It’s true. If you’re a target of bullying, your bullies more than likely don’t consciously know why they hate you. So, what do they do? They make up reasons.
And the reasons they make up arise from confabulations and hasty generalizations. The reasons also come from long-standing rumors that turn into myths. These myths may have been around for years- even decades. When a myth or generalization has been the narrative long enough, it goes unquestioned and takes on a life of its own. It’s “just the way it is.” As a result, people become “biased” against the target.
When bullies and others are biased against a person, they accept any myth as truth, and this bias keeps bullies wound up and ready to hurt the target. Bias blinds people and claims to know the truth about a person or group of people without concrete evidence or firsthand knowledge.
People support biases with stereotypes, which are only lies and opinions repeated so often and for so long until society accepts them as the truth.
But know this. If you’re a target of bullies, although others may tag you with labels that don’t apply to you, you don’t have to accept them nor let them define who you are. Only you can define yourself. Nobody else can do it for you. Understand that nobody knows the inner you but you.
Know that you have the power to accept or reject labels. Use that power. Reject your bullies’ definitions of you. Bullies may have a degree of control over your surroundings and, yes, even your physical well-being. They may also control how others view you.
But they can never control what you think of yourself. Bullies can’t control your mind and thoughts without your permission. That power belongs to you and you alone.
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Your observations are quite true 👍🤝
Thank you so much! 🙂
Brilliant post. You can take away it all, but you can’t take away my thoughts and what I think of thyself..
Bullies are hurt people hurting another; hurt people hurt people. It is not right and I love how you are empowering people (you definitely have me.). Inventing myths and stories about a person projects outwards the own bullies fears and ego battles.. It doesn’t matter, they just want the power, the energy over another. Energy vampires.. maybe a post idea?
Love and empowerment is what the world needs and thank you for your work I read each time.
Awww! I can’t thank you enough, Amber! ❤
I usually find bullies take a dislike when they sense your honesty or if your an open person who doesn’t just blindly follow, your a thinker or analyser 😊
I agree with you there. Such people are threatening to bullies.
Also, it’s either a subconscious thing or they would never admit it.