Euphemism- word, phrase or statement that softens a harsher meaning.
Seasoned bullies are well-known for euphemizing their words so that they don’t look bad to others. Anytime bullies soften their insults, they appear concerned for the target’s well-being, or they appear sympathetic. But, don’t be misled. In reality, they’re anything but!
Also, in “softly” putting you down, they are more like to get confirmation for their interlocutors (the other people taking part in the discussion) to justify their atrocious behavior. And when they get the confirmation they seek, they get with it relief and the green light to continue talking.
Closeup portrait unhappy woman giving loser sign on forehead, looking at you with anger and hatred on face isolated on gray background.
Here are the most common softened statements.
“I hope she gets the help she needs.”
“The poor guy, it’s sad that people treat him so bad.”
“I know I shouldn’t say this, but…”
“Bless her heart, she’s such a miserable and unhappy person.”
“I sincerely hope she can go someplace where she can be happy.”
I want you to understand that when your bullies make these statements, they’re not the least bit sympathetic nor concerned about your well-being. They’re only concerned with how they look and sound to everyone else and with putting on a good front to cover their true feelings.
The more you know.
Absolutely agreed! Euphisms are often used as a hidden tool to convey something harsh in a benevolent manner
Thank you so much, Isha! And it’s one of the dirtiest tricks in the book. 💯
That is extremely unfortunate. It is amazing that you are spreading the word and talking about it. Bullying really needs more insights and Awareness!
Absolutely it does, Isha. And in great detail. Thank you so much for your insights. ❤
You’re very welcome!
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My bullies called it “exorcism” – i.e. they thought mistreating me and/or hitting me would exorcise the demons that made me, in their words, “weird”. They would also tell me they want to help me “face my fears” & “get over my OCDs”. I’m actually surprised that the head bully, Rachel, didn’t have the guts to have me arrested for “statutory rape” after her brother attacked me, or have me institutionalized when I would stand up for myself.
She didn’t have the authority to have you institutionalized. Only your legal guardian could have done that.