Bullies ritually beat their victims down to the point that the poor targets have come to view themselves through the eyes of their bullies. Toxic shame is, perhaps, the worst type of shame a person can have. Because once you begin to view yourself through the eyes of your abusers, that’s when you know you’ve hit rock bottom.
Their contempt, disgust, and aversion toward you have rubbed off on you, and you began to hate yourself. But I want you to understand that this is what your bullies want. They want you to hate yourself. Because the bullies know that if they can work on you and finally get you to hate yourself, they know they’ve won.
Your bullies aren’t stupid. They know that you’ll submit to the abuse because when a person hates themselves, they think they deserve abuse.
When a target of bullying suffers from toxic shame, they accuse themselves of sins of which they aren’t guilty. They apologize incessantly over things that aren’t their fault. Ultimately, targets feel guilty for merely existing!
Toxic shame causes one to lose trust in himself and their decisions and judgments, and become afraid to make them. Ultimately, it makes for a miserable life.
The points mentioned above are why we must guard our self-esteem and confidence. But before we can do that, we must educate ourselves on where bullying comes from, the mindsets of bullies, how to spot them before they strike, ways for targets to minimize the effects of bullying, and the damage bullying can do. Only then will we have the knowledge to empower, protect, and take care of ourselves.
This is what this blog is all about, and it’s my wish that targets and potential targets learn these things to defend themselves. Because if we can reduce the number of victims, we can then reduce bullying.
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Hey Chateau, I have changed my site address and name. I am telling you just so you know that. 🙂
Thank you for the notice, Aryan!
I have decided to only blog about the things happening around us from now on as this world is so cruel and I am so bothered by the things happening around. 🥺
I understand! These are very scary times indeed!
I mean I would blog about the social issues and problems.
I understand. Blog about whatever is on your mind.
Umm hey Cherie. I think you unfollowed me 🥺
I didn’t unfilled you, Aryan. Are you sure someone hasn’t hacked your page? I don’t unfollow anyone else unless they cyberbully and you haven’t done anything wrong.
Oh no it’s some problem with my phone. Sorry!!! I’ll try figuring it out. My friend still follows me but his name I can’t see in the list. So it’s some problem with my phone.
I just found out it’s a problem with my Askimet. A lot of legitimate posts are going to my spam folder and I don’t understand that. I’m in the process of fixing the problem now.
It’s some problem with my phone. Sorry to bother you.
Please accept my sincerest apologies for not seeing this comment much sooner. WP has been sending a lot of legitimate comments to my spam folder lately and I didn’t think to check it. I’m truly sorry.