Schools are supposed to protect children. And some schools do help targets of bullying. I’ve read quite a few stories with this happy ending and to those schools, I extend my love and respect.
However, I’ve also read and heard stories in which the school either failed or refused to help the victim and only sided with the bullies and I also found this out years ago from experience. And sadly, this ending is much more common than the first.
Therefore, if you are an object of bullying at your school, do take the proper channels to address the problem and get it solved. Report the bullying to the teacher, principal, or district.
But if the school does nothing about it, sweeps it under the rug, or worse, blames you, don’t be surprised. And don’t be surprised if you face retaliation not only from the bullies but from school staff and officials as well.
Understand that in these cases where the school doesn’t act on your behalf, it is because the school district is only interested in the sports programs, how many points an athlete can score for their school team, getting their football team into the playoffs, and how many kids they can send to colleges.
Another thing to consider is that school bullies likely have connections with several local politicians and other high-ranking officials. Also, many bullies who excel academically or are star athletes make the school look good and are least likely to be held accountable.
And seasoned bullies tend to be exceptionally socially intelligent and know how to ingratiate themselves into the good graces of teachers and school staff. They are also wordsmiths who are experts at feigning victimhood, explaining everything away, and rationalizing their bad behavior, which often makes the target look like the bully.
So, these are a few things to consider should you find yourself a target, report the bullying and the school fail to respond to your pleas for help.
But don’t give up. Remember. You are worth fighting for! You are worth living for!
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I work with children and spend so much time teaching advocacy skills to parents to address this. Getting support from school personnel in addressing bullying is such an unfortunate struggle 🙁
That it is! I’m so proud of you for working with these children and addressing an issue that is so widely ignored. <3
It’s true.I did not get assistance from school so I had to homeschool my son
I’m so sorry your son was treated so terribly. Sadly, schools usually side with bullies and blame the victim. Bullying can stunt a child’s psychological and emotional development. It’s impossible to grow and thrive in a school with a culture of bullying. I’m so happy that you got your son out of that abusive environment! Wishing you both lots of happiness and success!