Before I start, I want everyone to know that in no way am I judging anyone who is sexually liberated. If it’s what makes you happy, then do your thing. Live how you want because we all have free will. So, I won’t attempt to do a job that’s only God’s to do.
But when bullies who are sexually liberated (and the vast majority of them are) mistreat and label classy women and good girls because they choose not to live the same lifestyle as they do and to save themselves for true love, that’s when I’m going to have something to say and I can tell you that some people won’t like it.
So, here goes.
Have you noticed that it’s almost never the not-so-good women and butt-floss wearing females who get targeted for bullying? It seems that it’s mostly the girls who are discreet and have self-respect who are the worst treated. They’re excluded, ridiculed, and made to feel like they don’t matter. Moreover, it seems to be the former who go after the latter.
But why?
1.Pop culture and music. We get subliminal messages from the music, movies, TV, and other media outlets that push the narrative that it is okay to act like a, dare I say, “ho.” Girls listen to a lot of “thot-pop” and watch videos of overrated stars like Cardi B and Miley Cyrus, who bare it all and commit blatant sexual acts for all the world to view right from their livingrooms. Who remembers either watching or hearing of Cardi B’s raunchy performance with Megan whatshername live to her infamous “WAP” song?
Sadly, our girls are getting the message that it’s okay, and worse, completely normal to let it all hang out and to act inappropriate in public- that it’s completely fine to cheapen themselves and make themselves nothing more than a sex object- that it’s better to use your behind rather than your mind to get ahead in life. Society is embracing the wrong values and bullies are persecuting the classy ladies who don’t or won’t jump on board the illicit “sexualize yourself” bandwagon.
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The running narrative is that anything goes, and that showing belly, boobs, and butt is what it takes to get a man, when, in reality, no guy who’s worth his salt would even consider a long-term relationship, much less marriage with such a woman.
2. Bullies and sadly, most of society, are under the false belief that classy women are old-fashioned and boring. It’s no secret that bullies prioritize the wrong things (attention, approval, admiration, and popularity). So, they’re all for engaging in indecent behavior and stripping down to nothing if it will get them lots of those social benefits. Because bullies are all about being idolized and worshiped while sneering at others who aren’t ratchet and slutty like they are.
But! Here’s the thing. Maybe, just maybe, it isn’t only that bullies consider classy women and good girls to be old-fashioned and boring. It just might be that bullies know that classy women and good girls would never bow down and worship them- these are the females who won’t give them the validation they’re seeking and worse, who might reject them! Gasp!
So, again. Why do people bully good girls and classy women?
Because a good, classy, down-to-earth lady respects herself too much to kneel before anyone. And the narcissistic she-bullies are more than likely to be the butt-cheek baring, all-eyes-on-me, girls. And the lady deems attentions-seekers to be of the lowest common denominator. Therefore, such females aren’t worth her time, and the she-bullies know that and are angered by it.
God forbid that anyone they deem inferior rejects them. I mean, think about it. Maybe that’s why these she-bullies are so hell bent on bringing the decent and classy women down is because, deep down, they know these women already look poorly on them. They have an I’m-gonna-get-you-before-you-get-me kind of attitude.
So, to all the good, decent, and self-respecting classy young ladies out there, this is my message to you.
Know that your worth is so much higher than the she-bullies and their tomcat male counterparts who bully you. Because you have standards, a strong sense of self and know that you’re not sex objects, you chose to expose your mind and not your behind. And one day, it will be highly valued by a real man who truly deserves you and wants to love you.
Know that your worth isn’t determined by the eye candy and cheap appearances you can offer men, nor is it determined by what you can do for them. Your worth is determined by what you can do for yourself and how well you treat yourself and others.
That’s why the best thing you can do is to be a lady because it is the ladies who end up being the winners. They don’t have to resort to cheapening themselves to get male attention or to fit in and they don’t accept attention from the cheap tomcats who crawl up behind the she-bullies.
The beautifully decorated, yet half-naked she-bullies are a dime a dozen. The she-bully only attracts the dogs- the beta-men who only pose as alphas- the cheap playboys who are only there to hit it then quit it.
But a lady is a keeper. She’s not a one-date wonder or a one-night stand because she knows she’s worth more than just her body. The lady doesn’t care what petty people think of her. She doesn’t give a hoot that the she-bullies and their tomcats look down their noses at her because they don’t matter.
It is the lady, the once-bullied classy chick and good girl who will score a high-value man because she is a high-value woman. And because of this, the lady will live a good life because she has good morals she chooses to live by. And the morals they have are, in fact, so strong that they’re unchanged by the decaying society in which we unfortunately live.
Instead of being half-naked to fit in, the lady will stand out by keeping her clothes on. This doesn’t mean she dresses like a nun, but she keeps it classy. And that’s why you’re already ahead of the game.
She-bullies are only good for a one-time roll in the sack.
Ladies, on the other hand, are wife for life material.
I can’t stress this enough. Don’t let the desire to fit in cause you to relax your values, your morals, your beliefs, and your convictions. Hold on to your standards. Things may be lonely for you now but the things about you that your bullies snub and ridicule will be the very qualities that real people, men and women, with strong beliefs, values, and confidence will cherish. You just wait!
