As we all know, bullies talk a lot of crap and put on a fake persona. They’re loud and obnoxious, which translates to thirsty for attention and admiration.
“Hey! Look at me! Look at me!”
Their lives are so pathetic that the only way they can feel good about themselves is to make others feel bad. It only translates to the bullies’ being insecure and afraid that someone else is either going to outshine them somehow or make them look inferior. Should what they think of you ever matter?
What if I told you that your bullies’ negative thoughts of you only reflected those they secretly have of themselves?
Would you believe me if I said that their hatred of you is only a reflection of their own pathetic self-loathing and that they’re only trying to put it off on you?
Understand that bullies put on quite a show to look significant and relevant, and they must work damn hard at keeping up their images. When you stop and think about it, it’s just as pathetic as when someone stuffs their bra or puts a sock in their crotch. Anyone who must expend such an enormous amount of effort to keep the less-than-perfect parts of them hidden can’t be a person who likes themselves much and it’s sad.
Why should you value the opinion of some buffoon who’s a big-time one-upper and desperate to be seen and adored? Realize that this person’s opinion has no merit whatsoever, and their hurtful words carry little weight if any at all.
If you know what to look for, you’ll see these people for what they are, and you won’t take them so seriously. And when you do, it will serve as a buffer to any psycho/emotional harm they may cause you, and your self-esteem will skyrocket!
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Hiya Ms. Cherie… today, Ms. Sandee included a quote that made me think of your blogs:
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself. Harvey Fierstein
PS: in case you don’t know, Ms. Sandee + https://comedy-plus.com
Oh, okay. I think that quote has been around for a while. I’ve used it and severely others have on their pages. And I’ve seen her on Reader. 🙂
Easier said than done but good advice none the less. It is made especially difficult when you are an HSP like I am and the bosses on down are bullies.
I completely understand. Although we shouldn’t care about their opinions, they can have bearings on our lives if the bullies are bosses.
I suppose all of us have been in a position, whether from a bully or others we are surrounded by, where the opinions of others have had some type of effect on our moods and self-reflections. Yet, when you get a little older, girlfriend, that mess don’t roll like it once did. You fight back, by taking back your self-respect and joy for goodness sakes. Great post Cherie! 👏🏼🥰🙌🏼
Thank you so much, Kym! And you’re so right about getting older! It “don’t roll like it once did!” 😂❤😂❤ I love how you worded that! 😁💖
Guuurrrrllll, I had to backspace that line because I had an expletive injected in there about those menacing bullies! LMBO! 🤣😆😂 Enjoy your evening sweetie pie!!! ☺🥧🥰
I totally understand! 😂🤣 You have a great weekend too, honey! 🍁🍂💫🌙