With all due respect, you, just as much as anyone else, deserve your dignity. And sometimes, you must fight to keep it. Of course, I don’t mean fight, as in the literal sense, but simply refuse to allow people to disrespect you and get away with it.
If you’re giving others respect and getting none in return, it doesn’t mean you stand there and demand it. No. You take it back by walking away and having nothing more to do with those who disrespect you. You drop them like hot bricks and do it without warning, explanation, or apology. That’s how you reclaim your self-respect.
Understand that true respect is given regardless of who you are, how much money you make, how big your bank account is, the position you hold, or how great or small you are. If others don’t respect you like you respect yourself, then you have a problem on your hands.
Sadly, most people nowadays don’t understand the nature of respect and it’s why bullying, and disrespect are so rampant and true respect so rare.
Realize that no matter who rich we may become, we’re born with nothing, and we die with nothing. After all, we can’t take our money and material possessions with us when we go. Therefore, the only thing that matters is how we treat each other. Everyone deserves respect and dignity (except those who don’t give it).
Understand that when people disrespect you, they do it out of self-interest:
1.To feel superior
2. To look cool
3. To look tough
4. To look bigger and better
5. To boast their egos
6. To assuage feelings of insecurity and inferiority
7. To look and feel powerful
8. To feel better about themselves
It’s true that we should remain humble. But sadly, most people these days think that they’re entitled to respect simply because they exist, especially those in positions of power and privilege- even if they have only a little bit of the two.
Therefore, you must be selective of the people you give your respect to. Otherwise, you give away your self-respect in the process.
At the end of the day, no one is any better or more important than the next person. Having a degree of humility is a virtue because we all have weaknesses, imperfections, and shortcomings. Everyone, no matter how great, has limitations and must know what their limitations are.
Self-respect is not haughty, pompous, nor arrogant. True self-respect is respect for self while being aware of not only your gifts and strengths but also your weaknesses and shortcomings. It also means knowing and accepting your limitations.
So, in summary, respect the people who respect you, and respect yourself enough to walk away from those who disrespect you.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
0 thoughts on “How to Take Back Your Self-Respect When You’re Being Disrespected”
Cherie, I immediately thought about the song “Respect” by Aretha Franklin. If you don’t get the respect as you noted, respect yourself enough to simply walk away and not be afraid to do so!!! 👍🏼 😎 👏🏼
Amen! You nailed it, girl! <3 Aretha Franklin was awesome and so was the song. Sadly, she left us a couple years ago.
I know girl, but honey I love your post! <3 😁 <3 For real!!!
Thank you so much, girl! This means a lot! <3 <3
Thank you so much, Vartika. 😊
This is a very relevant and important post, it took me a while to learn this. Your posts are very clear and certainly helpful for many struggling with this.
Thank you so much. ❤ It took me quite a few years to learn this myself. So, I can relate. 🙂
You are very welcome 🙂