I no longer wonder if they’ll like me, I wonder if I’m going to like them.
I wonder if they’re the right person to bring into my life.
I wonder if we’ll have anything in common or if we’ll share any of the same hobbies.
I wonder what their attitude is and how their parents raised them.
I wonder about their mental health and outlook on life.
Are they an optimist or pessimist?
Are they ambitious?
Are they loving and caring?
Do they know who they are?
Do they know what they want and where they’re going?
Do they have their priorities in order?
Are they petty gossips, or are they the kind who don’t have time for such nonsense?
Do they love or loathe themselves?
Are their families decent, respectable, and upstanding people?
Do they have frequent run-ins with the law?
Do they have an alcohol or drug problem?
Oh yes! I take all of it into consideration when I meet someone. This is not to say that I judge them because I judge no one. However, I am particular of who I keep company with for reasons of safety and self-preservation.
For example, if you met someone, then found out later that they did time for rape, robbery, or murder, wouldn’t you be cautious of that person? Would you want them around you or your loved ones?
However, when I was young, I wondered if they were going to like me. I didn’t realize how unhealthy that is.
Understand that anytime you worry needlessly, whether others like you, you’re more likely to be so desperate for approval that you’ll take people at face value. And that’s not good because you’ll end up inviting the wrong kinds of people into your life!
I want you to realize that there’s a difference in judging people and being selective of the company you keep.
So, don’t be so quick to invite into your world everyone you meet.
Don’t judge, but do be selective!
Yes, be cautious, people can also wear masks for a long time and be selective with what they tell you about themselves, some even outright lie about themselves and their pasts, beware the psychopath!! (I read surrounded by psychopaths recently 😂) x
I’ve met those types myself and they’re horrible to be around. I’ll definitely look that book up! You’ve got me wanting to buy it now! 😊
It’s really good, there’s one called surrounded by idiots too x
I saw that one too. I may order that one as well.
Yes, same author x
Yes, one got to choose the company carefully and be selective .
Stay blessed always
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Thank you so much, Jas. Blessings to you as well. 🙏💖
Girl Cherie, your last sentences sums it up:
“So, don’t be so quick to invite into your world everyone you meet. Don’t judge, but do be selective!”
Yep girlfriend, you gotta be cautious and that means being aware and sensitive to your surroundings. 🤔 Read the room as they say. Have a beautiful day sweetie! <3 ☺️ 💐
Thank you so much, Kym. This means a lot, girlie! ❤🤗💐
Keep speaking your truth girlfriend! 🙂 It’s sooooo encouraging! 🙌🏼 <3 🤩
I sure will. 💖👍👍👍
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I used to pretty much add on Facebook and Instagram everyone I would meet, in a desperate attempt to want to make friends. These days I rarely add new people, because I realized that much of my social life is running with people who have very different views and lifestyles from me beyond the one common interest we have, and many of the aforementioned people have gotten themselves unfollowed, particularly ones who aren’t really part of my social circle anymore. (I can’t really bring myself to delete them completely, I just hate thinking of acquaintanceship and friendship as expendable like that… but that’s probably a separate issue…)
That’s awesome that you’re becoming more selective, Greg! It’s what you must do to keep yourself safe. 👍💯🎯
So wisely said! Living for approval is a cage of a kind. Living with questions for what it would create to have the choice to allow someone in our life, to give our time – that is freedom!
Amen! Thank you so much ❤
Nice posting. I still wonder if they like me or not when I first meet someone…yes, it’s not judging people but selecting😊
Absolutely. 💯🎯❤
An important reckoning and worthy assessment.
Thank you so much ❤! This means a lot! 😊
Oh! My pleasure Cherie. Have an awesome week!❤️
And you as well. 😊❤
Most certainly. Thank you!
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