That’s what bullying is to bullies, an aphrodisiac. It’s the only way bullies can feel good. Hurting other people, they select as targets is like a drug to them. It’s highly addictive because it gives them a massive rush of power.
I want you to understand that targeting people for attacks and bullying is how these people find meaning in their lives. And the only excitement they can add to their meaningless lives is through the mistreatment of their victims. Simply put, bullies bully because they enjoy it!
People crave power, fame, notoriety, and influence- even the best of them. But most people can get those through love, through their hobbies, jobs, talent, and creativity. Bullies, on the other hand, don’t have these things going for them. Some might have jobs but aren’t satisfied in their positions. So, they abuse people instead.
Bullies either can’t get those benefits any other way, or they can’t get enough of them. So, for them, destroying the lives of their targets is the only power they have.
And once their victim is no longer available to them because he’s either quit, moved, or died by suicide, that drug, that aphrodisiac isn’t there anymore. So, what do the bullies do? They search for another target to get their next fix- their power high, because they need authority over somebody, anybody.
Understand that this “fix” always wears off, and bullies consistently need another dose. So, again, once their “drug (victim)” is gone, they may even turn on one of their friends if they can’t find a target outside their peer group.
My point is that if you’re a target of bullies. You are not the one with the issues.
Your bullies are the ones who have the problems. Your bullies are the ones who are severely mentally unbalanced. Your bullies are the ones who belong in mental institutions; they only hide it behind their undermining and degrading of you and others. Realize that they’re only projecting their problems onto you. Your bullies are using you to distract everyone else from mental illnesses of their own. And they have to work hard at it, which doesn’t make for a good life.
Always remember that, and their insults and stupidity won’t bother you as much. I promise you!
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A valuable and important post. Alas, I fear that bullies being the ones with a problem and projecting their issues onto you may be concepts that young victims might not take much comfort from 🙁
Great point. I didn’t understand it when I was young. How I wish I had. These were things my grandmother tried to tell me. I guess that’s why I try to get into the tiniest of details in some of my posts.
I agree with what you said and I can totally see why our loved ones would tell us these things; it’s the kind of wisdom that comes with maturity – sometimes. Keep up the great blog!
Thank you so much! 🙂
Another point I meant to make in my last comment. Many times, the young haven’t learned to look inward yet, which was the case with me. I think that’s what blocked my ability to fully understand what my grandmother was saying.
Exactly so!!! It’s something that comes with age and experience but often the damage is already done before that level of maturity is reached.
Absolutely! You nailed it!
So hard to see these images. Just breaks my heart. All of the school kids need to see your blog!
Oh, girl! It breaks my heart too! How I wish I had this info when I was a kid.
I know! me too
My “Amen” comment vanished without a trace!
No way! I liked it and that’s it!