Everyone has people who do not like them- you, me, everyone. It isn’t personal (or at least I no longer take it so). It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong or defective about you. It’s only a part of life. Like is subjective, and not everyone meshes with everyone.
So, why do I welcome being disliked, you ask?
1. It means I’m doing something right. And making the haters and people doing the disliking feel uncomfortable, insecure, and like fools.
2. It only shows that I’m true to myself. You stay true to yourself by setting boundaries and not allowing others to invade them. You stand up for your beliefs, your convictions, and, most of all, yourself! You follow your dreams and goals and never let anyone distract you. When you do these things, it makes you a powerhouse. But! It also makes you enemies.
3. It gives me just another reason to reach success. Who doesn’t love to make supporters proud and enemies jealous? I love seeing my loved ones’ faces light up, and my hater’s faces contort! I feel the love of my friends and get free comedy and entertainment from my enemies. Enemies can motivate you if you let them.
Most people are slaves to approval. They chase it like a starving dog chases a thick, juicy steak.
Once you stop caring what others think and looking for people to like you, you’ll no doubt make quite a few enemies, even bitter ones. But you’ll be amazed at how much freer you feel. Being yourself is the most important thing you can do and frees you from the constraints of society.
When you have people, who dislike or even hate you, you know you’re putting yourself first, and that’s what it’s all about. If you can’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to properly take care of anyone else, even the ones you love, whenever they need you.
Sadly, it took getting older before I realized the value of having enemies.
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Oh yes haters. There are a lot of jealous, insecure and bullying people out there.
The problem with their jealousy is that is is their problem. Not ours.
I’m not responsible for someone else’s thoughts and actions. I’m only responsible for how I act towards them.
It’s a lot easier in the long run to let it go and not be sucked in to the whirling tornado of their hate and resentment.
I try to live my life on my terms and go about my business without deliberately doing harm to others.
If other people could do the same, there would be a lot less drama being created and dispersed by negative thoughts and feelings.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to think about your post and to comment 🙂
M – ThisHappyHuman
You’re more than welcome. You have an awesome blog and I see a lot of talent! And you’re right about everything you mentioned about haters! I believe in not letting their hate get to you because the hate hurts the hater, not the hated. Because when you hate someone, chances are that the person either doesn’t know about it, or they don’t care. It’s a pleasure meeting you and I look forward to reading future posts from you. <3
That’s very kind of you to say. I’ve only been blogging since October. I think I have a lot to learn.
I only recently learned that it’s best to have a photo of myself in my profile. No more hiding behind my logo!
I look forward to reading your blog too!
You got that right!
It took a lot of mistakes on my part to figure out how to live a peaceful life.
I like to spread the word about my thoughts and experience.
If someone finds it useful, then my job is done 🙂
Thank you so much, Clayton. 🙂
“2. It only shows that I’m true to myself. You stay true to yourself by setting boundaries and not allowing others to invade them. You stand up for your beliefs, your convictions, and, most of all, yourself! You follow your dreams and goals and never let anyone distract you. When you do these things, it makes you a powerhouse. But! It also makes you enemies.”
My favorite capture from this wonderful post.
Thank you so much, Lance. 😊 Cheers back. 🍻
Interesting insights. While I’m fortunate to not have enemies in the strong sense of the word, it is a wonderful thing about getting to realize you don’t need to please everybody!
Thank you so much, Ab. And I agree! When you don’t feel the need to please anyone, you know you’ve achieved the best kind of freedom there is! 😊🤗