The excuses bullies make for their rotten behavior are endless. Here are the most common excuses bullies make.
“Because he’s annoying.”
“She brings it on herself.”
“I was only joking.”
“Because he’s a nerd.”
“Because she’s a loser.”
“Because he’s so stupid.”
“Because you deserve it.”
“Because you have a crooked nose (or funny ears, etc.).”
“Because he’s a wimp (wuss, geek, etc.).”
“Because she’s crazy (mentally unstable, cuckoo, loony, etc.)”
“Because he dresses weird.”
“Because he stinks (smells funny, etc.).”
“Because he needs to toughen up.”
“Because he’s black.”
“Because she’s white.”
“Because you have a big mouth.”
“Because he’s too skinny.”
“Because he has four-eyes (wears eye-glasses).
“Because she’s a metal-mouth (wears braces).
“You’re too different.”
I could go on and on! The excuses bullies make are endless. However, know that these so-called reasons have nothing to do with you if you’re a target of bullying. Understand that bullying is about power and the need to feel better than someone else. Your bullies are trying to meet their needs for validation or superiority in a hateful and hurtful manner.
When you’re being mistreated, it’s normal to want to figure out why. And the reason we want to know why it is so we can fix whatever’s wrong and make the bullying stop. But just because we correct whatever’s wrong doesn’t mean the bullying will go away, and most of the time, it doesn’t.
It only gets worse when you try to change yourself because people lose respect for you when you’re not yourself.
You may try to change yourself; you may hide, wear fancier clothes, even buy a new flashier car. But the truth is, there was never anything wrong with you in the first place. Understand that bullies target you not because there’s anything wrong with you or because you’ve done anything wrong. They’re only using you to meet their needs, and those needs are to feel better about themselves, feel powerful, superior, or better than you.
I even know adults- ADULTS, who should know better but are under the misguided impression that if people bully you, that you’re causing them to do so- that there’s something wrong with you, that there has to be something you’re not doing right, that you’re somehow annoying people and rubbing everyone the wrong way. No! This is a falsehood you should dismiss immediately!
Don’t accept it! Know in your heart that you did nothing wrong and that you’re great just the way you are! Here are things you can do to help your self-esteem and restore confidence.
Avoid these bullies like the plague.
Keep company with only those who uplift you and make you feel good about yourself.
Befriend other targets.
Do the things you enjoy and always show off your talents and gifts.
Do all of these, and your self-esteem will thank you for it!
With knowledge comes empowerment!