Bullies are notorious energy vampires. An energy vampire will suck the oxygen out of every room they walk into. Their emotional default is always set on negative, forever having a problem for every solution. Where there’s positivity, they rain on it with their negative toxicity.
Anytime you’re striving for something, or winning at something, they always seen to trash it with statements such as:
“You can’t do it.”
“That’s not for you.”
“You’re too fat.”
“You’re too skinny.”
“You’re not pretty enough, smart enough, strong enough…” etc.
“You couldn’t possibly…”
When they find out you’re working toward a goal or planning for your future, these types of people will come up with all kinds of reasons why you won’t succeed. And if you do succeed at something or score a big win, they’ll say things such as:
“That was only beginner’s luck.”
“That was only a freak accident.”
“You just got lucky.”
“It won’t last.”
“It’s about time because you never won at anything before.”
No matter what you do, energy vamps will find a way to pee all over it.
Understand that energy vampires try to zap your energy because they never accomplished anything and they’re afraid that you just might reach success and make them look and feel bad. The best thing to do is to avoid them at all costs before they drag you down and rub their negativity off on you.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
This is an interesting post. You are right! There are people like this and sometimes they aren’t even seen as conventional bullies, though they really are. They are never encouraging and will constantly belittle you. They may not call you names persay but every thing is a criticism and how you or someone else can’t do something. When they walk in a room, all the fun, relaxed feeling is sucked out of the room.
You got that right! 💯
It’s important to surround yourself with positive, helpful people. We can’t avoid the energy vampires but we can try and limit their impact. Thanks for the great reminder.
You’re so welcome, Alisen. And you’re exactly right! 💯
True
I work with many energy vampires. The day always feels much longer when I’m tasked with working with them. Nice post 🙏
Thank you so much. ❤ My heart goes out to you because I’ve been there. Unfortunately, the workplace is full of them amd they’re a nightmare to work with.
That’s so true. Bullies can appear anywhere and they make people feel threatened and powerless. I have a relative who’s a bully and she sucks all the energy out of the space. Sometimes when I get angry, I feel like I am a bit like this relative and it frightens me. She’s the last person I want to be and I don’t want to be that way.
I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s especially difficult when the bully is a family member. You may love them but you don’t like them.
Yes, a family member is even hard to fight off. I am glad I was able to escape.
I’m glad you were too. It’s great that you’ve taken your power back by going no contact. In that, you’ve taken control of your life.
Oh noooo…not the Energy Vamps! 🧛🏻♂️ 👹 😱 Yes ma’am stop those bats from sucking your energy and your blood supply. Just BITE ‘EM back!!! LOL 😜
😂🤣😂🤣 Yasss, girl! Bite their heads off like Ozzy! 😁😁😁
Oh my…now that is quite a bite indeed Cherie!!! 😝 🦷 😬 LMBO! 👻
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You’re painfully right! Have you ever watched the series, what we do in the shadows? There is an actual ‘Energy Vampire’ that sucks the joy from others. I have a ‘friend’ of a friend who does this – she can be belittling, negative and frustrating to be around. I find her draining which is especially difficult when you’re with friends, but feel your mood at an all time low after being in her presence. Xxx
I don’t think I’ve ever seen that show. I’ll definitely have to look it up online because it sounds intriguing. And we all know people like your friend of a friend and they’re pretty soulless people. Sadly, these types usually end up old and alone.
Yes I can see it happening – you almost have to prepare yourself when you know you’ll be in contact with her, it’s alot to handle x
It sure is! It can be overwhelming. 😮
I like that term “Energy Vampires.” Some people will suck the life out of the room or you if you don’t watch out. Just bad vibes sometimes!
Absolutely 💯