Bullies are notorious for demanding that their targets change- that targets change something about themselves that they (the bullies) don’t like. We know that bullies point out anything they don’t like about targets to divert the attention of everyone else away from their own shortcomings and imperfections.
Even worse, if the bullies can’t find something wrong with you, they’ll invent something wrong with you. This is one of the reasons why you should never change for a bully. If you want to better yourself- get an education, lose weight, get a better job, better home, etc., that’s completely normal because you’re doing those things for yourself. You’re making sensible changes and not to please anyone else.
But if you’re content with your life and some idiot demands you change something about yourself that they don’t like- something that’s not harming anyone, then you have a right to tell that person to go take a long walk off a short pier. Who are they to tell you that you should change?
Sadly, I see people living in fear- being careful not to say the words, “mother,” “father,” “man,” “woman,” “he” or “she.” And I can only shake my head is dismay and embarrassment.
I write this because we live in a world that is trying to change us and what it wants to change us into is utterly ridiculous. No, wait! Ridiculous isn’t the word for it. Insane is a more appropriate word.
For example, the Radical media and other puppet masters want us to change the way we speak. They want to eliminate the words, “mother,” “father,” “sister,” “brother,” any word that identifies genders of family relatives. It’s crazy!
If they want to use different terms, then fine. To each their own. But how dare they demand that the rest of us change for them?
Who do they think they are?
Since when do they decide how we speak, what we believe, and how we behave?
Who died and made them lords over the rest of us?
And who are they to decide what’s right and what’s wrong?
I’m going to go out on a limb here and tell these radicals that they do not get to decide how I nor anyone else speaks, behaves, or lives.
Understand that they are bullies themselves and are well-known for pushing boundaries and intruding on others. They have to be bullies to burn down people’s homes, businesses, and entire cities to make a point. They must be bullies to assault little old couples or children on the street.
And they’re so arrogant that they feel entitled to tell the rest of us what words we should say to identify members of our families. Again, who do they think they are? This is a blatant attempt at power and control.
And the woke media and universities have now become a brand of police- also telling us how we should speak, act, and think. Here’s my take on it- I think this gender inclusion crap is a bunch of hogwash. God help them if they were ever told how to live!
These people suggest that the word “mother” be replaced with “gestational parent” or “birthing parent,” and the word “father” be replaced with “non-gestational parent,” or “non-birthing parent.” What???
As I said, I, as well as most others, could care less how other people live. Whatever floats their boat, I always say. You do what makes you happy and allow me to do what makes me happy. In short, you do you and let me do me.
And that’s the message I have for the Far Radical Leftists out there: I don’t stick my nose into your business, so kindly keep your nose out of mine. Go away and leave the rest of us alone. Get a life. Get a job. Get a family. Get a dog! And get a life!
Because, at the end of the day, we’re all just people. And all most people want is to freely practice their faith, raise their families, make a living, and be left alone. Nothing more.
Sadly, bullies don’t know how to leave people alone because they’re determined to violate boundaries. Bullies are all about power and control. They’re all about domination over others. That’s why it’s up to us to stand strong and refuse to change for them. It’s up to us to live our lives the way we want and to live life on our terms. Understand that bullies only have the power we allow them to have.
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Let me use a quote I made last week on Peaceful Rampage. It was from a character played by Michael Palin of Monty Python fame in a UK TV series from 1991 called “GBH.” He said, “The more left you go, the more right wing you become.” As for bullies trying to change you, I experienced that, everyone insisting I be like them. It’s no wonder when I got out of the marines, I went totally the other way.
I’m sorry you were under that kind of pressure. But I’m glad you chose to be yourself and do what makes you happy. Blessings to you!
You’re very welcome! 🙂
Thank you Cherie.
Any time. 🙂
I’m applauding loudly from way over here. You said it very well.
Thank you so much, Rebecca! <3
Yes! I’m about to leave a Facebook fan group after I was belittled for having a different opinion and then greeted with a passive-aggressive post reminding the group not to make posts about certain controversial topics, despite the fact that the post that started this discussion was precisely about that controversial topic and not about the minor celebrity that the group is for fans of in the first place. I don’t need those kinds of people in my life. I’ll go find a fan group of something I like that really is inclusive of all instead of just paying lip service to the concept.
That’s right, Greg. Ditch those creeps because they’re not worth the time or energy. I’m proud of you! 👍🎯
Thanks. I’m debating whether or not to reply to that post before I leave and explain the situation from my perspective. I should probably let it go, but I kind of want to, calmly and assertively. I have nothing to lose at this point. I feel like this experience might have ruined my appreciation for the work of this particular minor celebrity, though :\
Nooo. You owe them no explanations. Don’t waste your typing time on them. Just walk away from the group. You owe them nothing.
Hmm… that’s probably better… I really want to say something, though… I’m probably hoping that they’ll reconsider the way they treated me, but realistically they’ll probably just laugh at me some more.
Yes they will. But the less you say, the more it will piss them off because they WANT you to keep reacting. I know that you really want to and I understand wanting to get the last word. But they’ll never let you have the lastn word and it’s better that you walk away and leave them slack jawed, Greg.
I never reacted in the first place. I was calm. I never said anything; I just reacted with an angry reaction to the post. I got a personal message from the group admin asking why the angry reaction, and I explained. She belittled my opinion and implied that I was overreacting, and also made some assumptions about me. I reached out. I opened up. I explained why I feel so torn and conflicted about all of this, and opened the door for a healthy discussion. And instead I got a passive-aggressive post reminding the group that certain topics (which she started) are off limits.
She was gaslighting you. If you say anything, do it on messenger to the admin. Tell her that her attempts at gaslighting were pathetic and that you will no longer to be a part of a group of crybabies that get triggered when someone has a different opinion. Then tell her to take her childishness somewhere else and not to ever contact you again.
When you know she’s gotten the message and see that she’s typing a response, block her.
I just left the group without saying anything. I’ll probably leave it at that. I don’t know if I have the energy or motivation anymore. I just feel like this might have forever ruined this minor celebrity and his band for me 🙁
Try not to worry, Greg. You were voicing an opinion so I don’t think you ruined him or the band. It seems they have a lot of supporters. We all make mistakes. I think you’ll be fine and so will the musicians.
I didn’t word that well… I meant that I feel like this experience might have ruined my ability to enjoy the music. But I don’t know.
I totally get that, Greg. And I’m sorry that happened to you. Know that you have friends here in the bloggosphere and we care about you.
I know. Thank you so much.
I was forced against my will to give up everything I loved & tolerate everything I hated just to appease bullies…otherwise, not only would I lose my innocence, but my life!
I feel your pain, sweetie! 🤗❤
I think it’s a learned behavior, mostly from parents, those who are there.
Youre right.. 💯 Absolutely, it’s learned.