Recently, I wrote a blog post entitled, “Should the Opinions of Bullies Matter?” In it, I stated the reasons why they shouldn’t and that the only opinions that should were those of the people who love us and want the best for us.
And it’s true. Bullies’ opinions shouldn’t concern us and for some targets, they don’t. but the more I thought about it, the clearer it became that maybe I should’ve added more to the post.
So, here goes!
Though bullies’ thoughts and feelings of you shouldn’t matter, it doesn’t mean they can’t affect us, or even hinder us.
The reality is that the bullies’ opinions of their target can have a huge impact on the target’s life. Their thoughts and feelings of the target can determine whether other people outside the bully/target conflict feel comfortable associating with the target.
Although we don’t want to admit it and, no, it isn’t fair, the personal opinions of other people often are the deciding factor or whether we’re well-liked or lonely and hated.
Bullies influence the attitudes of others who otherwise either wouldn’t have an issue with us or would be great friends under different circumstances. The opinions of bullies have a way of spreading far and wide- making bullies out of those who, under normal circumstances, would never resort to mistreating another human being.
It’s amazing what a contagion effect bullying has on schools, companies, organizations, and communities.
We must learn about bullying from all angles. Because the more we know, the better we will be able to salvage our good names and counter some of the effects it may have on our lives.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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So very true… The opinions of bullies does affect your relations with other people. I worked in an apartment building and was bullied by a tenant, it snowballed to the point I was attacked on a daily basis by all types, tenants, employers, even my own family members. I quit my job, couldn’t take it anymore. I was avoided and ignored for a long time in hopes that it would go away. It didn’t. I ended up having to leave, moved 3000 km away and I now am much much better. I choose who I have in my life now.
No, bullies opinions shouldn’t matter but in society these days, it does. It makes people uncomfortable so they avoid it. Learn to ignore those people and focus on the ones who are there for you.
My heart goes out to you, Stella. And I remember reading your story and it was heartbreaking. I’m so glad you’re away from all the drama and doing better for yourself, sweetie. 💖💐🌹