Both a Blessing and a Curse

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When you have a sharp BS detector and are able to see through others’ fakery and behind their douchebaggery, you have a special gift that few people have. That much is true. Moreover, with this gift, you can more easily avoid the many traps and pitfalls bullies, shysters, and con artists set up.

However, having this gift can be a curse. Although being awake and alert to lies, deceit, and bad intentions is both freeing and empowering, it can also be an excruciating and alienating journey. It can be lonely, confusing, and frightening. You often struggle as you try to process the insanity around you.

There is a reality that no one talks about- the darkness that accompanies your having this kind of sight. In fact, you may grieve what you thought, for so many years, was the truth. The realization that everything you once thought you knew turned out to be lies is, perhaps, the most difficult pill to swallow.

Furthermore, the people you once trusted, the principals you were taught, the beliefs you once held, the illusions you once had, and the life you once lived- when they turn out to be lies, it’s the hardest thing!

The Truth Hurts

Having your illusions shattered is never an enjoyable experience. However, with growth comes pain and discomfort and it doesn’t stop there. With these newfound revelations, you will often find yourself grieving again. You’ll grieve the loss of relationships with people you thought were friends and were smarter.

You’ll feel alone. And you’ll be ridiculed not only by acquaintances and passers by but sometimes by friends and family. You’ll realize that you never had nearly as much in common with the people you care about as you originally thought.

When you’re wise to bullshit, people will judge and ridicule you because they either don’t see what you do, or they do see it but are either living in denial or they’re too chicken to call it out.

Moreover, you might grieve the loss of your own ignorance because ignorance is bliss and reality is harsh. You might even find yourself wishing that you were still just as ignorant as they are because, if you were, you’d still fit in with them.

Having the sense to see through all the smoke screens can be a lonely road to travel. There’s no sugarcoating it- getting wise to the realities of the world and of the people around you can be brutal!

Most People Can’t Handle the Truth

Furthermore, the ability to dive down into the deepest, darkest rabbit holes and to remain functioning in daily life is a skill that we don’t talk about enough.

I’ve lost many people I thought were friends. However, I still consider myself one of the lucky few. Why? Because most of my family and my small circle of true friends? They get it and they get me. However, many of you aren’t so lucky. You’re struggling with feeling disconnected from your family and friends and it’s as though they exist in another world.

Just know that you’re not alone. Not only are you not alone, but you also have an entire tribe standing behind you. We may be separated by miles, but we’re deeply connected in purpose and spirit.

So, hold on to your faith and your dignity. Hold onto your truth and stand on it. Continue to be yourself and to press forward. Know that we’re here and we’ve got you! Most importantly, know that God’s here and He’s got you!

With knowledge comes empowerment!

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  1. Ronald Charlton says:


  2. Ronald Charlton says:

    Building safer and better communities for all standing by law and order to protect innocent citizens from harm or wrong doing’s PEOPLES POLICING HELPING IN OUR COMMUNITIES &COUNTRIES ALSO HELPING STOP BULLYING AND SAVING INNOCENT LIVES OF CITIZENS EVERYBODY KNOWS LIVES CAN BE LOST DUE TO BULLYING NEVER SURRENDER YOUR LIFE TO BULLIES OR BE HARMED OR BE SILENCED 👮‍♀️👮‍♀️👮‍♀️👮‍♀️👮‍♀️🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👀👀👀👀👀😎😎😎😎😎👿👿👿👿👿 BE SAFE BE HAPPY

    • cheriewhite says:

      Absolutely right, Ronald! 💯 However bullying can’t be policed because it’s a dark part of human nature. But you can stand up to it and tell the bullies to get lost.

    • cheriewhite says:

      You’re absolutely right. It really isn’t. However, to most of the people who live in lala land, they will probably beg to differ. It’s sad that many people choose to live in a world of illusions.

  3. New Media Works says:

    Hey Cherie 🙂

    Your words of encouragement have not fallen on deaf ears! 😀

    I wrote this about our exchange on your recent post: “What’s the point of blogging if they keep you from engaging with other bloggers?” [ ] .. and I consider it “well-received” (by which I do not focus so much on the number of likes as the character behind those “liking” … when I once commented *drumroll* on something posted back on the FB, the guy said that “drumroll” was so outdated, and I said it’s only outdated because there is no “drumroll” button 😉 ).

    Um, where was I? Oh, yea, I was writing this comment on your post, mentioning what I had written … and BTW don’t miss the pingback link from !!

    Um, another thing I also wanted to say here is that David Bowie (from “Ziggy Stardust”) had it completely SPOT ON with this title: “It ain’t easy!”

    🙂 Norbert

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