‘Want to know about bullying and personal responsibility and why you should take responsibility for your own safety? Here are all the reasons you must know about.
Bullying and personal responsibility go hand in hand when victims and targets defend themselves against bullying. Why? Because they’re taking responsibility for their safety.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about bullying and personal responsibility and why you should take responsibility for your own safety instead of relying too much on someone coming to rescue you.
Once you learn all these important facts, you will feel free to stand up to bullies on your own if you’ve reported bullying and been ignored.
This post is all about bullying and personal responsibility so that you can stop depending on people in authority who refuse to help you and take control of the situation.
Bullying and Personal Responsibility
If you’re a target of bullying, you have every right to be angry. Your bullies have slowly, over time, stolen your life from you.
Moreover, they have brainwashed you into believing that you aren’t worthy of respect, love, or friendship. Moreover, they’ve sabotaged your ability to get a date and of having happiness and success.
In essence, they have psychologically and maybe even physically bludgeoned you. They may have even taken away your opportunities by the lies and rumors they spread to keep you down.
Bullies not only sabotage you relationships, they also wreak havoc on your opportunities and life-chances. They turn everyone against you. Moreover, these are people who would otherwise be good friends and associates.
Your bullies have sucked the life out of you. As a result, you’ve become a shell of your former self. All because your bullies have held you emotionally hostage for so many years
You’ve tried many time to report the bullying. However, most of the people who have the power to help you refuse to listen to you.
These people could be your teachers, principal, supervisor, or your HR manager. Whoever they are, they don’t want to help you. Or worse, they may have sided with the bullies and blamed you.
Therefore, isn’t it time that you got pissed and took your life back? Of course it is! However, you must use the anger constructively.
You see? Bullies are waiting for you to screw up. They know that sometimes, it’s too easy to do or say something out of emotion. And it can get you into a ton of trouble.
That’s what your bullies are looking for. Therefore, they push your buttons in hopes that you will react by doing/saying something foolish. Don’t give them that satisfaction.
Bullying and Personal Responsibility:
1. No one else is coming to rescue you. Your safety is on you.
Life is but a vapor and we only get one chance in this world. Therefore, it’s your responsibility to make that chance count.
If bullies make a derogatory statement to you. It’s up to you to counter that statement. Therefore, start today by countering every negative statement your bullies may throw at you.
Tell yourself that you are awesome. Also, tell yourself that you’re a trooper and you deserve much better than the shit people have been giving you.
Become a force to be reckoned with. Stand up and let these confidence thieves know that they have no control over your life and they no longer have an effect on you. Reclaim your power and do it NOW!
If you’re a victim of bullying, can you truly and totally rely on people in authority to help you? Can you rely on them to do something about the bullying you suffer?
Moreover, can you depend on them to hold your bullies accountable for their horrible behavior? Can you rely on others to bring you justice?
The answer is a resounding NO!
2. You cannot legislate bullying out of Bullies.
In other words, you cannot pass laws against it and think that it will go away. Passing laws against bullying will get a lot of innocent victims of it in trouble.
I used to be all about laws against bullying. And yes, the idea sounds great. I won’t pretend it doesn’t.
However, I’m beginning to gravitate away from making bullying a crime. Why? Because most people aren’t going to protect targets until it happens to them or one of theirs.
Bullying and Personal Responsibility:
3. Anti-Bullying policies aren’t worth the paper they’re printed on.
You cannot rely too much on policies. Why? Because they have no teeth!
Schools and workplaces, can write all the anti-bullying rules and policies they want. But, until they enforce those policies, they’re only as cheap as the ink and paper administrators use to make them.
In other words, what good are laws and policies if these entities don’t enforce them? And, at what point do we stop relying on the system to protect us and begin protecting ourselves?
Understand that, no matter what anyone says, you don’t have to put up with anyone else’s crap. Therefore, it’s up to you to stand up to bullies and do it properly.
And if defending yourself doesn’t work, you have the option to remove yourself from the situation and environment.
We Must Learn to Take Care of Ourselves
Here’s another reason I’m gravitating away from making bullying a crime. It’s because most seasoned bullies have ways of making innocent targets look like the bullies.
Therefore, if lawmakers make bullying an imprison-able crime, many innocent targets would end up behind bars. Because, again, bullies, especially those with NPD, have a flare for flipping the script and, very convincingly, painting their victim as the bad guy.
