There’s absolutely nothing wrong with responding in kind when someone tries to mistreat you. It shows that you command the dignity and respect that’s due to the next person and that you won’t tolerate crap from bullies. It also shows that you have the guts to stand your ground when some creep violates your boundaries.
As a society, we’ve been conditioned by politicians, the media, corporations, educators, and even certain members of our families that responding in kind only makes us as bad as the bullies. And we’re still being conditioned to believe it. We’re being told to “ignore” people’s atrocious behavior, and in some cases, even submit to it.
However, I want you to understand that the only thing bullies understand is strength and power and anyone they deem as weak is fair game.
Therefore, if you don’t respond in kind to bad behavior, bullies will get the message that there are no consequences for their abuse and that they can walk on you anytime they feel like it. There’ll be no stopping them from escalating the bullying and no limit to what they’ll try next.
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You must set boundaries, and how you set boundaries is by imposing consequences on anyone who violates those boundaries. But how do you impose consequences? By responding in kind to bullies when they cross the line.
Notice I say “respond” and not react. By responding the right way, you show that you’re not afraid to stand your ground and that you command the same dignity and respect given to the next person.
There’s no law that says that you must accept abuse from anyone. Yet, we’re very subtly being told that we should take it, and with a smile, and a yes sir/ma’am, then ask for seconds. In today’s world, society tries to dictate that we should agree to abuse.
Um- no! That’s now how life or human nature works! Every action is followed by a response!
Bullies must realize that there are consequences if they harm another person. And we must realize that it is the threat of consequences that keeps the bad guys from coming for us and keeps us safe. Without accountability, there would be chaos and anarchy! Bullies would have free reign over us all.
So, never be afraid to respond in kind and never feel guilty for it. It’s normal, expected, and it’s how you defend yourself and treat yourself well.
The more you know…
Can’t agree any more!! 🙌
Thank you so much Ahiri. ❤
This is a great point and along similar lines to one I was thinking about writing on my website.
Thank you so much. ❤ Please write it. I’d love to read it. 🙂
My problem back then was that I did react instead of responding. As a result, I was made out to be the troublemaker. Your advice is sound.
That happens a lot, sadly. I’m sorry they gaslighted you.
“…society tries to dictate that we should agree to abuse.” Very good points Cherie. 👏 Bullies just don’t seem to think their actions do not have long-term consequences, oh but they do. I remember folks telling me to “kill ’em with kindness” when I just wanted to kill them and beat the crap out of them. 🥊 But, thank God I have grown up and learned that although these jokers are extremely irritating, it is my choice in my attitude whether or even how I respond. 🤨
Great approach my dear. Love this! ❤️ 🧡 💛 💚 💙 💜
Thank you so much, sweetie. ❤💐😍 And yes! You have to refuse to let them control you. Say what you need to say in as few words as possible, then turn your back to them and walk away. ⚡
I love it… few words, then walk away! 🥰 Was it Austin Powers who said, “Talk to the hand ’cause the face ain’t hearing it?” Enough said!!! 😜 Love it girlfriend! 💖 💘 💝
Wow! You must have read my mind because I was thinking of the “talk to the hand” comeback as I typed the comment you responded to with this reply! Oooeee, girl! 😃❤💐💯🎯👍
Kindred spirits! 💯 Need I say more??? 🥰💖🤩 Yeah, baby!!!
Amen on that! 🎯💯