‘Want to know how to be a woman who knows her worth? Here are seven things you never settle for when you know your worth.
Throughout my lifetime, I’ve known many women who seemed to pick shady and nasty characters to date. I’m talking about smart and beautiful women who you know can do better if they were a little more selective!
Then there’s the woman who knows her worth. I’ve met these women too and I discovered that there are things they won’t settle for.
Therefore in this post, you will learn how to be a woman who knows her worth. Also, you’ll learn the 5 things you should never settle for.
Once you learn all about this life-changing information, you will be a powerful force to be reckoned with. In that, you will begin respecting yourself. As a result, you will also get the respect you deserve.
This post is all about how to be a woman who knows her worth so that you can command respect and get the best out of life. Moreover, bullies will think twice before they mess with you.
A Woman who Knows Her Worth
This woman knows her value, and she knows that she is high-value. Therefore, there are people and things that she absolutely will not settle for. Here are seven of these things.
1. Partners who don’t value her.
A woman who knows her worth won’t settle for some no-count loser who doesn’t treat her well. I’ve known women who did, though. And I’ve seen their partners degrade them and try to control them.
Insecure women think that they can change their no-good partners. Maybe they think that he has “potential.” Therefore, they tell themselves those lies to keep from being alone.
They tell themselves that the partner is just going through a rough patch. They fool themselves into thinking that, eventually, he’ll do better. Again, this is how they end up letting these toxic men drag them down.
But a woman who knows her worth will never date beneath her standards. She knows she’s better off alone than with some creep who wants to dominate her. Therefore, she won’t put up with shabby treatment to keep a partner around.
Instead, she’ll drop him and move on with her life. She knows that her time is valuable. Therefore, she doesn’t waste her time with a partner who doesn’t value her or the good she brings.
So, she won’t settle or continue a relationship with someone who disrespects her and takes her for granted. She’ll stay by herself until she finds someone who cherishes her.
2. A woman who KNOWS her worth doesn’t settle for a PARTNER who IS broke and jobless.
This woman won’t give her time to any guy who is broke, jobless, or working dead-end jobs.
Guys who are in and out of jail and who always have their women post bail for them are a definite no-go. This is because this woman is wise. She knows that this becomes a pattern for men like these.
Therefore, she won’t choose some scrub she’ll likely have to support. She won’t do like insecure women do and pay his bills and try to make life easier for them. No.
She wants a man who is responsible for his life and who can provide for her. Not some loser she’d have to spend all her hard-earned money to keep out of jail.
Instead, she’d rather be alone than put up with some lazy piece of crap who does nothing but keep her broke and stressed out.
Therefore, she won’t date someone who doesn’t have their shit together.
3. Friends who stab her in the back.
This woman chooses her friends wisely. She doesn’t settle for jealous frenemies who are secretly out to derail her from her goals.
She avoids backstabbers, mean girls, and shrews like the plague. Why? Because she’s dealt with many of them and has no desire to ever deal with these types of women again.
She knows that they would only drain her confidence, wreck her self-esteem, and suck the life out of her. Therefore, she has nothing to do with these broads.
4. A woman who knows her worth will never be a side-chick
This woman will never date a guy who’s already taken. Why? Because she knows that she is so much more than that. Therefore, she refuses to play second fiddle. No way will she pick up another woman’s sloppy seconds!
She knows that if she does, she’ll only set herself up to be the last choice in a man’s life. Therefore, she won’t settle for the crumbs under the table when she’s worthy of having the whole meal at the table.
She’s content to wait until a partner of her own finds her. Therefore, married men need not apply.
She’s smart enough to know that if a man will cheat on his wife, he’ll eventually cheat on her. Also, sleeping with another woman’s husband is the same as wearing her underwear. Ewww! Therefore, if a married man hits on her, she’ll quickly tell him to get lost.
There’s no dignity in being a side chick. This woman knows this. Therefore, she won’t reduce herself to that. No way will she cheapen herself by eating another woman’s leftovers.
5. Catty Women Who Bully her and drag her down.
It’s rarely the not-so-good women and butt-floss wearing females who get targeted for bullying? It seems that it’s mostly the girls who are discreet and have self-respect that people treat the worst.
But why?
The running narrative is that anything goes, and that showing belly, boobs, and butt is what it takes to get a man. However, here’s the reality. No guy worth his salt would even consider a long-term relationship, much less marriage, with such a woman.
