‘Want to know secrets of physical bullies. Here are all the secrets they hide so you can use them to your advantage.

They may appear tough. However, physical bullies are the weakest ones of all.

In this post you will learn all the secrets physical bullies don’t want you to know so that you can use them to your advantage.

Once you learn all about these important details, you will feel better about yourself just knowing that you don’t have to result to physical means to get through life.

This post is all about physical bullies and their weaknesses so that you can use them as weapons to protect yourself.

Physical Bullies

The weakest person always uses physical violence. However, the strongest person always uses their brain. It’s also true that the weakest person talks the most and the loudest, but the strongest person gets his message across in few words.

Through experience, I’ve found that these bullies were taught at home that violence is the answer to all their problems. Most of my classmates had the same brutish mentality.

Therefore, if you didn’t give them what they wanted, they resorted to using their fists to force you to comply. Also, they used physical violence any time they felt you weren’t giving them the respect they thought they deserved.

Additionally, bullies like these may even use physical violence to take their frustrations out on you. Whenever they’re in a bad mood, they hold you responsible for it. It’s pathetic really.

But they would never tell you these things!

Here are the secrets they hope you never find out.

1. Physical Bullies are highly insecure with themselves.

Physical violence is weakness. Why? Because people only submit because they don’t the bully to beat them up.

True persuasion is having someone do something for you because they want to do it. Therefore, when people have a choice and they choose to do something you want, it’s so much more rewarding.

Understand that physical bullies see everything as zero-sum. In other words, they feel they either have total control, or none at all. And there’s no in-between.

If they can’t have complete influence, they feel powerless.

2. Physical Bullies:

They compare themselves with others.

Physically violent bullies often compare themselves with others. They see themselves as less effective at persuasion than others.

Therefore, they feel that they’re not as good at getting others to cooperate. And they feel that they should always be in command of circumstances and situations.

In their intense anger and rage, these bullies look at you. And through use of force and violence, these bullies shift the blame. They shift it from their own sense of powerlessness to something you must have done.

They see you as their enemy or their adversary. Therefore, they feel that they must punish and destroy you.

Therefore, their knee-jerk reactions are triggered with a self-demeaning or self-defeating thought and feeling of indignation. And this trigger happens somewhere between your statement or action and their blow-up.

3. They care what you and everyone else thinks of them.

Consequently, the bully has an afterthought that compels them to physically attack you. The afterthought can be something like:

• “He thinks I’m a wuss.”
• “He thinks I’m chicken.”
• “She thinks I’m weak.”
• “I’m not getting through to this jerk.”
• “He doesn’t respect me.”
• “I need to show this person she cannot ignore me and just walk away.”

This is all the result of the bully’s feeling hurt. Therefore, they cover this hurt feeling behind a veneer of anger and toughness.

Moreover, physically violent bullies believe that being calm and cool is a sign of weakness. They feel the same about walking away from confrontation.

 They also think that ignoring an aggressor is a sign of disrespect. However, understand that these bullies place high value on their status and social image.

Therefore, when they feel that you’ve slighted them, they make you responsible for their feelings of indignation.

4. Physical bullies must use violence to keep their power.

In other words, they think they’re entitled to put their hands on you. Why? Because they think that you wronged them somehow. Therefore, you should be punished.

Also, physically violent bullies impose rules of engagement on you that they, themselves, don’t follow. Bullies think they’re exempt from any rules.

Again, physical bullies have a sense of entitlement. They believe that you should respect them at all times. According to your bullies, you should know what they want from you.

In fact, your bullies expect you to do what they tell you to do and never say no to them. Moreover, you should only tell them what they want to hear.

In short, your bullies expect you to satisfy their every whim, even if it means sacrificing yourself for them.

5. They see themselves as the victim and you as the aggressor who must be punished.

In their minds, they’re thinking the following thoughts.

• “You caused me distress!”
• “You made me mad, so I must make you pay dearly for it!”
• “How dare you defy me!”
• “That loser is not giving me the respect they owe me.”

By reversing the roles and making you the aggressor, physical bullies can blunt the pains of their frustrations and disappointments. Why? Because anger and rage are less unpleasant than hopelessness.

Physical violence may Seem like strength. But, is it?

Physical bullies may look strong and mighty. They may seem tough when they’re whipping and beating up on you, However, they’re really weak.

