Have you ever wondered if someone was telling the truth (or not)? Before I go any further, it should go without saying that we should only trust bullies as far as we can throw them. In other words, we trust them at our own risk.
However, there are many great actors in the world these days- people we think are friends but are only the opposite. Therefore, sometimes, it’s difficult to spot it when someone is deceiving us.
So, how do we spy the lies? We do it by watching the person’s body language. What are the “tells” that the body gives away when someone is lying? Here are 4 powerful ways to spy lies bullies tell:
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The Eyes.
The liar may have shifty eyes, or they may avoid eye-contact altogether.
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The Body.
The deceitful person may fidget continuously. He can’t help it!
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Voice.
The faker may clear his/her throat.
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Vagueness.
The person telling the falsehood may be vague in their story, leaving out crucial details.
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pauses (especially after you ask a question).
The person may have to think before speaking. In other words, they have to think up a lie to cover the last lie they told.
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The Arms.
The liar may keep his arms still. Stillness is their way of avoiding giving off any tells.
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Answering questions.
They always respond to questions with questions. Why? Because they can’t find an answer that sounds good. Or they’re afraid that any answer they give will be another tell.
Understand that, mentally, it takes more work to lie than to tell the truth. People who lie have to study others carefully to make sure they respond the way that they want. Liars worry about how believable their stores sound. Therefore, they must work, and work damn hard, to appear credible to their associates.
Watch the body of the person closely. If you spot one or more of the above signs, you have then, most likely, spied the lie. Also, most importantly, you must document the bullying you suffer and document every instance of it.
And lastly, watch bullies show their true colors when you or someone else calls them on their BS. That will be the most obvious tell!
With knowledge comes empowerment!
You make some good points here. Thank you for giving us things to look for.
You’re very welcome, Kymber!
One thing I think we all should look for is consistency of story. Yes, over time we all forget a few details or paraphrase things or remember/forget a detail here and there. That’s not what I am talking about. Bullies tend to never keep stories straight and justify everything but the details usually are always changing.
You’re absolutely right, Care! Bullies can’t keep their stories straight because they lie, constantly. And, as I heard growing up, a lie only expands because it will take another lie to cover up the first, then a third lie to cover up the second, and on it goes. Thank you so much for your wonderful comment! I so appreciate it! 💗