Too many people, especially targets of bullying, get upset and take it personally when someone unfriends them or unfollows them on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any social media platform.
But why? Should that person’s approval or disapproval even matter?
Don’t get me wrong. No one likes to be rejected and having someone you thought was a friend delete you can hurt. So, I completely understand the pain and the wondering why the person or persons rejected you.
Maybe you said something on a post the other person didn’t like, so the person got their skivvies in a bunch and unfriended them. Or the other person lashed out at you in a comment and threatened and threatened to unfriend or block you. And now, you feel bad and want to apologize for “offending” the person.
But does it even warrant an apology? And should you feel devastated? Does this necessarily mean it’s the end of the world?
Ask yourself these questions:
1. Who is the other person to dictate what you say on your page?
2. Unless you’re intentionally trying to harm someone, what’s the big deal?
3. Who is this person to tell you what your opinions and beliefs should be?
4. And last and most important, how much does this person mean to you?
You wouldn’t let someone walk into your house and tell you how to arrange your furniture or tell you what you should or should not talk about. So, why would you allow them to tell you what you should type on your page?
Understand that just as your home and property that you own are your physical real estate, your social media is your online real estate, and you own it. Therefore, what you put on it is your business, unless you’ve using it to unprovoked and unjustly libel someone to cause them loss of business and reputation. Only then are you crossing a line.
As far as your personal opinions, beliefs, and convictions are concerned, these are yours to voice and they’re free. And when someone comes on your page and personally attacks you over one of your posts, technically, they’re in your house.
If anyone unfriends you because they don’t like what you have to say or how you say it, let them go because, obviously, anyone who doesn’t allow you to say what you feel and be yourself doesn’t and never did deserve your friendship in the first place. Also, they don’t deserve to have access to your page.
And if the person launches personal attacks against you by making nasty comments or threats, you can always delete them from your friends or followers list or block them completely.
You must realize that not everyone who sends you friend requests, who’s already on your friends’ list, or who follows you is your friend. Many of them are only there to check up on you and poke a nose in your business.
Several are there to see what you have to say and screenshot your posts so that they can show others as they pick it apart and take your words completely out of context in attempts to mar your good name. Others may be there to find out your marital status and see who your family members and friends are.
And once you realize this, you won’t feel nearly as bad the next time someone unfriends or unfollows you. In fact, you won’t even care. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
You should only value the approval and opinions of those you value the most- people who have proven that they value you in return- your family and closest friends.
Again, how much does this person mean to you?
Understand that if a person doesn’t mean a lot to you, neither will their opinions or judgements of you. And if a Facebook friend or Twitter or Instagram follower has a problem with one of your posts, either let them go, unfriend, or block them. It’s as simple as that.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Many more people friend others on Facebook because they believe that having loads of friends ups their social status. But are all those friends really friends? Several years ago, I pointed out that an ex Taliban soldier was granted leave to stay in the UK and asked would that have happened in 1943 if it had been an ex German soldier. I got all sorts of grief from my ex wife telling me I was racist and threatened that if I didn’t keep my racist ideas in my own f**king head, then I would be allowed in her home to see my daughter.
Wowww! Your ex-wife sounds like a real nut-case? All you were doing is asking a question and she knew you really weren’t a racist. She was looking for an excuse for you not to see your daughter. Women can be vicious with exes and use the mama-drama.
Back then she was, fortunately she’s mellowed quite a bit. She is a big lefty and totally against the wars in the Middle East and like many people on the left, she was quick to use the ‘racist’ branding iron on those whose opinions were different than hers.
Sadly, this doesn’t shock me, Michael. I pity her.
I’m like Elsa from Frozen, “Let it gooooo, let it gooooooo!” Bye-bye! 🙌 If they were meant to be, then you wouldn’t have lost them, whether they ditched you or you ditched them! 🤨
Absolutely! Elsa definitely has a good lesson to teach! 😃💐🌹🎶🎼
And you know it!!! 😉 🥶 🤗
Sometimes people also clean out their friend or followers list from time to time with people they really chat with, see their posts, etc. Or and this is unfortunate and a red flag with a person anyone is dating/married too etc but sometimes an opposite sex friend will get deleted because the girlfriend, wife, boyfriend or husband is jealous of opposite sex friendships and makes a big deal out of it.
I completely understand. And yes, that happens a lot. And I’ll do a post on that in the future- another reason not to take it personally.