What does it mean when bullies bully openly? When they no longer try to hide their hatred, abuse, and brutality from not only you but everyone else around? When your bullies bully you in plain sight, out in the open, in front of not only your peers, but also your teachers, principal, supervisors, or managers?
It means that you’re seeing a very bad sign- that the people in positions of power- those you would expect to act, have no intentions of holding your bullies accountable. What also means is that they have no intentions of helping or protecting you. Even worse, it means that the abuse has escalated to a very dangerous level.
People are only emboldened and get cocky and full of themselves when they know there’s no accountability for wrongdoing. Therefore, the bullies’ actions and arrogance only send unspoken messages to their targets which are as follows:
“We can do whatever we want and there’s nothing anyone can do.”
“Who’s going to stop us.”
“Who’s going to help you. You’re ours now.”
I can guarantee that if bullies thought they would be held responsible, they would try their level best to hide their evil or avoid doing it altogether. No one wants to have to answer for anything and they definitely don’t want the shame and humiliation that comes with it. So, naturally they either wouldn’t do the bad deeds at all, or they would only do their dirt behind closed doors.
guilt concept – unhappy young sporty man showing his throat with gun-like hands for sign of low self-esteem, textured effects
Whereas, after people have gotten away with hurting another person a few times, they naturally catch on that there are no repercussions, no shame, nor humiliation. And once there’s complete impunity and therefore, immunity, it’s no holds barred. So, if you’re a target of bullying and your bullies are continuously let off the hook, you’re a sitting duck!
Why? Because there are no limits to what your bullies can do to you and bullying always escalates if it’s left unchecked. And when someone bad is left unchecked, there’s no incentive to hide it, much less stop it.
And here’s another thing. It sets a precedent for everyone else, in that it will also encourage people who wouldn’t normally mistreat another person to jump on the bandwagon and bully you too. Naturally, when bystanders and witnesses see that the bullies are getting away with it, they will think that they will be let off the hook too and they will be encouraged to join in on the torment. It’s the science of group behavior.
Know that if you ever find yourself under these circumstances, you’re in a very dangerous situation and you must find a way to remove yourself from the environment before you sustain any further damage. It’s the only way you will ever regain your safety and peace of mind.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
I appreciate your posts on bullying! Your information is validating and I feel less alone … I feel understood. Thank you!
You’re so welcome! I’m so glad this post makes you feel validated. Know that you matter, your thoughts and feelings matter, and that you have value! 😊🌺🌞💐
Great post Cherie. I think it’s safe to say they better back down before they get smacked down and beat down. 😡🥊🎯 Great encouragement for those who are dealing with such victimization from the bad, the brazen and the downright pathetic! UGH!!! 😝🥺😵
Thank you, dahhh-ling! 💖🌞🌺🌻 And I love the “back down before you get smacked down and beat down.” Don’t you know it, honey! 💯💯💯
All day long girlfriend. Don’t start nothin’, it won’t be nothin’! They betta recognize! 😲🤨😜
You got that right! 💯🎯👍
I can attest to this. Even more, if bullies have an audience, they will bully even more in order to play to that audience.
Absolutely, Michael! 💯 They like to show others how “powerful” they are.
true 🌞🌞
Thank you, Jim. 🤗🤗🤗
a barrel of hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thank you! 😊 I receive them with pleasure!
🤭🤭 Oh dear!
Very good to know.
Thank you so much! 😊🤗💖💐🌞
Thank you Cherie! Readers: It only takes one person to stand up to people bullying someone, that could be YOU reading this. Making that effort could save a life.
You’re most welcome, Jen! 💖 And you’re so right! 💯 All it takes is one person speaking out to save a life.
I hope more people learn this over time. Hugs to you Cherie!
Hugs back, Jen! 🤗🤗🤗
Great post Cherie! Your insights are spot on, at least for me. I live in hope that one day it won’t be so easy for bullies to get away with what they do. If not, at least people become stronger and expose these idiots when they do terrible things against another. Exposure of their actions help too!
Thank you so much, Stella. We live in a fallen world so bullying will never completely go away. However, we can learn confidence and to stand up for ourselves and therefore, shrink the victim pool for bullies. 💖🌺🌻😊
Bullies are always dangerous… keep well away
Some people just don’t care even when they see what these bullies do right before their eyes. It’s a sad reality.
💯 You’re absolutely right because most bystanders either let it happen or join in. Such cowards!
You’re right about that.