Bullies who are seasoned and the best in the bullying business didn’t get so good at bullying you and getting away with it overnight.
No, they learned through trial and error. They’ve figured out what works and what doesn’t. And every time they screwed up and got caught, they never learned their lesson that it’s wrong to mistreat people. They only got sneakier and learned what not to do with their next victim.
Therefore, with each new victim, they got a little sneakier, and a little better at covering their behinds until they finally became undetectable to anyone outside the bully/target dynamic. They finally became experts!
Understand that these bullies have left a long trail of ruined lives and either broken or angry people in their wake. Only they’d never tell you about that.
With that said, know that there were many before you and there will be many more after you. You aren’t alone and you’re not the only one they’ve bullied.
I’ve said it once and it bears repeating: If possible, you must find out who their past victims are, then befriend and align yourself with them. I guarantee that you will find out so many juicy tidbits about your bullies and what you discover about them can be used as a powerful weapon!
Always remember that!
This is how my mother treated me in front of crowds of family or out in public. She would even take photos when she was teasing and tormenting people. She is weird like that. I have three of these photo in my possession. When she started molding my children into the next victims in the family I went no contact.
Wow! I’m so sorry that happened to you! I just can’t understand why some treat their own babies so horribly! However, I’m so proud of you for doing what you had to do to protect your own children! I wish you and your children much happiness! <3
Meeting prior victims really sounds like good advice, if possible.
Thank you, Herb! It worked for me so it should work for just about anyone I think! 🙂