Another reason is that many people believe that classy women are old-fashioned and boring. They prioritize the wrong things nowadays (attention, approval, admiration, and popularity).
So, they’re all for engaging in indecent behavior and stripping down to nothing if it will get them lots of those social benefits. Why? Because bullies are all about having followers who idolize and worship them as they sneer at others who aren’t ratchet like they are.
Here’s a third reason a woman who knows her worth might get bullied.
Because she’s a lady, and a good, classy, down-to-earth lady respects herself too much to kneel before anyone. On the other hand, the arrogant she-bullies are more than likely the butt-cheek baring, all-eyes-on-me, girls.
A woman who knows her worth doesn’t have to work so hard to get attention.
And a lady deems attention-seekers to be of the lowest common denominator. Therefore, such females aren’t worth her time, and the she-bullies know that and are angered by it.
Reason number four is that the ladies end up being the winners. They don’t have to resort to cheapening themselves to get male attention or to fit in. Moreover, they don’t accept attention from the cheap tomcats who crawl up behind the she-bullies.
The beautifully decorated, yet half-naked she-bullies are a dime a dozen. The she-bully only attracts the dogs. They draw the beta-men who only pose as alphas, and the cheap playboys who are only there to hit it, then quit it.
It’s the women who are ladies who attract the real men.
A lady is a keeper. She’s not a one-date wonder or a one-night stand. She knows she’s worth more than just her body. The lady doesn’t care what petty people think of her.
She doesn’t give a hoot that the she-bullies and their tomcats look down their noses at her because they don’t matter to her.
It is the lady, the once-bullied classy chick and good girl, who will score a high-value man. Why? Because she is a high-value woman.
A woman who knows her worth is a principled woman.
This lady will live a good life because she has good morals that she chooses to live by. And the morals they have are, in fact, so strong that they’re unchanged by the decaying society in which we unfortunately live.
Instead of fitting in by being half-naked, the lady will stand out by keeping her clothes on. This doesn’t mean she dresses like a nun, but she keeps it classy. And that’s why she’s already ahead of the game.
She-bullies are only good for a one-time roll in the sack. Ladies, on the other hand, are wife-for-life material.
They don’t let the desire to fit in cause them to relax their values, their morals, their beliefs, and their convictions. These women hold on to their standards.
Therefore, if you’re one of those women, you may be feeling lonely now. But the things about you that your bullies ridicule will be the very qualities that real people, with strong beliefs and values, will cherish. You just wait!
6. A job that drains her.
She won’t work for anyone who drains her energy and crushes her spirit. Toxic bosses will be surprised when she hands in her resignation. Bullying coworkers might feel relieved when she quits.
But that’s only because they were all afraid she’d make them look like the incompetent fools they are. And now they don’t have to worry about that.
7. A woman who knows her worth rejects anything that doesn’t fulfill her.
This woman will have nothing to do with anything or anyone who doesn’t fill her with purpose. She quickly discards what doesn’t feed her soul. She has no time for false friends, female bullies, backstabbers, abusive partners, and other toxic people.
Why? Because she loves herself and she knows her worth. She also knows that life is short and it’s a one-shot deal. Therefore, she does what she must do to make it count.
This post is all about the things that a woman who knows her worth WOULDN’T settle for so that you can follow her lead, snub the bullies, and live your best life.
Related posts you’ll enjoy:
1. Female Bullies: 7 Reasons They Bully Other Women and Girls
2. Catty Women: 5 Powerful Ways to Deal with Their Bullying
3. Know Your Worth As a Woman: 5 Rules to Live by
4. How to Deal with a Bullying Partner
5. Why You Should Love Yourself: 10 Things that Happen if You Don’t
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Aum Shanti
Thank you so much, Shanti!
This is my strongest advice for women and any female reading this listen to me. And any guys reading this think about how you treat your woman as well and any good dudes out there take a stand for women.
Here is my story. I had been previously married and after that ended I had dated a little but I just hated starting all over, trying to date, etc. So I meet someone and I think a lot of it came from the fact he pursued hard. So I got married again. And he did check some of the boxes rxcroy for one very overlooked red flag. He knew I was ambitious and independent and strong. I had goals. But he kind of had in his mind what a wife should be. He thought men should do most of the cooking and cleaning even though we both worked.