In fact, they’re the weakest of all other types of bullies. And it’s because they can’t have power any other way. The only way they can get it is to use physical force.

Outside of their use of fear and bodily harm, these bullies are totally ineffective. They have no gift of gab, charm nor seductive powers.

In other words, they aren’t able to persuade people to do what they want.

Physically violent bullies constantly apply evil intentions to you. Therefore, they feel consistent urges to make you pay for being such a pain.

Remember that your bullies are under the delusion that you’re persecuting them when, in fact, it’s the opposite. However, realize that blaming you helps them soothe their self-image.

Fisticuffs give physical bullies psychological rewards.

When physically violent bullies attacks you and beats you down, they get instant psychological rewards. As a result, they relieve their anger and get a sense of power.

Finally, they get to feel a sense of satisfaction and justice.

Moreover, your bullies get to deal with you up close. They get to look into your eyes to see your pain. Also, they want to hear you cry out or scream in pain.

They also get the satisfaction from the possibility of getting you good and bloody. For them, that’s icing on the cake.

Realize that these people are sick individuals. They derive pleasure from inflicting cuts, bruises, and broken bones.

6. These types of Bullies Feel Powerless. they’re are No Different Than Rapists

For example, the reason why most rapists rape isn’t only about power over another. Put bluntly, it’s because they couldn’t get sex any other way.

Maybe they have no game. In other words, they have a hard time seducing a woman to go to bed with them. It could be that they don’t know how to flirt with or court a woman effectively.

Moreover, maybe they’re creepy or unattractive and women find them repulsive. Either way, they’re a turn off to potential partners.

Most rapists are ineffective and powerless with women under normal circumstances. So, the only way they can get sexual gratification is to use force and violence- rape!

7. Physical Bullies Feel Vulnerable during conflicts.

It comes down to the  views of not just others, but of themselves. The reason these bullies use physical force and violence is because they feel vulnerable in conflicts.

Therefore, they go to the only problem-solving technique they know. Physical violence is the only way they can punish their targets and restore their self-esteem.

Here’s another way to look at it. Anytime anyone has to physically threaten you to make you do what they want, it only means that you have all the power, not them. They may beat the crap out of you but you don’t have to resort to that kind of behavior to get your needs met.

Moreover, your scratches, bruises, and broken bones will heal. But your bullies’ stupidity and lack of social intelligence are things they are stuck with forever!

If nothing else, remember this! You have a God-given, animal right to defend yourself from harm. If a bully is pounding on you, it’s no use relying on the school, workplace, or the law to protect you.

You must learn to protect yourself and if that means throwing up your dukes, so be it!

8. Instant Gratification.

These bullies tend to crave instant and immediate gratification. Physical violence gives them that. Moreover, your bullies get an immediate rush of power and dominion.  And they think that they’ve won.

Many physically violent bullies are egocentric and have delusions of grandeur. And when you stand up to them, you shatter their delusions.

Moreover, if you say anything back to the bullies, it automatically puts your bullies on the weaker end. Therefore, they fly into a rage and use violence to restore that sense of power and invincibility.

Understand that these types of people are self-serving. And they feel superior to anyone else. Therefore, they think they have innate entitlements that supersede even your most basic human rights.

Physical Bullies Expect you to take their shit.

These bullies believe they’re entitled to hurt you.  On the other hand, they believe you’re just supposed to shut up and take it. They expect you to take the abuse without question or protest.

Therefore, when you stand up and oppose the abuse, your bullies will take it as a challenge. They may even see it as an insult. As a result, they will use forceful and violent measures to take you down.

9. They are Sadistic.

Physical bullies derive feelings of pleasure when beating you up. Moreover, they feel no shame unless the wrong people find them out.

They’re open with their violence and don’t fear accountability. Why? Because they know that most others are too scared to confront them.

Physical bullies have no qualms about asserting their dominance over others. They feel their entitlements supersede your basic rights.

Therefore, they confidently encroach on your time, your space, and your safety. Where most people would feel shame over hurting someone, physical bullies only feel powerful.

Sadly, there isn’t much you can do to help these types of people. Sadistic people are resistant to any help. Consequently, those who are physically violent usually end up in prison for battery or murder.

Bullies have many secrets and it’s up to you to find out what they are. Also, it’s up to you to defend yourself against them no matter what.

This post is all about the mentality of physical bullies so that you’ll be more emboldened to defend yourself.

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