With knowledge comes empowerment!
I do think there are some women who come disguised as wolves in sheep’s clothing. Using clothing as a signal of virtue but really being nasty people within. I always choose modest clothing but have met quite a few women who show their true colors only to those they want to abuse.
You’re absolutely right, Sue. 💯 And you see these types in the churches. In every church there’s always one or a small group possibly 3-5. In one of my fiction novels, I have a few bad characters as people who were church bullies- my good characters derisively nicknamed this group of religious bullies “The Sanctified Saints.” 😁😁😁
Cherie, let me just add that there are men out there, if this was 20 years ago, I would have been one of them, who would take a lady over a she bully on any given day.
Absolutely there are, Michael. It is the classy chick who gets the good quality guys. 💯
Wow. This is so interesting! An air of holiness or false sweetness can definitely hide nastiness. I bet that book will make some really interesting reading!
Thanks you so much, Sue. the book is entitled, “Kids Under the Latch Key.” And you can find it here:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1483441040/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1641506220&sr=8-1
https://www.amazon.com/Kids-Under-Latch-Cherie-White-ebook/dp/B08L261RF9/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=1W1YEJMCUG64E&keywords=Kids+under+the+latch+key+Cherie+White&qid=1641506220&sprefix=kids+under+the+latch+key+cherie+white+%2Caps%2C136&sr=8-1
You know Cherie, I think about the old school celebs and entertainers and how classy and sexy they were without being slutty. Why is there a need to show it all and leave NOTHING to the imagination? Great post girlfriend. I am so glad that I never wanted nor desired to show it all. I once took a photo in a halter top but it showed no midriff, just the crisscross over my shoulders. My picture was placed in our local newspaper for an award I won. Back then your phone number was listed in the local phone book and someone found the number, asked for me when they called our house, and proceeded to say some horrible, nasty remarks about my look and what they wanted to do to me. (obviously a pedophile) I told them that I was going to call the police and if they came to our house, I would blow them away with my father’s shotgun. Then I hung up. I told my parents about it and never wore that top again!
I will vote for classy any day! Great post sweetie! Thanks for sharing. 🥂🙏🏼💐
Thank you so much, sweetie! 😊 And…Oh my goodness, Kym! 😱 I’m so sorry that happened to you! And you’re right, that person was probably a creepy pedo! Like you, I will also vote classy! 💯 As for the classy celebs, I think the trampiness in stardom began after the new millennium. Because even in the 70’s, 80s and 90s, stars had a modicum of class! Again, thank you so much for your thoughts on this! I so value your input, girl! 💖💐🌹
Oh girlfriend you nailed it 🔨 so eloquently as always! You were spot on sista’! Sometimes, although not all the time, such seduction can bring a truckload of problems and then some. Yep, bring class back! I appreciate you my friend and thanks so much for addressing some difficult, yet critical topics! They are truly lifesaving in my book. As you know, it’s truly needed! Don’t stop Cherie!!! 😉👏🏼🎉🤗🌟💋💖
I won’t stop, girlie! I can assure you! 💖💐🌹
I’m counting on that my dear! 👍🏼🤩👏🏼
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Real ladies rock! My wife is the classiest lady I know.
This is awesome! I’m so glad you have a great marriage and a wife who is classy and who you love with all your heart. How I love to hear a man uplift his wife! 😍😍😍 I wish you both many more years and a beautiful life together! 💖💐🌹🕊
Thank you! Blessings.
My pleasure. 🙌🙌🙌
Wow! Boy have the times changed! I remember when being slutty was taboo. One of my sisters wasn’t slutty in a promiscuous way, but she liked to flirt with guys, and she dressed sexy. The Miss Priss girls who covered themselves up and were more sexually reserved were the ones who were bullies. They gave my sister hell for just being herself.
I remember those times too, Bella. And flirting with guys doesn’t make a girl a slut. And you can dress sexy without being half naked- you can still leave something to the imagination and keep your mystery. However, there are those girls, like the Miss Priss girls you speak of, who are indeed bullies. We even have a few bullies in every church. The Miss Priss girls were more than likely the real sluts who were jealous of your sister. You can bet that those girls felt threatened by your sister and that’s why they worked so hard to bring her down.
Great post, Cherie. I wish more of our young women who are celebrities—and some of the older ones like Madonna—cared about their image and the damage they are doing to our young girls by being so trashy. It’s disgusting!
Thank you so much, Kathy! 💖💐 And yasss! 💯 These celebrities really are doing damage to the psyches of young girls everywhere and it IS disgusting. Because girls see celebrities doing it they automatically think it’s okay. That’s why parents need to talk to their kids about this sort of thing and let them see that this isn’t the way to dress or act. Thank you so much for your thoughts on this. They’re highly valued. 🕊
And to think that when he was running for President, Joe Biden let Carrie B interview him. I wonder if he had enough sense to know the kind of woman she is, and that she has bragged about her life before becoming a celebrity, which including rolling men she had sex with for money.
Not surprising. I don’t think he cared.
Wow! I really love reading your posts, they are really interesting and inspiring. I think it is great that you raise a voice against bullying!
These are such important points. I go with class over trash any day.
Amen on that, Cindy! 💯 Thank you so much! 💖