If you are a target of bullying, you must have knowledge of not only where your bullies draw their power from, but where your own power comes from.
If you don’t know it, you must learn it. And once you do, you will disarm bullies from a very powerful tool. And that tool is your lack of knowledge. Realize that your lack of awareness of your own value, along with the bully’s nature, mindset, and tactics is their biggest power.
Therefore, when you understand the value that you bring and how bullies think and operate, their moves and power plays will no longer have any effect on you.
Again, your lack of knowledge of your own power and potential is the main area from where your bullies draw their power.
In other words, if you already know the bullies are bad news and that they aren’t worthy of your time nor consideration, they can’t get over on you. Why? Because it takes two to create a bullying incident- the bully and the target.
So, what pillars must you realize to understand your power?
1. Your goodness
2. Strength
3. Rights
In that, you know your value. And this is your power.
Additionally, when you don’t realize your value, that’s another one of the bullies’ greatest assets. And it’s why many targets simp out- they don’t know their value, rights, nor strength.
When You Simp, You Only Hand Over Your Power.
Many targets simp for approval, attention, and popularity and most don’t realize they’re doing it. In doing these things, you not only get worse abuse from the bullies, but you also lose respect from bystanders who would otherwise be friends and allies. Therefore, even the bystanders and witnesses will begin to mistreat you too. And that reason will be that you don’t respect yourself.
Understand that if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will respect you either.
Therefore, you must respect yourself and do it in the early stages of bullying. Because once the bullying has gone on for so long, it will be too late. And the way to self-respect is to have knowledge of your value and your power. Know your worth and you will know your power!
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Aum Shanti
Thank you so much, Shanti!
What about when it’s been a lifetime of bullying for your own family???
Hi, Angela.
It won’t be easy. Bullying from family is the most difficult because they’re the people you love and you’re afraid of losing them. However, sometimes, it’s better to go no contact. Again, I realize that this isn’t an easy thing. But it’s so important if you want to salvage what mental health you have left. I hope this helps.
My apologies for the late reply, I’m just coming back from a long hiatus and recovery from a few health issues. Thank you so much for your comment.