In the last post, I talked about how everything started out great and that I was well-liked by almost everyone. I also mentioned the incident when I responded in kind after Candi, a CNA, caught a bad attitude. Needless to say, I found out that, right or wrong, talking down to her was a no-no.
And over several months, one by one, many people turned against me. Luckily, several of my real friends knew how Candi was and had no respect for her. They were the people who had my back, so I can say that I did have allies who took care of me.
However, there was a clear division at Shady Grove Living Center. There was the administrator, who I’ll call *Beau, *Cammie, the payroll clerk, the department heads,*Harry (who was Cammie’s husband), one maintenance guy, whose name was *Jules, and two CNAs, *Shelly was one and *Cheryl who were only two of their flying monkeys. On the other side were my supervisor, all of my coworkers (except for one suckup), a charge nurse, and the rest of the CNAs who had my back.
Many times, the bullies made false reports about me to Darnell. On the days after my shift (I worked part-time in the evening), the third shift CNAs would complain that I hadn’t stocked the linen closets on each of the halls and that they had no clean bed pads, bedsheets, nor gowns for the residents who’d soiled their beds during the night.
But because I always thought ahead and could easily predict what these people would do, I made sure to pull out my cellphone and take pictures of all my finished work at the end of my shift.
I took photos of all three shelved walls in each of the linen closets, which were chock full of clean linens. I then took pictures of the insides of all the empty barrels, marked “dirty laundry” before clocking out and going home. And the time-stamps on each image left no question of whether I’d done my job.
I took pictures every night, at the end of the shift. And I had proof to show Darnell every time they lied.
When that didn’t work, the bullies only turned up the harassment, as word had quickly spread throughout the nursing home that I took pictures of all finished work.
In a way, it was funny because each of the linen closets was directly across from the nurse’s desk, where the bullies would sit around and gossip. And I remember overhearing them make snide remarks about my camera and my taking pictures, to which I’d only snicker and chuckle to myself.
Harry, the head of maintenance, would talk pretty ugly to me, but I knew I wasn’t the only one because many times, I’d see him talk terrible to several others- even a few who worked for the nursing home. So, I knew I wasn’t alone.
And because I’d already been a victim of bullying in school, I knew what to expect as bullies pull the same tactics, only adult bullies are much more sophisticated with their attacks. Therefore, I was able to prepare, stay a few steps ahead, and outflank them.
Now during this time, I began to witness a couple of the bullies in this workplace clique commit a few illegal activities. In one instance, I worked a double shift to cover for a coworker who was sick.
Early one Saturday morning, I saw with my own eyes, Harry walk into the back door of the nursing home, dressed in camouflage and his bright orange hunting vest. He crept down the hall past the laundry room, then stopped at the time clock and clock in. Harry then filled out a bogus work order, then leave.
He didn’t return until late that evening. He clocked out and then left again. I’ll never forget the look on his mug when he saw me sitting outside on my last break as he drove right by in his shiny new pick up. And when I told a trusted friend at work a day or two later about what I’d seen, she wasn’t at all surprised.
“Girl! He’s been clocking out and going home on the weekends since I’ve been here! And I’ll tell you something else,” *Brenda told me, “Cammie’s been embezzling from this facility, and she’s been ripping off some of the residents who don’t have families- weaseling them into signing papers to leave their assets to her when they leave this world!”
I felt my eyes pop out of my head as Brenda gave me an ear full!
0 thoughts on “How I Triumphed Over Workplace Bullying and Mobbing (Part 2)- How It All Started”
Wow. Good job documenting. I hope there will be more to this story.
Thank you so much! And yes, there’s more to come in another 10 hours. I have 2 more parts scheduled and and am in the process of scheduling the last part. Again, thank you so much. This means so much!
Yes ma’am. You are setting a good example for people who have to struggle with things like this.
Thank you so much! I’m trying to! I want them all to know that they can win over situations like this. I’m no genius by any stretch of the imagination. A lot of it was luck! Luck that we had a supervisor that didn’t play workplace politics and who had an open mind.
I hope that place has new owners and management!
Sounds like a den of vipers!
It has changed A LOT! None of the old crew are there anymore! You’ll find out why in the next 3 parts! And it’ll blow your mind! It did mine when it happened the way it did! LOL
Can’t wait to read them Cherie! 🙂
OMG! I had a couple bullies at my workplace. One was a Muslim who would follow, startle and take up my personal space for 3 months. Another was a manager who enjoyed disrupting my routine, and I stood up to her, ultimately avoiding her when she was on duty. That put her in her place.
Wow! I’m so glad you put your foot down and she left you alone!
Hello Cherie I have Nominated you for ” The BrainStorms Award “. This is now on my page. I hope you will take part in this one. Have a wonderful evening !
Oh, thank you so much, James! And yes! I will!
Thank you Cherie. I am glad you will do this one. I am looking forward to reading your blog on this Award.
I’m completing it now, James and am very excited! I’ll schedule this to post at six pm CDT tomorrow as I like to space my posts so as not to overwhelm my email followers. Thank you so much! This is greatly appreciated!
Thank you very much Cherie. I hope you will follow Rishika Jain @ The Ethereal Unicorn.
Oh, I sure will! I can’t wait to read some of her posts. I know she’s got to be good if you like her blog. 🙂 You’ve got good taste!
Thank you Cherie. She is only 12 years of age. Her blog posts do not show that at all. She is growing with her blog I see it already. She is going to be a good one. Besides we get along and you will as well get along with her.
That’s awesome! She’s starting out young and she’s going to go far with it!
BTW, how do I get the picture on my blog? I’ve tried right clicking but I can’t seem to do it right. Can you give me the steps? Thank you in advance, James!
Sigh! I copied the image and hit save as and it says that it won’t support the format! What is UP???
Oh God! I need help here! Grrrr! I guess my PC is crapped out and won’t do what I want! Damn! This is why I gave up posting the last award.
Yep! It doesn’t support the new format! I guess I’ll have to set up the new computer before I can post! Sorry James. Lord, this is so frustrating!
Never mind! I got it! Woot woot!!!
You’re smart to take photos of all your work and documenting
Thank you so much. I had been bullied in school years earlier and bullying tactics are pretty much universal, only adults are sneakier is all.
Methodology of reporting is sound while making use of the technology to highlight offenders when they least expect it.
Amen on that!