Don’t hate your bullies, feel sorry for them. Here we will discuss why this is so important.

Don’t feel sorry for yourself. Instead, feel sorry for your bullies. Pity is patronizing. Therefore, they’re the ones who deserve pity, not you.

In this post, you will learn why it’s better that you don’t hate your bullies so that you won’t give them the dignity they don’t deserve. Moreover, you won’t allow yourself to be eaten up by hate.

Once you learn the crucial details you’re about to read, you will resist hate and choose pity instead.

This post will give you reasons why you’re better off if you don’t hate your bullies so that you will refuse to let this poisonous emotion take over your life.

Don’t hate your bullies

It all comes down to you. You are responsible for your successes and your happiness. Happiness is a choice, not something that magically happens to only certain people.

It’s okay to cry when someone hurts you. It’s okay to be hurt, angry, and sad. In fact, you need to allow yourself to feel. Allow yourself to get angry. Permit yourself to cry it out. Just don’t hate people who abuse you.

Never let the cruel words and actions of a bully cause you to hate them. I realize that this is not always easy. However, it is important.

Understand that your bullies are cowards and fighting demons of their own. Only they’re doing it the wrong way. And their mistreatment of you is only proof that they’re the ones who have the issues.

Hate gives Bullies a Degree of Dignity. But there’s no dignity in being pitied.

Never hate your bullies because if you do, you will give them some dignity. They don’t deserve that. Pity them instead. There’s no dignity in being pitied because it’s pathetic.

Don’t Hate Your Bullies:

They fight demons of their own.

Understand that your bullies are cowards. Moreover, they are fighting demons of their own. Only they’re doing it the wrong way. And their mistreatment of you is only proof that they’re the ones who have the issues.

Bullies point out your shortcomings because they’re so afraid that somebody will discover theirs. Bullies are notorious for projecting their flaws onto you to keep other people from seeing theirs. It’s pathetic when you think real hard about it.

And trust me, we all have imperfections. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. Distraction and projection are how bullies operate. They would be the top two tactics in the “How To Bully” handbook if there ever were such a guide.

Understand that bullies bully out of fear and insecurity!

Bullies are notorious for seeking approval.

I look back and realize that most of my classmates lived solely for their friends’ approval. They didn’t know what they wanted. Even worse, they didn’t know who they were! Sadly, as adults, they still don’t.

Even today, they’re slaves to the approval of others. They are tools, followers, sheep.

I refuse to live that way. Realize that you don’t live for them. Life isn’t a popularity contest. Your goal is to do what makes you happy and live a drama-free life. No more, no less.

So, stop caring about their approval. You don’t need it.

Don’t Hate Your Bullies:

They don’t know who they are.

You must tell yourself, “I know who I am, and I live for much better things!”

Believe me. You will look back and realize that your bullies have nothing to envy. In fact, you’re much better off than any of them. You are the luckier one.

Why? Because when you don’t have to jump through hoops to prove anything, you can relax. So, don’t bend over backward for them.

This is hard, and you may pay a heavy price for it, but continue to live for yourself. You will be glad you did.

The reason your bullies seem to have all these friends around them is that they put on a front. Therefore, consider all the personal sacrifices they’re making to have those friends. Ask yourself what they have to give up?

Indifference is better than hate.

Indifference is a better option than hate. Because with indifference, you could absolutely care less.

You couldn’t care less if the person is doing well or poorly, what he thinks, what he says, or what he does. On the other hand, with hate, you care because all you want is for the hated person to suffer.

There’s a strong desire to make sure nothing good happens to those you hate. Therefore, you obsessively seek to destroy them.

You want to make sure all opportunities are closed off to the hated person. This is what hate does. It causes haters to obsess over the hated.

So, if you’re a target of bullies, let them go ahead and hate on you. But don’t hate them back. Instead, be indifferent toward them.

Don’t Hate Your Bullies:

They hate you. But you don’t have to hate them back.