He was jealous of every male friend I had and accused me of flirting with them or vice versa. Many of these people had been childhood or most of adulthood friends. I found myself having to end either innocent phone, text or Social Media conversations when he got home and we never were discussing anything inappropriate.
And I loved being involved in things but all my career goals and hobby goals became an argument. There was no real support. On good days I got tolerance for a day but never any real support and if I was going to be gone when he was home or on a rare occasion needed to be out of town, all Hell was going to break loose.
And I defended it and him. I made excuses for jealousy and not being supportive. And I tried to pretend like it didn’t bother me. I started ignoring friends because he couldn’t deal with it and that started to include female friends too because I realized anyone who didn’t meet his approval, I was going to get grieve about. And….
I busted my ass to meet life and career goals and would get frustrated when things went no where or didnt move. It took years to realize it was never going to happen for me because it is hard to move when you have a “chain tied around your neck.”
This is what I learned and HEAR ME EVERYONE and that includes any man being held back by his woman as well. They either 100 percent support you or they don’t at all. If you want to be all you can be, stop that chain before it becomes too tight.
Your story is compelling, Kandi. I’m so sorry that your husband could not handle a powerful woman like you. And I’m sad that he treated you so terribly and tried to drag you down. A lot of men can’t handle a powerful woman because they want to dominate her instead of love her. Thank you so much for sharing this. I hope that eventually, you found the strength to get out and live life on your terms.
I definitely did! Thank you.
It was hard starting from scratch again. But I ultimately realized you can’t put a price on happiness and you are never going to be all you can be if someone or something is holding you back.
It required me having a hard conversation not just about relationships but a hard conversation within my own self. I think frankly in a historically male dominated society, women have allowed things to be indoctrinated into our brains that we know are wrong and use as a crutch to hold women back.
I’m so proud of you, Kandi! Sometimes you have to have those conversations with yourself when you’re in an abusive relationship. And in some situations, it takes getting really pissed off at yourself for allowing it in the first place before you finally gather the courage to leave. When I was in an abusive relationship, my then partner had dragged me down so low. I finally got angry at myself for allowing him to abuse me and letting it get that far out of control. I couldn’t pretend it was all his fault because it wasn’t. And once I got furious at myself, that’s when I dared to get out of the relationship. And I told him to get out of my house. I even helped him pack his things to speed things up because the sooner I could get him out of there, the better.
Once he was gone, I grieved, but I knew it was the best thing I ever did for myself, and once the sadness was over, I began rebuilding my life. Four years later, I married my late husband, who was an awesome partner before he died. My current husband is also a wonderful man. He loves me, treats me well, and takes care of me. And I love him so much.
I will tell you one of the issues I witness, well really two issues . One, I see a lot of women hating on one another being very petty and catty with one another. I have heard female bosses/directions state they would rather have male employees than female employees because of the constant drama. I don’t mean that to sound sexist. I just hear that all the time. My opinion, women who know their worth should never tolerate cattiness AND I would be so bold to say a woman who knows her worth would help empower other women who knows theirs as well.
Now let’s move on to the guys. Here’s the hypocrisy. Obviously there are some douche bag guys out there that just are mean to women period. But there is an underlying problem even with decent, relatively good guys as well. If you tell many decent males, are you okay if your wife makes more money than most guys you work with? He is going to say yes. Are you okay that your wife is independent? Oh I love her independence. Are you okay that your wife is more intelligence than many guys? Oh I love how smart she is. Are you okay that your wife is mentally or physically stronger than some guys? Oh I love how mentally tough or physically tough she is. Those are good supportive responses, right? Definitely not blatant chauvenistic or bullying behavior.
However, those same guys are okay with all those things UNLESS she makes more money than him! Its fine if she does compared to any other man just not him. He is okay with her independence toward others but don’t be too independent if it means he has to vacuum the floor or cook his own dinner on a regular basis. He is okay with her being really smart or really mentally strong or really physically strong unless that means she is smarter or stronger than he is. All of a sudden the ego takes over and often times he will passive-aggressively belittle her or try to hold her back and far too many times she will back down. Too many woman tolerate bullshit from their guy hoping to avoid a battle. Sometimes it is a battle that must be had.
A good test when it comes to gender stuff is this. If a woman tops a man in whatever it may be see how he handles it. Does he take it well or does he get overly defensive? Know your worth, be proud of your accomplishments.
Great points here, Bradley! I might use this as an idea for a future post.