Too many targets have been conditioned to think that self-defense is wrong. It isn’t!
And the people who condition these victims are often bullies themselves. Therefore, if bullies target you for bullying, you must know your enemies. You must do a lot of study and research on bullies, then use the knowledge you gain to outmaneuver them.
Bullying and Personal Responsibility:
Do Your Own Investigation
Also, you must do your own investigation and gather your own evidence. That means detailed documentation.
Moreover, you may need to use the last resort and bust the bully in the mouth if all else fails and the bully tries to physically attack you. It’s the only way you can effectively defend yourself.
Remember! Most school officials, parents and even law enforcement don’t realize the daily horrors that victims endure.
Moreover, bullies are slick! They are experts at deceiving authority and making their victims looks like the guilty party.
It takes more than simply reporting incidences of bullying to school staff and authorities. Why? Because in most cases, people in power will only rebuff or blame you for the torment.
These are only a few reasons why it is so important that you keep a daily journal if you are ever targeted by bullies.
You Must Document Every Bullying Incident in Detail.
In other words, keep a daily journal and write down what happened in full detail. Moreover, when you write about it, use the 5W Method.
Bullying and Personal Responsibility:
What is the 5W Method?
When you use the 5W Method, you record what, who, when, where, and why. Sometimes, you must also record how it happened. The trick is to write down every detail you can.
Using the 5W Method helps you do that.
1. What
Write down what happened… in detail. Describe the attack exactly as it happened. Also, do it while it’s still fresh in your memory.
2. Who
Write down the names of the bullies – the people involved in the attack. Moreover, record the names of any bystanders and witnesses. These people will be anyone who is present when your bullies attack you.
3. When
Jot down the exact time, date when the provocation occurred.
4. Where
Write down the place the altercation occurred. For example, if the bullying attack happened at school, did it happen in the bathroom?
If so, write down that you were in the bathroom when it happened.
5. Why
If your bully attacked you because you reported a prior bullying incident, write that down. This is super important!
6. If need be, write down how it happened.
The more details you can give, the better!
Bullying and Personal Responsibility:
Record every Bullying incident, no matter how subtle.
Do this with every incident that takes place. Leave nothing out! Even if the attacks are seen as minor, such as snickering when you you walk in the room, you must still record it in your journal.
I can’t stress this enough- keep very detailed records of any taunts, threats and altercations no matter how small they may seem.
Journals are the best way for victims to protect themselves. Also, they’re admissible in court. Therefore, you’ll have a record to present to a judge if you need to take legal action.
When I was in school, I kept a journal of the bullying I suffered and I still have some of the material today. In fact, it helped me to write my book, “From Victim to Victor” and tell the story of how I was bullied by my classmates.
Keep your Bullying Journal Private.
This is a must! Bullies are notorious for snooping through their victim’s belongings. Also, they’ll destroy your property. Therefore, keep your journal at home and write in it as soon as you get home.
This should go without saying, you certainly wouldn’t want the wrong people to find it. Because, if they do, your bullies will destroy your evidence. Also, they will retaliate against you for having it in the first place.
Again, keep it at home!
Wear a Body Camera or Keep a Digital Recorder on you and record the bullying.
If the laws in your state allow, record the bullying in real time. Body cameras are best but if you only have a digital audio recorder, you can use it.
However, I would suggest that you check the laws of your state first. If you live in a one-party consent state, you’re free to record.
However, if you live in a two-party consent state. Don’t do it. If you do, your bullies and your school or company can come back and sue you for violation of privacy laws.
Bullying and Personal Responsibility:
Save any mean or threatening emails, Texts, social media posts, comments, or private messages on three or more different thumb Drives.
If bullies bully you at school or work, there’s a good chance they’ll stalk your social media pages, get your email address, and bully you online too.
Therefore, save everything on three or more different flash drives. Then, keep each flash drive in different places. The trick is to take precautions in case someone connected to your bullies breaks into your house to do a little snooping around.
This doesn’t happen often. However, it has happened and you want to take precautions.
In Conclusion
You are responsible for your safety. When you suffer bullying, it’s up to you to do your own investigation and gather your own evidence.
The last thing you should do is depend on anyone else. Report the bullying, yes. However, if the school or company doesn’t do anything about it. Then, you must do what you have to do to build your own case.
This post is all about bullying and personal responsibility so that you’ll know exactly what to do if you ever encounter bullying.
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