What if I told you that having haters can be a good thing and you can use it to your advantage? Most victims of bullying see haters as a bad thing.

In other words, they see them as a hindrance to their progress. However, they don’t have to be. It depends on how you look at it.

Once you start seeing the positives in it, they won’t be so threatening to you. In fact, you may even enjoy watching them squirm every time they see you.

The faces of hate.

As a survivor of severe bullying and peer-abuse, I’ve seen the faces of hate- up close and personal. And let me tell you, it’s ugly! And dangerous!

I know what it looks like. I’ve felt its powerful and painful sting and been paralyzed by it. As much as I hate to admit it, I’ve even felt it toward others in the past.

But hatred is worthless. Most people don’t understand the damage it does to not the hated, but the hater! It causes the hater more pain than the hated.

I say this because I’ve witnessed it. In the past, I’ve looked into the eyes of my bullies. And I looked into their eyes- down into their souls!

I truly believe that if there weren’t a law against murder or manslaughter, I probably wouldn’t be here today. That was the kind of hate many of my classmates had for me.

I noticed how it burned them up inside. ‘You see? That’s what hate does. When you have hatred for another person, you’re only hurting yourself.

Because it will eat you up inside and make you deranged. Hate is a sick and twisted obsession, and it can take over your life if you allow it to.

Hatred can destroy your happiness and prospects. It skews your judgment and ability to think clearly. It causes you to make horrible decisions- decisions that can alter the entire trajectory of your life.

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Hate is Harmful on Both Sides

When a person harbors hatred toward another human being, it numbs their conscience and dulls their reasoning. They will condone things they would otherwise deem immoral and evil.

In other words, the hater will approve of the most depraved, heinous atrocities directed toward the hated person. Yet they would disapprove of it, even condemn it, if it were against anyone else, even a total stranger.

Hate turns even the kindest, most caring people into depraved monsters. Realize that hate destroys haters and targets alike. Hate kills.

So, if you’re a target of bullies, let them go ahead and hate on you. But don’t hate them back.

What Hate Does to the Hater.

You may feel that your hate is justified. I understand. I did too. But I’m here to tell you, it never got me anywhere. It served no purpose, and I never benefited from it.

So, again, no matter how some creep may have wronged you, never give in to hate. Because it is poisonous! Not to the other person but to YOU! Here’s why.

• Hate burns you up inside. It eats down into your very soul and prolongs feelings of hurt, depression, and downright misery.
• It doesn’t hurt the person being hated. It hurts you because nine times out of ten, the person you hate either doesn’t know about it or doesn’t care.
• You give up your blessings. Also, you forego any opportunities that would otherwise come your way. You invite negativity and evil into your world instead. Hatred causes you to forego your own happiness, and life is too short to be anything but happy.
• Again, while you are sitting around stewing over some idiot who has wronged you in the past, they aren’t thinking about you.

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Hate Serves No Purpose

While you are holding grudges and plotting ways to get back at them, that person is getting on with life. The person who hurt you doesn’t care about you.

They are not thinking about you. So why do you allow them to live rent-free in your head? They are a complete waste of brain activity!

Hate, insecurity, grudges, and excessive anger are all garbage in your life. And you need to dispose of it.

It’s time to take out the trash. Then take back the peace and happiness that you not only deserve but have a divine right to. You deserve to be happy. And the only way you will find happiness is to let go of any grudges and hate.

Then replace them with love and acceptance. It is what I had to do before I could be happy.

In Conclusion.

You have the delicious power to re-frame your thinking. Therefore, you must realize that your bullies’ hatred of you only hurts them, not you. It comes from something inside them, not something about you.

Remember that their raw feelings say everything about them. So, sit back, eat your popcorn, and watch them eat their hearts out and self-destruct. And continue to love yourself.

Lastly, continue to be happy despite their hatred. There is dignity in being hated.

This post gave you all the reasons it’s better that you don’t hate your bullies so that you can take back your peace and happiness.

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