesome and very interesting post. I wish I had subscribed to your blogs earlier. I always like to keep on learning new things. I wish to learn a lot from you.
This means a lot! 😍 Thank you so much! 💖
I appreciate reading these clear distinctions for owning our choices, emotions and life. That is a clear way to happiness indeed.
Thank you so much. You don’t know how glad this makes me just knowing this helps others. 💖💐🌹🕊
You are very welcome. It does!
I’ll stick with Happy Cherie. 💖👏👏👏
You got that right, Cindy! Me too! 👍💪💖💐🌹
We’ll stick together! 💖😘🌈
Now, I’m with that! 👍💖💐🌹
❤️👏love your new posting schedule …! Now I can keep up!👏
Thank you so much, Cindy.💐 I’m so glad it’s so much easier on my readers, followers, and blogger friends. I try and make it about you guys. I get to engage with you all more! 😊❤ Although I gotta admit it’s also easier on me as well because I don’t feel overwhelmed like I did in December and that’sa great thing! 😃😃😃
You’re so welcome! I think it’s a twofer for you and us… you bring amazing material so now w others can savor it more! ❤️🥰🙌
Thank you so much, Cindy. Blessings, sweetie. 🙌🕊💖
Blimey, you’re a quick reader, Cherie! 😃
I’ve been reading for years. I’ve always liked to read. 😊
Besides when you’ve been reading as long as I have you learn to read pretty fast. And I hope more people survive the COVID like Kinji survived the seeds and plants! 😁😁😁
Yeah, me too. Strange question of the day: do you think death is the end?
Very strange question. But no, I don’t.
No, me neither.
I’LL SLIT YOUR THROAT
Wow! I really feel sorry for you. I really hope you get the help you need. I’ll pray for you.
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After I block you, I will report you to police! I will also expose your behavior and out you all over the internet and social media. I approved your first comment to expose you but deleted your 2nd comment. Do not attempt to contact me ever again, lady with the blue hair. 🚔
Thank you so much. 💖 🤗
Very nice post as usually 🙂
Happy New Year Cherie! May your Year and your readers will be full with happiness!
Thank you so much, Angela! This means a lot. Wishing you and yours also a very happy and prosperous New Year. 💖💐🌹🕊
Thank you !💗
There is always something we can do but we do not learn this until we stop all of the unnecessary self blame.. Good on you for standing up to that hateful person, Cherie.
Thank you so much. 💖💐 The person needed to be dealt with because if she will threaten me,, she’ll threaten someone else too- possibly a child or teen. 💔 And I agree- we do need to stop the self-blame otherwise it will effect our entire lives.
Yes bullies just bully out of their own holocaust, it’s a toxin.
Girl yes and it’s just as easy as that! I lived a crappy life before and then I learned that I needed to change how I view the world and to hold on to everything precious. Life is too short to not live a happy life or atleast try to.
Girl, you said that right! Life is wayyyy too short! And like you, I also lived a crappy life before learning the thoughts and things I needed to change! Nothing makes me prouder than to see someone turn over a new leaf and make their life better! And I’m so very proud of you! 😃💖💐🌹🕊
Thanks girl!!!! Your insight has really helped me over the last year or so.
I’m proud of you too beautiful ♥️
Great post and very interesting. Definitely an eye opener for quite few people out there
Thank you so much! I’m so happy that this is helping many people! Bless you! <3
Everybody can be happy if they wanted to be. Many people see only money. Money makes stress fir people and they are not happy. I many people are forced to work where are not happy. Many people say you can be what you want. Maybe for many people is that because they have success. But reality is that not everybody can bee what they want to be. Rich kids,people can be what they want. If you are poor you mus start from 0. And you know how hard or impossible is to start from 0. Really happy is who like little things. Like smile, friends,nature. All little things that are important. After hard working day in company i am happy that i can play with my kids and write Blogs,walking outside in nature. I always saying happiness and health you can buy.
Life is hard yes.
Easy to read, and yet so truthful and effective. Thank you for the post.
You’re most welcome, Suman! 😊